And then there were two

[Guest Gekko]

So today was a very emotional day for me. My GD was really bothering me, and my husband knew something wasn't right. I was very depressed. He stayed home from work to make sure I was alright. We went out to dinner with our daughter (15 months old) and played some games. The whole time, I was contemplating how to tell him what's been bothering me. After I put the baby down for the night, we sat on the sofa and watched a movie. Right as the end credits started rolling, I told him I needed to talk to him. I stuttered a lot, and started crying. He asked if I cheated. He said if that was it, we could work through it. That's when I said it. I looked him in the eyes, and said "I think I'm transgender." I was expecting him to flip out, and tell me to get out of the house. The complete opposite happened. He asked "Is that it? That's what's been bothering you?" While he didn't completely understand everything I was trying to tell him, he was very accepting and supportive.

I told him I need to see a gender therapist as my next step. I explained how I would have the option to start HRT, and that's where he started getting concerned. His main concern was why I would want to put chemicals into my body. Then, he brought up having another kid. I definitely wouldn't mind having one more kiddo, so he doesn't have to worry about that. He asked me if I would be content just dressing like a guy. Trying to make light of everything, he said "You already look like more of a guy than some guys I know!" THIS is why I love my husband!

Anyways, we went on to talk a lot, and he is being VERY supportive of me. We decided I won't be telling anybody else until I've been seeing a therapist for a bit. My dad and his family are extremely conservative, so my best interest is to keep quite. Getting everything off my chest tonight felt absolutely amazing. I feel completely renewed. There is no more heaviness on my chest. I actually can't stop grinning.

Now, it's time to finish my hot chocolate and head to bed. I'm eager to wake up to a new start.

[Guest]

Good for you Kiddo! remember that patience can be key. Learn and grow. Holding back the pace a little will help love keep up and be on the same page for both of you. Luck! Hug. JodyAnn

[Guest RockmtalQueen]

You are quite lucky to have a supportive hubby. Here's hoping things work out with the conservative family

/hugs

Lexi ^^

[Guest -guest-]

Holding back the pace a little will help love keep up

That's such a great way to express it, JodyAnn.

[Charlize]

I'm so happy that he has such a great attitude! Therapy will help. My Gt was great and perhaps because of her i was able to keep my marriage going as well. i'm glad you are doing that as well. The idea of another child might be the hardest. My wife and i lost a child and i am so glad we had two. The pain of the loss is at least tempered by the beauty and love of our grandchildren. It could be worth a few months wait or there may be another way.

Enjoy the support of the man who loves you! We are here and help each other as well so feel free to vent as you wish.

I remember telling my wife that if she were to change gender i would be the best wife i could be.

Hugs,

Charlie

[Guest Angel Heart]

good job and congrats Gekko! that is very wonderful

[JenniferB]

I am glad things have worked out so far Gekko. I pray that it continues. I'm sure there will be rocky patches along the way, but it appears you have a very loving husband and everything will work out.

A major hurdle down, and one step closer to becoming your true self.

{{{Hugs}}}

Jenny

[Guest Claire-G]

So good to read about supporting spouses (if that's how you say it) I have a mrs like that!

[Guest Sarah Faith]

That's fantastic Gekko, it sounds like you have someone who really loves you. That first step of coming out to the ones we love from my experience is the hardest, but also one of the most liberating, I'm hoping for the best for both of you! I hope you keep us updated too.

Hugs,

Sarah

[Guest angels wings]

Hello matey what great news to share . I'm so happy you now have peace in your heart a supportive partner and a smile on your face . Keep smiling matey .

Remember to always communicate and keep loving and hugging . We are here for you through out your journey where ever the road may lead you . Also we have a partners forum if your husband would like to join , he is more than welcomed .

Angel

[Guest LizMarie]

That's very good news! Congratulations!

[Guest Gekko]

Thank you very much, everybody! So far, everything is still great. We haven't really even talked about it since the other night, but he still kisses me when leaving for work and tells me he loves me. I'm still in complete awe of his support. I called a GT, and I'm just waiting for a call back to set up an appointment. Fingers crossed I can get in soon!