Too Old?

[Guest jaymie]

I have to start off by saying i know that you are never too old to transition (and i don't know for sure if transtioining is even right for me, though i have thought of being a girl/woman on and off as long as i can recall)...so why do i feel that i am too old (34)? I also realize that 34 is relatively young, i just wish if i indeed transition i would have done it at a younger age...now it just seems like at this point that i have gone too long...Anyone else feel this way?

[Guest Donna Jean]

I have to start off by saying i know that you are never too old to transition (and i don't know for sure if transtioining is even right for me, though i have thought of being a girl/woman on and off as long as i can recall)...so why do i feel that i am too old (34)? I also realize that 34 is relatively young, i just wish if i indeed transition i would have done it at a younger age...now it just seems like at this point that i have gone too long...Anyone else feel this way?

Oh, Jaymie..Jaymie...Jaymie....

Never too old to be who you are!

Why, I'm only going to be starting hormones in the near future and I'm 59...Lizzy is already on them and she's ___,

Sallyis___ Mia is ____and Kelly Ann is____...lol

So, you see? It's never too late..We don't want to live with regrets over what we should of done! Look forward to what the future holds!

Get yourself a good gender therapist and find out where you really are and go from there....

Geez..I can name some girls who wouldn't mind being 34 again! lol

Get in there....it's never too late!

Good Luck!

Donna Jean

[Guest Evan_J]

34 is not too old!! I wish I had 34 back. Of course I wish I had 24 back But 34 is old enough to be able to do it without all the hoo-haa of parents etc. and young enough to have a looooong time to enjoy it

Do it.

[Guest J-Walker]

Haha, I was upset that it took me until I was 18 to begin transitioning.

Listen to these two. You may regret not being able to start sooner, but the more you hold off on it, the more you're just going to regret.

[Guest Elizabeth K]

I think I might be the oldest at age 61. I am transitioning - on HRT - and want it ALLLLLL.

Do I have regret? Oh boy do I have regrets! I cry and cry sometimes about my missed life. I work with my therapist on that. She says I can't regret the past - I just CAN"T. I think on it - and what I did - and what I accomplished - by NOT transistioning early = my children!

OMG, my children! THANK YOU-THANK YOU-THANK YOU, Lord...

That thought brings me back to today. Nope - when ya get it in your head to fix your life - when it's set in your heart - go and do it.

Like a very wise woman once told me - super glue stops runs in... ooooops - another story

Like a really wise woman friend told me - "The reverse is stripped out in this bus we are on!" Hey - it's so true... we on our way darlin'...

hee hee

Lizzy

[Sally]

Do I have regret? Oh boy do I have regrets! I cry and cry sometimes about my missed life. I work with my therapist on that. She says I can't regret the past - I just CAN"T. I think on it - and what I did - and what I accomplished - by NOT transistioning early = my children!

OK, I'm 57 and am getting things ready for hormones within the next month.

I don't have any regrets because I can never know what my life would have been like and I do know how I have lived so far and I have done a lot and been a good person so I have nothing to regret.

Is it too late to transition, no way - I don't know what the future holds but I am going to live it as my true self a woman and I will never regret that either.

I will tell you what I believe and it is in my signature, but I will print it here as well.

Look forward with anticipation and never fear, look back with fondness and never regret.

Life is too short for regrets, what is past is past and what is to come is to come - we can not see the future but we can meet it on our terms.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Zabrak]

I just started mine and I'm 20 now. At first I thought I was starting a little late but then I noticed others start even later and I've seen how great they look/can look. Plus when you're older you don't have to deal with your parents breathing down your back all the time. So maybe older is better sometimes.

It's never too late!

[Guest Felicia Anne]

i am just now starting this journey, and i am in my... ahem... mid thirties...

(sorry, but i subscribe to the theory that a lady never tells and a gentleman never asks...)

but, i got some great advice from a friend in regards to your very question. it may be later in life that you started this journey, but perhaps the reason for that is because it was not an experience you needed at that point in life. remember that every experience, good or bad, has led you to this point, and as long as you are in the game, you are doing good with your life! it's never too late to have a great life, and to be a woman is to be a timeless beauty!

[Guest Emily.SoCal]

Jaymie,

I'm 31 and I don't feel too old.. usually. Sometimes I wonder if this is all bad timing. I think the most heartbreaking thing is that I wasn't able to make my transition during puberty. After all, some male features develop during that period that you just can't get rid of later. But we can't change the past. However, what inspires me and encourages me that transition is right for me are the transwomen I've met who are twice my age and just beginning transition too. That kind of throws the whole concept of timetables out the window. And that allows me to get to the point where I can say "I am whatever age I am and I will start HRT when I start HRT and I will be patient as all of this takes its course."

Hope that was of some help.

-Emily

[Guest cerise]

Look at it from the other side . Maybe you were to young until now .

Cerise 50+

[Guest Nelly]

Hi,

I am in the same age than you and I also had this thinkings. How would life if I found internet 10 years earlier? Maybe I would be a girl now. But than I get the thinking why I did not tell my parents when I was yound (about 6) than I could have a perfect shaped female body and not some odd mixture of male and female body? Than the last thinking is, that the best solution would be to be born as a girl and that you can not influence in all ages. The only thing you can do is to start and make the best you can.

MTF are devided in two groups. One group know it from the beginning and start crying if they are not handeld like girls in a very young age (4-6). The second groups are all the men who found out in the mid 30ies that female would be the right gender. I start using female stuff since I was 6 or so. But with the age of >30 I realice that I do it because I mabye want to be a woman. So know I try to find out. Since that day transition is a very good option for me, also I know that I will never be the perfect women.

