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Hi!

I'm new here, and new to the whole idea of being honest about myself instead of feeling miserable because I'm trapped in the wrong body.

My name's Marty, I'm 27, I live in York, UK, oh, and I'm gay FTM.

I've just started seeing a new therapist (not specifically for gender disorder - I've been in the mental health system for a while for depression), who had me confessing the truth within the first session, so I guess that's kind of a good start. I've felt like I was in the wrong body since I was a kid, but never had the guts to come out and admit it. This weekend, I'm planning to discuss things with a couple of my closest friends - who I think are liberal minded enough not to back away. My parents don't know... in fact, at the moment, the only person who does know is my therapist. I feel like I'm about to take a huge step out into the unknown, but it's one I think I need to make.

Marty

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Oh Marty,

Welcome to the forums here at Laura's Playground.

Have some hot cocoa and cookies, sit by the fire and wait for your new friends to come and greet you. I know that you have already been touring the forums and posting a bit, feel free to do even more.

The food and fire are virtual but the warmth and freindships are real.

You are taking a big step, but it is a necessary step.

Remember that life is a journey, not just a destination and enjoy the journey.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K

Marty - sorry you had to wait - moderators have to work in the real world sometimes and don't always get to the review tasks... It's just before lunch here in New Orleans - I saw your other posts so you seem to be working your way into Laura's - and hey

Welcome Welcome Welcome

Hope you enjoy - some good people will be coming here in a few minutes to welcome you

Yeaaaaaaa

Elizabeth

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Guest Donna Jean

Hey, Marty.....Welcome!

It's nice to have you here with us and I think you'll enjoy you time here!

You just got welcomed by two of the sweetest girls anywhere so that makes you a lucky guy!

Make yourself at home and be sure to post lots...there's a lot of loving, caring people here....

**HUGGS ****

Donna Jean

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Welcome Marty,welcome to the world of care and concern, no borders here, half the English speaking world parks here,it's just half of us park on the left side of the street and the other half on the right side. Glad you have a Nat'l Health System, thank the Labour Party for that, surprised Ms. Thatcher didn't do away with it.

Don't worry about your parents for the moment we all know how to keep these things under our hat......Welcome again,,,,Mia.

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Guest Felicia Anne

hello, marty... my name is felicia anne, and i am glad that you are here.

would you like some milk and cookies? i just made a new batch of double chocolate chip... i hope you like them...

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Guest Emily.SoCal

Heya, Marty!

Welcome to the Playground. You've come to the right place. I think you'll find that you're not remotely alone.

I've just started seeing a new therapist (not specifically for gender disorder - I've been in the mental health system for a while for depression), who had me confessing the truth within the first session, so I guess that's kind of a good start.

I've been to a lot of therapists (for long term depression as well) and I've never been able to bring up my transgenderism the first time. You're a braver guy than this gal is! So yeah, you are *definitely* off to a good start! Be proud of that!

I've felt like I was in the wrong body since I was a kid, but never had the guts to come out and admit it. This weekend, I'm planning to discuss things with a couple of my closest friends - who I think are liberal minded enough not to back away. My parents don't know... in fact, at the moment, the only person who does know is my therapist. I feel like I'm about to take a huge step out into the unknown, but it's one I think I need to make.

This sounds all too familiar. I spent three full decades blocking out my inner female and at 31 I'm just really getting started. My family doesn't know either and only my therapist and one friend do know. But I will be who I will be and I will eventually reveal myself and people will accept me or they won't. Sounds hard doesn't it? Yeah, we've got our work cut out for us, but I know we can do it. And the wonderful ladies and gents on this site will tell you the same.

It's good to have you with us. Again, welcome. See you around the boards!

Emily

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Guest Irielle

Hi Marty and welcome, you have come to a wonderful place.

You have taken the hardest step already - you told another person so you no longer have to be alone.

It will be a wonderful, liberating journey although not without its ups and downs.

Felicia Anne makes the best cookies! :)

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Felicia Anne makes the best cookies! :)

OK, That's it! I'm insulted now. My cookies have always been great! :angry:

So Marty, now that you've had a chance to look around and meet a few of our more outspoken family members, what do you think? You've come to the right place, Haven't you? We are all realy friendly and helpful, we never get mad (unless someone asks us our ages or makes comments about our cookies)!

we do actually get serious, when the need arises, but life can seem so serious. Isn't it nice sometimes to have a little humor thrown in. "Just a spoonful of sugar helps.." who said that?

Have a fresh baked brownie. :D (None for you Iriellereally, you probably wouldn't like them - a little overly sensitive about her baking skills) :rolleyes:

Love ya,

Silly Sally

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Guest Amanda L Richards

Hey Marty

Don't worry about your past now, it doesn't matter that you didn't say anything to anybody, I did the same thing for a long time and it got me nowhere.

You have done somehting tremendous though, you outed yourself to us, and look how many there are. That would be like outing yourself in front of an auditorium for goodness sake. That does take courage, but you made it and sofar there is nothing but love and encouragement for you :D

YOu are safe to be yourself, and I would like to say that it is ok and that we encourage you do get comfy and just do that.

How does that sound for "no pressure"?

Hope you like it here, Hope to see you posting soon, asking quesitons, and just generally rambling if youwant to, but you better be quick with those cookies, cause when they're there, grabbing is the best policy, why?

Cause I don't care who made them, they are all good, and I will take'em all if I can :D

Talk to you again Marty

Luv

Amanda LR

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