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Guest Gypsyfeenix

*sigh* - venting time....

I hate my job - our job, really,

We live and work onsite, and so really, we have no privacy. This makes it pretty dang difficult to work with transition. Our boss lives here too.

Soooooo...stupid me - my SO and I had...um...some problems here the last week or so. She has some pretty bad depression issues, and did some pretty severe stuff to herself. When I found out, it was the middle of the work day, and when I went back down to my desk my boss (her desk is in the office behind me) called me in and asked me what was wrong and if I was okay.

I burst into tears and told her about HoneyBunch's damage, though not the extent of it. The next thing I know, HoneyBunch is storming into the office and a big conversation ensued.

The crappy thing it that this...this....WOMAN has always maintained that she talks to us as *mimes lifting a hat off my head* a friend - boss hat off, so to speak. I left feeling like poo, and I know HoneyBunch also felt horrible, but we thought she would have some discretion. Apparently not.

Sooooo recently, we signed the contract for our promotion and move to another location. Good thing, right?

The District Manager emails us yesterday telling us:

"I have heard that the stress of the promotion maybe too much for you. I am not judging. I don't want you to feel lost or without options and I don't want you to fail and end up with no job so if you want to stay as you are you just need to let me know. If you choose to take the promotion you need to ensure a professional image and follow the grooming standard for managers in the employee handbook."

I was like, WHAAAA????

Then I thought that dirty, blabbermouth so an so.....how dare she talk to us under the guise of friendship (which she has always said that she was) and rat us out to the District that way??

I shouldn't be surprised, though. She doesn't want to lose us. We are the only staff that knows what's going on. The rest of the bunch remind me of a poorly drawn Keystone Cops. No one knows what's going on here. Even her - she's so out of touch that she would need to install a satellite in order to have a clue. She has always shown herself to be a nasty, vindictive person - prides herself on it. She told me on more than one occasion that she has the power to blackball anyone in this field if they cross her. She sounded so gleeful when she said it, too.

I keep going back to two lines. "...if you want to stay where you are....." and "...you need to ensure a professional image..."

If I wanted to stay here, I should be looking not for a new job, but a qualified therapist because this place is toxic. And what the he!! about the image thing??? This complex boasts a short, antagonistic frenchman who wears a headband that should have been retired in 1984, and other members of this stellar team that only have a full set of teeth if they are all standing in the same room.. I mean...COME ON, NOW!

For the last four and a half years, she has kept me under a leash of fear, because I've been afraid to look for work elsewhere based on the lines she's been feeding me.

We smoothed it over with the District Manager by basically saying that the place was falling down and pooh-poohing it, and blamed all of our stress on this place and the boss.

I'm still so very upset. I want to tell this fat, lazy *CUSSWORD* off, and be done with it, but because it is a transfer within the company, I can't. So frustrated.

I'm actually really surprised that HoneyBunch is being so calm about the whole thing. She is the one kind of calming me down this time...sorry for the vent. I'm obsessing. :)

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Guest Robin Winter

You're not the only one surprised that I'm so calm about this. I was freaking out at first. I think it's because it's starting to look like the "dirty, blabbermouth so an so" isn't being taken as seriously as she used to. I don't think she has a firm grasp on all the strings any more.

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Guest Gypsyfeenix

Valid, Hun.

Of course when you open your mouth and the stuff that comes out of it resembles the same stuff you find in cow pastures it kind of shows her to be the person she is...

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Eventually their own toxicity catches up with people like her. If you remain calm and rational all the time then she looks crazy or vindictive -or both.

But a confrontation with her would be unwise as you have said. Just let her hang herself and when she is mentioned damn her with faint praise. Once you two have moved on and it all falls apart then it will be obvious. At that point you just mention how hard she TRIES. Not works or succeeds. Just tries. Others will figure out what that means. Unless your district is incompetent. Which hopefully isn't the case. You come out looking loyal and competent and she falls flat. Sweet revenge.

But so sorry to hear it has been so bad.

I hope the new position is a start to a much brighter future for you both.

Johnny

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Guest Gypsyfeenix

Ah, John....always the calm, soothing voice of reason....lol.

I agree. I've been saying that all along. Heck, she nominated me for an award ( I won :P) last year, and everyone likes me here. I've even been mentioned on Yelp..lol.

I find it funny that she is grasping at straws right now, and it feels like she's trying to sabotage us in this regard. We just have to keep cool.

