What am i ?

[Guest Skandy]

Goodmorning , i m writing here to understand what i am and what i can do to be happy whit my self .....

u know some times i feel good to be a guy other times my only wish is to become a girl ..... im so confused i don't know what i am .....

ps sorry for my bad english

[Guest angels wings]

Hello Skandy welcome to Laura's

Many who are travelling this journey don't know who they are the confusion can cause a lot of stress . The best thing to do wold be to see a gender therapist , they can help you discover more about yourself and guide you in what ever choices you need to make . It's a process try not to be hard on yourself and enjoy you just the way you are .

We have an introduction forum where if you like you can write a small I too of yourself there . This allows others to welcome you also .

And don't be sorry your your English is very understandable I had no problems reading your topic . Relax and enjoy , looking forward to getting to know you Skandy

Angel

[Guest Skandy]

tanks so much Angel for me its very important speak whit someone about that

[Guest angels wings]

You are welcome Definitely it is very important you deserve to discover more about yourself and feel comfortable with who you are .

Take care and look after yourself lovey

Angel

[Guest Guest_]

Hi Skandy: I like your name. I like you was confused for a very long time. More than 50 years. I can say that I do not know where I would be now if it had not been for Laura, the Moderators, and the wonderful people here. It is one of the hardest things going through life not knowing who you are. There is so much knowledge, experience, kindness, and understanding here at the playground. Please dont worry yourself, Everyone here is here to help you on your journey. Enjoy yourself and who you are. Hugs to you. Amber L.

[Guest Skandy]

tanks so much i so happy to have found someone to talk about my situation

u know i don't know what i want and what i am also bc its all so strange u know im not attracted from male but only from transgender pre op and girls but at the sametime there are a lot of moments during my life in wich my only wish is to become a girl and other times i like the guy that i am ..... so confused

[Guest endlessummer]

Hi Skandy!

I know how bad it sometimes feels to be so confused. But first of all you are YOU, an individual unique person.

Take your time, I think time is important. No stress, no pressure... you're in the right place here. su con la vita!

endlessummer

[JJ]

No matter how we end up labeling or identifying I think many of us go through these feelings. I know I thought for awhile I might be bi-gendered but in time realized much of what I liked about being female was because I needed to in order to survive. They were learned things that dropped away. We are socialized to like this and be that as a particular gender and I think it;s nothing short of a miracle and absolute proof of the brain configuration origin of this condition that we do manage to still change genders in some cases. But not all. When I read posts like this I remember the times I got so tired of feeling different today than I did yesterday-or in some cases even different in the morning than the afternoon. For me it lead to a realization I am and have always been male and I needed to embrace that. For you it may be otherwise.

But the really important thing is to give yourself permission to be whatever you are. To embrace and celebrate who you are no matter what or who that is. People can label objects-rocks for instance -because we can scientifically test them and understand where each fits and put it in that box. But we lack the knowledge or understanding -the judgment or testing equipment to do that with human beings. We just don't really fit in neat little boxes with labels all the time. Some do. They are lucky. Many, many don't. Some who don't still make themselves fit in the box and live lives of quiet misery. But I think the real key is learning to accept that who you are is fine. Is good and you have the right to just be you. That can get to be a bit of a challenge as far as answering what seems like a simple question like gender but I think it's worth the price of an occasional puzzled reaction or detailed explanation. What are you? You are first and foremost just you. And in time as long as you are open to it and keep looking you will come to understand who and what that is.

Fundamentally anyway because we are also fluid and lots changes from day to day and year to year whether it's gender related as with some people or just how we express other aspects of our personalities. To grow is to change.

Johnny

[Guest Skandy]

Thank u so much to all u r helping me a lot

[Guest miss kindheart]

No one can really tell you what or who u are

Some might try , but you are the only one with all the pieces of that puzzel

A thearipist can help you reach inside yourself and discover the answer

But cannot just tell you

Good luck sweet heart

<<<< hug >>>>

vanna

PS We prefer that members see a therapist about gender issues. Gender issues can be complex and have life threatening consequences. If you do not have a therapist please consult our list of therapists: http://lauras-playground.com/gender_therapists.htm

[Guest Skandy]

Ty Vanna :)