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Guest Velanna

Ok, so I know my sizing charts pretty well and I know that I'm a size 12 women's shoes. However, when I was in Miami these past two weeks, I went out to find a nice pair of booties (of course since they aren't in season it's hard to find them). I did manage to find a pair, but they didn't come in my size (no shocker there because I'm a size 12 women's and in Miami... well, everyone is Cuban and therefore short).

So I was just wondering, are there stores (or better yet brands) that sell size 12 booties that anyone can recommend? I'm looking for hopefully an in store purchase, but if I must order online I'm willing. Obviously it goes without say that it would have to be something that is affordable; say around 60 dollars tops! Any suggestions would be more than welcome and greatly appreciated!

p.s., I have already searched through the dsw online store to no avail. :( I'll try searching through again, but I know there are no guarantees.

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Guest Jamie_cd

I'd try barefoottess.com. They have LOTS of shoes in larger women's sizes. I've got a pair from there and love em.

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Guest Velanna

I appreciate the link however, skimming around the shop for a bit I've found that things tend to be on the pricy side. :\ I'm only a student so I don't quite have the means to buy shoes over 60 dollars unfortunately. Thanks for trying at least! :)

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Guest Kaylee234

I'm still looking for a nice pair of booties too.

The Payless at the mall here carries up to a size 13. Not a great selection, but you never know you could get lucky.

~ Kay

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Guest CassieX

Hi Velanna.

Online, Zappos has a bunch on sale sub $60, Romantic Soles Brand.

Oh, and Kay, they claim they are vegan friendly too! I had to google what the heck vegan leather was though? :)

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Guest Velanna

Ooh! I'm checking out Zappos and I gotta say they have a great selection (and a vast one) of boots and booties! Thanks for the suggestion, it's really great! I'll definitely be spending quite a while sifting through their selections! Haha!

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Guest Alison Mendez

I've always been a big advocate of eBay. They almost always have some interesting selections to choose from. Prices are usually good if you don't mind buying second hand. I too wear a womens size 12 so some of the shoes and boots advertised look really great but don't fit :-( eBay usually has something nice, whether it be heels, flats or boots. I personally love ballet flats or sometimes with a slight heel to them.

But yeah, check them out.

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Guest Kaylee234

I've always been a big advocate of eBay. They almost always have some interesting selections to choose from. Prices are usually good if you don't mind buying second hand. I too wear a womens size 12 so some of the shoes and boots advertised look really great but don't fit :-( eBay usually has something nice, whether it be heels, flats or boots. I personally love ballet flats or sometimes with a slight heel to them.

But yeah, check them out.

I'll second the reccomendation for eBay. A plus is that there isn't a huge demand for size 12+ shoes, so you can get some great deals. I've found at least a few pairs of nice (albiet used) shoes for ~ $20-25.

~ Kay

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Guest LauraJen

I've always been a big advocate of eBay. They almost always have some interesting selections to choose from. Prices are usually good if you don't mind buying second hand. I too wear a womens size 12 so some of the shoes and boots advertised look really great but don't fit :-( eBay usually has something nice, whether it be heels, flats or boots. I personally love ballet flats or sometimes with a slight heel to them.

But yeah, check them out.

The thing that worries me about eBay is that there is always the chance of getting something from someone you know personally, like a family member or someone. I suppose this is less of an issue in a big country like the US. Generally I am not very good at deflecting awkward questions although others may deal with it better. Statistically the chance of it happening in the first place is small, but it's potentially serious if it does happen.

Another thing with eBay is you don't have much control over when things arrive. Whenever I have bought clothes or shoes online, I have always chosen next day delivery and I get it sent to my dads. That way I know it will definitely arrive at his tomorrow. If I choose standard delivery, it might come tomorrow if I am lucky, or it might come the day after that, or the day after that, or the day after that... From a practicality point of view it is better for the items to come quickly or on a nominated date. With eBay you are usually stuck with however the seller chooses to dispatch the items and how quickly they do so. If your circumstances aren't ideal, this could be something to consider.

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Guest Alison Mendez

I've always been a big advocate of eBay. They almost always have some interesting selections to choose from. Prices are usually good if you don't mind buying second hand. I too wear a womens size 12 so some of the shoes and boots advertised look really great but don't fit :-( eBay usually has something nice, whether it be heels, flats or boots. I personally love ballet flats or sometimes with a slight heel to them.

But yeah, check them out.

The thing that worries me about eBay is that there is always the chance of getting something from someone you know personally, like a family member or someone. I suppose this is less of an issue in a big country like the US. Generally I am not very good at deflecting awkward questions although others may deal with it better. Statistically the chance of it happening in the first place is small, but it's potentially serious if it does happen.

Another thing with eBay is you don't have much control over when things arrive. Whenever I have bought clothes or shoes online, I have always chosen next day delivery and I get it sent to my dads. That way I know it will definitely arrive at his tomorrow. If I choose standard delivery, it might come tomorrow if I am lucky, or it might come the day after that, or the day after that, or the day after that... From a practicality point of view it is better for the items to come quickly or on a nominated date. With eBay you are usually stuck with however the seller chooses to dispatch the items and how quickly they do so. If your circumstances aren't ideal, this could be something to consider.

You know? I actually had that sort of problem before. My roommate, who doesn't know that I started my transition yet, was wondering why I had several pairs of womens shoes. The easy answer I gave was that I buy and sell a LOT on ebay and it just so happens that womens shoes are a hot commodity and sell really well. Not exactly the truth, but not a lie either since I do actively buy and sell a lot on ebay.

As for the wait time, it's a game of patience. You can go to the local store and hope that they have something you like in your size to purchase immediately, or you can have a much larger selection to choose from but you have to wait a couple of weeks to get it. I personally prefer the latter as I like options.

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Guest Sarah Faith

I personally have spent so much of my life shopping online that I much prefer going to the store and buying stuff instantly. :) Fortunately my shoe size is an average enough womens size that I dont have a lot of problem finding things in my size. Online is definitely better if you want the maximum level of options though though I do not usually buy things through Ebay I haven't in years and years either. I usually prefer actual online stores.

Sarah

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Guest Velanna

The only major problem I have with buying at a store is if they have my size for the specific bootie I want. I think I'll have better luck in Orlando than I did in Miami because like I mentioned in the original post, Miami has a lot of short people. The average height for women in Miami, I would say is around 5'4-5'5. Most places only go up to shoe size 11, but if they have a shoe size 12 section it's very limited and there aren't a lot of shoes to choose from. But I have a feeling that Orlando, since the people here are taller (plus the fact that there's a TON of tourism year round) I'm sure they'll have bigger shoe sizes and more variety for that size! That's why before I make a purchase online (which I already decided that if I make an online purchase it'll be the Christin Michaels vintage Jassie booties in black from zappos) I want to check actual stores just in case I find something! Especially if I find something cheaper than the online shoes I already found! I don't want to rush anything, but my 21st birthday is in about a month and I want to have these booties by then! So it's all just looking around for me! Then again, when ISN'T it just looking around when it comes to clothing and shoes? lol

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