:)

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I'm sure you will be able to move on if you can simply let her continue to hang herself. Who knows maybe she will end up being backed right out before she knows it.

Try to stay calm and let the water run off your back. I know its hard but the poison in your mind hurts you more than her. Try to let it go. I actually have learned to pray for the folks who get on me. It makes me feel so much better if i can think about them as fellow humans with a problem that can be helped.

Hugs,

Charlie

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Guest Gypsyfeenix

I'm sure you will be able to move on if you can simply let her continue to hang herself. Who knows maybe she will end up being backed right out before she knows it.

Try to stay calm and let the water run off your back. I know its hard but the poison in your mind hurts you more than her. Try to let it go. I actually have learned to pray for the folks who get on me. It makes me feel so much better if i can think about them as fellow humans with a problem that can be helped.

Hugs,

Charlie

Can you throw a few prayers our way, sis?

I have a feeling that we'll need a few.

As of right now, I'm walkin and talkin like a duck, chickadee ;)

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Guest Sarah Faith

Eugh thats awful Gypsie, I hope that you two are able to get out of such a toxic environment. Some people are just two-faced by nature and if you were to blow up at this woman she would just turn it around and use it against you. Like the others suggested don't play her game and let her sink her self, people like that almost always sink them selves eventually.

I'm glad that at least you have a place to vent here with us. :)

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Guest Gypsyfeenix

Eugh thats awful Gypsie, I hope that you two are able to get out of such a toxic environment. Some people are just two-faced by nature and if you were to blow up at this woman she would just turn it around and use it against you. Like the others suggested don't play her game and let her sink her self, people like that almost always sink them selves eventually.

I'm glad that at least you have a place to vent here with us. :)

Me too....I've been kvetching about it since it happened. :)

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Guest JazzySmurf

I'm sorry you're having a dumpy time with work... I hope that you two navigate it well :-) Def sending bestest wishes your way, hugsss

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Guest Robin Winter

All seems well. We moved on Saturday to the new building, and finally got our internet and phone back today. We take over the property officially on the 9th of April ^_^ The apartment is fantastic! We haven't unpacked yet and it's super cluttered, but it feels like home. No more leaving the apartment to do laundry!!!

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Guest Mia J

I am so glad to hear that. So do you think that this woman was doing what she did to prevent you from moving so she could keep you at the other place and under her control?

Mia

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Guest Gypsyfeenix

I am so glad to hear that. So do you think that this woman was doing what she did to prevent you from moving so she could keep you at the other place and under her control?

Mia

Yes, yes and yes. She is a control freak. You are very correct, Mia... :(

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Guest Robin Winter

Absolutely she was. Now she's lashing out the only way she can, she's working us like dogs during our final week there. We're on call three nights this week, and there's more than enough staff to cover so we shouldn't have to work more than two of those at most, and she's dumping as much office stuff as she can on Libbie. She's been snotty to us the past few days too.

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Hang on guys your almost out and into a better situation. Try to leave as cleanly and nicely as possible. It is hard to let the anger go but a pleasant goodbye can really help. Then you can hang up a dartboard for awhile if you have to but leaving unpleasantness behind may be the best.

Congratulations and well done!

Hugs,

Charlie

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While I hate quoting (or misquoting) the bible, but, show kindness to those who oppress you, you will heap burning coals atop there heads. Of course I am paraphrasing, so if I got it wrong, please correct me.

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Guest Gypsyfeenix

While I hate quoting (or misquoting) the bible, but, show kindness to those who oppress you, you will heap burning coals atop there heads. Of course I am paraphrasing, so if I got it wrong, please correct me.

You go ahead and quote away, my friend :)

I agree - another way of saying it is "Kill her with kindness"....lol.....

Seems to be working. She's more snippy and annoyed than I've ever seen her, lol..

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Guest Mia J

She is snippy because you are not responding to her game of trying to get you to do something that may hurt your transfer. Both of you are so above all of this and it will show as you move on.

I have worked for a few people like that and they always are the ones who never go anywhere.

Mia

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Guest Gypsyfeenix

She is snippy because you are not responding to her game of trying to get you to do something that may hurt your transfer. Both of you are so above all of this and it will show as you move on.

I have worked for a few people like that and they always are the ones who never go anywhere.

Mia

You are completely right.

She made a point of sending an email to Head Office and citing how much she would "miss me terribly in the office".

Pfft. Bovine.

I wouldn't roll my eyes so much if she hadn't insisted on reading the dang email out loud to me....

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