Granted access to a different world

[Guest Deenah]

Hi everyone,

What a great few weeks it has been,i have to get to work soon so i'll get right to the point.

I was out and about the other day with a girlfriend of mine.We were just walking around the city chatting and checking things out. Out of the blue she says..wow i have to say that I'm jealous of you. I'm like say what? why? She goes... You were such a skinny person before you started you're Hrt thing,and now as i look at your body I'm jealous.I guess i didn't notice how much different i look,but from her eyes i have gotten very attractive. She's like gees i wish i had a butt like you.. I started laughing and noticed in here face that she was more then serious when she said she was jealous of me.I didn't really know what to say without sounding stuck on myself because it really did seem that she was hurt inside..Does that make sense? It was a great feeling having someone say this to me,but i can't help but wonder what she was really feeling inside.Like i said,it looked like she was hurt by my progress.I don't know how to take it,nor what to say when or if this conversation comes up again.

The day before yesterday she calls me up,we chat for a bit about random things.After a few minutes she says that i am invited to ###'s house with her and ##### #####,#####,#####. I was shocked because these are women that i tried to talk to the first few months of HRT and they wouldn't give me the time of day.Now it's like i was invited into there world..The secret club,the members only group. I know by talking to my friend that there nice women,but I'm wondering why the sudden change of heart? why can i now be part of there lives? These are people that i have stayed clear of my entire life,but as life goes on,and the challenge of finding cis women that approve of trans women i can't help but associate with them in hopes of developing new friendships... So as you can see,it has went from one odd thing happening to another... I need some input here...

Have a great Day!!

[Charlize]

It sounds good dear and i wouldn't worry about the invite. By the way women flatter each other all the time. I've gotten used to telling someone that i love their earrings, or skirt, or that their scarf looks pretty. I do stay away from the butt compliments unless i know them well enough.

I would just enjoy and relax. You may have some friends now. I have been welcomed into the "club" now as well and it feels so good to be on the girls side of the room where i've always belonged.

Hugs,

Charlie

[Guest rikkicd64]

I too have been welcomed into "the club" and I love it. Like Charlie said,this is where I have always belonged, I am one happy camper!

Rikki....

[Guest Billie De]

Congratulations.. Yes take it with a grain of salt and just enjoy the complements.. I too am just starting to enjoy the other side.. As Bill I never had anyone text or call to see what I'm doing or to just chat.. The first few times I was taken back and was wondering .. Ok what do they want.. Then I started to realize,,,,,The girls were trying to be my friend.. Almost Cried,, Never had that in my life..

[Carolyn Marie]

I'm not going to try to guess at the cause of your friend's "jealousy" comments, since i don't know her. I wouldn't worry too much about it, though. It's unlikely she feels threatened by you in any way, otherwise she probably would have kept it to herself. It may be more of an admiration over your changes and progress.

As to the invite, I think its great. I have found women to be much easier "converts" than men, when it comes to acceptance. Men seem to have a tougher time understanding why someone would want to leave that "club" and join the other side. Women I've met just see it as kind of cool, and are more welcoming. It didn't take long at all for them to add me to their discussions about even the most personal female things. And yes, that is an extraordinarily affirming thing to have happen. So I'm delighted for you, and hope you have a wonderful time with the girls. You've arrived, Deenah!

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Cyndee]

I would not worry too much about what your friend might be thinking, take the compliment(s) and run with it.

Yes being accepted in a group of women is fantastic Deena, in my mind that is one of the best things that can and does happen as we change. Always liked the girls club, it's even better becoming a full fledged member....

I second what Carolyn says about the guys, it's definately harder on them, whole exit strategies exist for by-passing their vibes, some do get it...

Enjoy life Dee Rae

C Rae -

[Guest Deenah]

Thank you everyone that has responded.This is a totally new world it seams,and the more the days go by,the better is is getting.We were going to get together this weekend,but other unexpected things happened on my side that prolonged it. The weekend turned out to be a cry session due to the Hrt messing with my thoughts.I was scared and about to call the hospital and have myself placed some where for the weekend so i didn't do anything stupid and harm myself. Anyway,I'm feeling much better and can move on with the days ahead of me.

Back to subject at hand.. I can't wait to connect with more women.It just makes your day when you are treated like the person that you are and not looked down upon. It's going to be a great summer..I can see that.. Oh, and note to self " Do not wear a thin tshit with out a bra and go out in public" That was embarrassing to say the least..

Dee

[Guest]

Oh my.