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Guest Felicia Anne

um, hello...

My name (femme) is Felicia Anne. I was born genetically male, and have been struggling with crossdressing and gender questions since I was 6. I have a desire to stop hiding who I am inside, and to embrace the female part of me, but there is a lot I need to overcome. Issues range from financial and privacy, to passability and self-confidence.

One of my closest friends (who knows this side of me) recommended I try this site for help and support. I am a skittish girl right now, and I'm probably going to become a turtle in a moment. But I wanted to say hello to everyone first...

Hi!

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Guest Elizabeth K

Nooooo turtles allowed! Hey - welcome home!!! you are with friends!

WELCOME-WELCOME-WELCOME

I am exactly like you - well, maybe not so meek. But I am MTF - I cross dressed for years and hid-hid-hid it all away... and now I am finally at peace.

Laura's will help you. We are G-rated (Laura say G-13 - but I don't know 'bout that!) We NEVER judge. We ALWAYS listen.

So look around - and ask a meek little question or two - ha! Kidding! Any question will do - well read the guidelines - and anyone her will help you out in a New York Second! (is time didfferent in New York? Donno)

Anyway - others will be along soon...

Yea Felicia Anne

My nane Elizabeth Anne is grounded on the Anne - such a wonderful history on that.

Lizzy

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Hello,

Felicia Anne, what a lovely name.

Don't be shy come on in and sit by the fire, I'll get you some coco and cookies, the food fire and chairs may be virtual but the welcome is real.

It's just a way to let you know that you are among friends now and you can relax.

We are like a family here and we want to help each other and support each other.

Feel free to wonder around the forums, ask quetions, post comments and feel right at home.

As the day goes by a lot of really great peepl are goint o drop in to say hi, until then, welcome to the playground

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Donna Jean

Well, that was close! {whew!}

Anyway, like my two friends said ...we are a family here. This is the absoutely bestest site on the web for us and it is very safe!! So don't be a turtle...do talk to us and get to know everyone..you'll find them friendly and smart and ...the BIG one...caring!

Hope to see you around a lot!

Now...I have to watch out for other moderators,,almost a crash.. :lol:

XXOO

Donna Jean

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I just found the mini marshmallows, would you like some?

Enjoy the people here, we sometimes use humor to make it through some of the harder topics, but we can be serious whenever we need to be.

Have seconds if you like, you are among friends and virtual food has no calories.

Love ya,

Sally

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It is OK to come out of the corner, the fire is really not that big considering how cold it is today.

I'll let you have my recliner, but I must warn you - it is evil and will cause you to fall asleep and miss something important.

Love ya,

Sally

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That's it, hold the cup in both hands it warms you quicker that way.

I'm going to have to step out for a while a little unfinished leagl business with my ex, but I will be back this evenig, so if you do fall asleep in that chair I'll wake you up.

Doesn't this place feel warm and friendly?

I'll let you in on a little secret - it seems warm and friendly, because it is! :)

Enjoy your stay, I'll just freshen that coco before I leave.

By the way you are just one more post away from using the PM system so if you have a question that you are just too shy to ask in the generl forums, feel free to send me a PM, I work near my computer most of the time and I check in pretty often so I will answer just as soon as I can.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Felicia Anne

"thank you sally... and the chair looks nice..."

(sitting in the chair, half expecting the chair to bite me)

(it didn't bite me! it's nice!)

"...thank you!..."

(starting to relax just a little bit...)

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You do realize that when I get back I will want my chair back, it's on loan not a gift. I'm friendly but not that friendly, I like my recliner!

Love ya,

Sally

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It's yours till I get back, Ill toss another log on the fire and I'm gone for a while.

Relax and have a great time.

Love ya,

Sally

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Welcome Felicia! The people here are so great! Your going to love it, there is nothing like the kind of support Laura's offers. Oh, and yeah, there are a few hot guys too, as you have found out... Xo!

Misa

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Guest Kelly Ann

Hi Felicia Anne...all turtles are protected here in Florida as an endangered species so skynet blasts any vehicles approaching at too fast a speed>=< Welcome to the Forums...hmmm...the natives are extreemly playful and out in numbers tonight. Is it a full moon or are they all just experiencing the dreaded 'cabin fever'...mawah ha ha ha haaaaaaaa...Kelly Ann

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Welcome Felicia Anne :) I see you stopped by my thread before I got to yours, such poor manners I have. I'm only on my third cup of cocoa so you'll have to pardon the one-handed attempt at a *hug* I hope we both have a lovely time here, everyone seems nice.

@Misa - grrrrr

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Guest Felicia Anne

thank you, misa... thank you, kelly ann... wow, everyone here is so friendly... i thought this place would be like everywhere else, where no one wanted me around... but this place... it's beautiful!

(smiling a little more now... less shy...)

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Hey Felicia, I'm back but you can keep my chair for a few mnutes more while I straighten things up a bit.

You seem yo have been a busy lady while I was gone.

Love ya,

Sally

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