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In about 30 minutes from now I will be coming out to the first person ever outside of my therapist and wife. She is a friend but only as a work frien not social, but I feel I can come out to her. A little apprehensive so please send out positive vibes to give me strength and courage. I'll let you know how it goes.

Sophia

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You have those vibes and thoughts from me. Along with a big hug and wishes for the very best outcome. So far I have always been surprised at how much better people have reacted than I anticipated. Hope you find the same

Johnny

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I hope everything works out Sophia. Don't be surprised if word gets around at the office. I found out word got around when I told a close friend at work, even though she told me she wouldn't say anything. People may not intend to gossip, it just slips out.

Jenny

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Guest Kendra K

Hoping it goes well for you Sophia. I came out to a coworker last year at this time and she was my first person ever. It went really well. She was talking about how her brother is gay and was supportive of it, so that made my decision a heck of a lot easier. Trouble is she moved away, so that stinks. Good luck! :)

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Guest Sarah Faith

Goodluck Sophia, I'm hoping it all works out for the best for you. You're already very brave to have made this decision, coming out is never easy especially the first time but I know you can do it. ;)

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Guest sophia.gentry58

JJ, Lexi, and Jenni thank you, thank you, thank you for your absolute positive vibes. Although I felt that if anyone at my workplace could handle the news of my transsexuality it would be her, still you just never know how folkes will react. I eased in to by talking about a client that we both shared in treating so as not to just drop a bombshell on her. Thursdays are our non-client days so I spent an hour and forty-five minutes sharing with this cis woman who about me and my desire to transition to be a complete woman and she totally accepted me without judgement.

She insisted that I not keep my issues to my therapist and think a once-a-week fifty-minute session is going to be enough to get out of me all of what has been locked inside of me for 54 years of virtually no one else knowning about me except me. She was so warm and accepting that I don't know why I didn't do it sooner. We talked about becoming girl friends and taking me shopping and teaching me all the nuances to womanhood. I am so happy and relieved you just cannot imagine. When I get back from my annual training next month we talked about going to Dallas and spending the night in order to take our time and do our shopping. Gee! I'm all gidding inside. :D

Sophia

I know this could have gone the other way, but not to be without a plan one reason I wanted to tell one person is that if I learned anything is that if you want to keep a secret then you must keep it to yourself. So, from a passive aggressive stance I felt that before I announce it to the entire staff I let it filter out through the grapevine network.

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Goodluck Sophia, I'm hoping it all works out for the best for you. You're already very brave to have made this decision, coming out is never easy especially the first time but I know you can do it. ;)

Thank you Sarah for your vote of confidence; I appreciate you!

Sophia

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Hoping it goes well for you Sophia. I came out to a coworker last year at this time and she was my first person ever. It went really well. She was talking about how her brother is gay and was supportive of it, so that made my decision a heck of a lot easier. Trouble is she moved away, so that stinks. Good luck! :)

Thank you so much Kendra; everything worked out superbly with my co-worker, even better than I had hoped. I do hope she has no plans to move away. :)

Sophia

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You bring back memories honey :)

I stared coming out to friends and family in Spring, 2011. Today I am transparent and authentically myself.

I'm so happy it worked out for you like it did for me...

Best wishes

Michelle

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Guest JazzySmurf

Hey, congratulations!!! :-) Can I send out more positive vibes for all future coming out experiences? You totally deserve all the best :-)

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That's wonderful, Sophie. I'm sure that you're relieved. Sounds like your co-worker is positive about it too.

:thumbsup:

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Guest sophia.gentry58

You bring back memories honey :)

I stared coming out to friends and family in Spring, 2011. Today I am transparent and authentically myself.

I'm so happy it worked out for you like it did for me...

Best wishes

Michelle

Hugs to you Michelle, thank you!

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Guest sophia.gentry58

Hey, congratulations!!! :-) Can I send out more positive vibes for all future coming out experiences? You totally deserve all the best :-)

Yes, yes, yes Sam; send me all the vibe you can mustard. Thank you so much!

Sophia

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Guest sophia.gentry58

That's wonderful, Sophie. I'm sure that you're relieved. Sounds like your co-worker is positive about it too.

:thumbsup:

Hi Gennee, you're right I am relieved. My co-worker was more positive than I could have hoped.

Sophia

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Your outcome made me grin ear to ear. I have been amazed again and again by how accepting and supportive people have been.

It sounds like you are being very wise about your disclosure and following a course I have seen succeed for others here time and again

May all your disclosures meet the same acceptance!

Johnny

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Sophia. I did not get a chance to read your topic until today. I am so happy for you that all went well. I once read that a good friend will come bail you out of jail, but a true friend will be setting there next to you saying man that was fun. I believe you have a true friend in somene when they understand you and are willing to except you no matter what. I wish you nothing but luck, and happiness in your journey toward femininity. Love Amber L.

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Guest sophia.gentry58

Your outcome made me grin ear to ear. I have been amazed again and again by how accepting and supportive people have been.

It sounds like you are being very wise about your disclosure and following a course I have seen succeed for others here time and again

May all your disclosures meet the same acceptance!

Johnny

Thanks Johnny, It's good to know that one 's course of action is borne out of wisdom.

Sophia

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Guest sophia.gentry58

Sophia. I did not get a chance to read your topic until today. I am so happy for you that all went well. I once read that a good friend will come bail you out of jail, but a true friend will be setting there next to you saying man that was fun. I believe you have a true friend in somene when they understand you and are willing to except you no matter what. I wish you nothing but luck, and happiness in your journey toward femininity. Love Amber L.

Thank you Amber, I do look forward to reaching my goal for full femininity.

Sophia

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