Don't be so critical of yourself

[Guest LizMarie]

Trans folks are not the only ones who view themselves too critically. Other people do too. This video has a forensic artist doing sketches of people based on their own perception of themselves and then another sketch based on the perceptions of people who had just met that person. People see others much more positively than we believe about ourselves, and this is not just of trans folk but of everyone. I hope everyone here can take away good positive thoughts from this, particularly about yourself.

http://www.upworthy.com/you-dont-need-a-man-to-tell-you-youre-beautiful-a-forensic-artist-though

[Guest Sarah Faith]

Thanks for sharing that Liz! I know that I'm way more critical of my self then others are, I nit pick about stuff that when I point them out to other people they look at me like I'm insane and ask what I'm even talking about.

[Guest Bellexia]

Awww that was sweet. I feel like that sometimes, that if I ever said something good about myself karma would come back at me. Every person I've talked to outside the anons of the internet have said I just need more esteem. I guess they are right. Most people see us as different than we see ourselves. They don't see me as the hateful monster troll under the bridge that I see myself as. Maybe some but those people can go suck an egg.

[Guest Mia J]

Thanks for posting. This is so true. We tend to see ourselves as less than others see us.

Mia

[Guest Alicia Rose]

That video was awesome.. thanks for sharing! That concept behind the video was amazing.

[Guest]

I started the picture on the left in my mirror. I am now the picture on the right. HRT was only a tiny portion. Make-up is a little bit in play too. I have had no surgical modifications. Quite a few spiritual modifications. Ok, what's my beauty secret? Giggle. I light up my smile, love people with intensity, let out my female confidence for all to see. Oh and wear my life like a beautiful, loose, flowing blouse. And for those who glare at me, my best Hellen Keller. Can't see them, can't hear them, therefore they can't be there!. A smile, a wave goodbye! I mentally drop them in the trash on the way out. New friends are on the way! I just have to remember that it is just their miserable existance not mine. We have everything to be proud of! We dance, we don't march in step.

I have no corner on the market. Give it a try! You won't want your misery refunded. Hug. JodyAnn

PS---Oh yes of course, I have been accused of being over-zealous! LOL! JA

[Guest Dezi]

This video was wonderful. Thanks so much for sharing it!

[Guest rikkicd64]

I started the picture on the left in my mirror. I am now the picture on the right. HRT was only a tiny portion. Make-up is a little bit in play too. I have had no surgical modifications. Quite a few spiritual modifications. Ok, what's my beauty secret? Giggle. I light up my smile, love people with intensity, let out my female confidence for all to see. Oh and wear my life like a beautiful, loose, flowing blouse. And for those who glare at me, my best Hellen Keller. Can't see them, can't hear them, therefore they can't be there!. A smile, a wave goodbye! I mentally drop them in the trash on the way out. New friends are on the way! I just have to remember that it is just their miserable existance not mine. We have everything to be proud of! We dance, we don't march in step.

I have no corner on the market. Give it a try! You won't want your misery refunded. Hug. JodyAnn

PS---Oh yes of course, I have been accused of being over-zealous! LOL! JA

Jody, I also use the same beauty secret and am still amazed as how people react to me in such a positive manner. I love your analogy of you wearing your life like a beautiful, loose, flowing blouse, I am going to steal that if you don't mind, for that is how I feel. I don't think you are over-zealous, I think your like me, you love yourself and you love life, you love people and you are down right happy.

Hugs from Texas, Rikki......

[KathrynJulia]

Great Video Liz

So much of the despair we here on the forums here are due to someone baring their soul unhappy with their appearances. You got to believe that one day all will work out. Take care everyone and keeping pushing with a goal in mind. Nock down the obtables one at a time, babystep by babystep. I know what I want. I've spent my entire life planning it all out. Walls be warned, I'm coming through. Kathryn

[Guest Gypsyfeenix]

Trans folks are not the only ones who view themselves too critically. Other people do too. This video has a forensic artist doing sketches of people based on their own perception of themselves and then another sketch based on the perceptions of people who had just met that person. People see others much more positively than we believe about ourselves, and this is not just of trans folk but of everyone. I hope everyone here can take away good positive thoughts from this, particularly about yourself.

http://www.upworthy.com/you-dont-need-a-man-to-tell-you-youre-beautiful-a-forensic-artist-though

[Guest Katie430]

I really needed this tonight. Thanks so much for posting it. Having a really bad day today....and this makes me .

Thanks!
Katie

[Guest]

I started the picture on the left in my mirror. I am now the picture on the right. HRT was only a tiny portion. Make-up is a little bit in play too. I have had no surgical modifications. Quite a few spiritual modifications. Ok, what's my beauty secret? Giggle. I light up my smile, love people with intensity, let out my female confidence for all to see. Oh and wear my life like a beautiful, loose, flowing blouse. And for those who glare at me, my best Hellen Keller. Can't see them, can't hear them, therefore they can't be there!. A smile, a wave goodbye! I mentally drop them in the trash on the way out. New friends are on the way! I just have to remember that it is just their miserable existance not mine. We have everything to be proud of! We dance, we don't march in step.

I have no corner on the market. Give it a try! You won't want your misery refunded. Hug. JodyAnn

PS---Oh yes of course, I have been accused of being over-zealous! LOL! JA

Jody, I also use the same beauty secret and am still amazed as how people react to me in such a positive manner. I love your analogy of you wearing your life like a beautiful, loose, flowing blouse, I am going to steal that if you don't mind, for that is how I feel. I don't think you are over-zealous, I think your like me, you love yourself and you love life, you love people and you are down right happy.

Hugs from Texas, Rikki......

Rikki, it is heartwarming that I don't flap my chops for nothing. Giggle, no, way giggle! Yes, you may quote any of my Jodyisms as your own. You have me pegged completely. I'm so glad you love your new life too. My life is such a joy, I don't want to waste a minute of it. Hug. JodyAnn