Greetings

Nelly

[Guest Karen-1954]

I started mine at the age of 52 and 2 years later I am still glad that I decided to finally get started. Just make sure you do your transition under a doctors care and supervision.

Hugs,

Karen (54)

[Guest Emily1]

I am 17 (2 months till I'm an adult!!!!), and, though I know I am starting relatively young, I still feel like I should have started sooner. One reason for this is because I was pretty sure even that I was TS (instead of just wanting to be a girl), but my parents told me that I wasn't, so I spent 4 years trying to figure things out . I knew, though, since I knew the difference between boys and girls that I wanted to be a girl.

[Guest jaymie]

Thanks to all the ladies and gents who replied ! Like i said, i know there are no age limits for transitioning...that's why i find it so confusing that i feel that 'I and I alone' am too old. Perhaps it is just regret in not doing anything at a younger age, perhaps i don't want to rock the boat of my exisiting world (i can't see getting a lot of support from most friends and family)...maybe as it was suggested, i just wasn't ready, perhaps i'm still not and perhaps i never will be. Maybe transitioning isn't right for me though i so often think that it is. I just have so many mixed feelings...i mean it's not like my life is completely miserable, in fact i would say it's pretty good, except that i would without (much) doubt prefer to be a woman. Oh well...enough rambling for now...Thanks to every one for listening and offering your support *hugs* .

[Guest Sandra]

I'm also in my mid-30s and have my own issues holding me back from transitioning, however this is still a good age to do it in (of course the younger one starts the better). I've been through a lot of difficulties in my life and believe I'll soon finally achieve the level of success and happiness I've dreamt of for myself. Transitioning could: ruin all my gains, it could turn out to be worse than I had hoped, it will consume a lot of time and energy and I will certainly lose my family/friends because its just not feasible for me to come out to them. There are also some relationships I really don't want to sever but will have to, and certain advantages available to me as a man would be lost when I become a woman.

But my desire to transition is extremely intense-its just something I really feel I must do, so as a compromise I'm going to do my best to try to pass as a woman physically (without HRT, SRS, etc) and see if I can pull it off. If I can, then I'll know my transition will go well and I'll proceed, if not then I'll just try to forget about it and live as is. I know some transsexuals sacrifice everything and lose many years of their lives to simply be in the right body. Sometimes they end up very lonely, poor and old when the dust settles, I think the price can be too high in some cases. On the flipside some peoples' transitions are very smooth and successful-so ultimately its a very personal decision. One has to weigh out all the odds before jumping in.

Cheers

[Guest Kelly Ann]

30's???? Those were my Wonder Years...I wonder how I survived myself Jaymie. Somehow I managed, with minimal scarring LOL, to...so far...56. So I was a lot 'cuter' I guess when I was younger...but I seem to be wearing well if only because of attitude. Ouch...ha ha ha...actually you get used to getting older because the alternative is just so...final? To get back to your thought though...it's never too late to do anything. In fact there's usually never a better time than the present to do something. It's just dependent upon which door you open and choose to go through...you can always walk back out...and maybe that room is merely a transition that leads to another, larger room...and then on into the mansion of your mind. It's never too late to crawl down into that rabbit hole...just go ask Alice

[Guest amie]

Sometimes. But in these times when I think I may be too old I only think about the people directly in my life and how time has made us what we are to each other. I have two nieces and a nephew that think the world of me and I often think, wow, how would I ever tell them about me?

My Momma and Lil’ Sis already know. My little brother’s don’t and will probably poop a brick when I tell them but I could deal with them far better than I could the little peeps in my life.

As far as bein’ too old in a physical sense, I don’t think about that much other than how much better I would’ve looked had I tranzed back in my teens, yu know? That would have ruled in comparison.

When I was 16 and tryin’ to make the boy thing work, I was talkin’ with a girl that was widely considered by many of the young guys in high school to be the prettiest girl around here. She later told one of my buddies, “I wanted to go out with him and I was gonna, but he looks too much like a girl.”

Ahhhh, God bless you Shelly, where ever you may be!

I’m 37, by the way. And despite bein’ much older than I’d like to do this thingee, I would still jump on it if given the opportunity. To live just one year even in a shell that’s more me and know I’d be happier? You betcha!!!

[Guest Donna Jean]

Amie Said:

Ahhhh, God bless you Shelly, where ever you may be!

I’m 37, by the way. And despite bein’ much older than I’d like to do this thingee, I would still jump on it if given the opportunity. To live just one year even in a shell that’s more me and know I’d be happier? You betcha!!!

Well, Amie, I just gotta say "Bless Shelly's pea pickin' little heart"....That was a real left handed compliment to you! lol

She couldn't have got it any better if she had tried!

And, Amie, have you noticed? The ones here 15 years old, 17, 22, 33,45,57....it doesn't matter...everyone thinks it's too late.....

Well, Hon, it NEVER is too late to be you!

Never give up.......

You CAN be you.......

Huggs

Donna Jean

[Sally]

Amie Said:

Well, Amie, I just gotta say "Bless Shelly's pea pickin' little heart"....That was a real left handed compliment to you! lol

She couldn't have got it any better if she had tried!

And, Amie, have you noticed? The ones here 15 years old, 17, 22, 33,45,57....it doesn't matter...everyone thinks it's too late.....

Well, Hon, it NEVER is too late to be you!

Never give up.......

You CAN be you.......

Huggs

Donna Jean

57! Did someone mention me?

you are never too old to transition. Dr. Bowers has performed surgeries on ladies in thier 80s.

One of the sites in Thailand list a different set of requirements for ladies and gentlemen over 65.

Better late thean never - it is never to late to make things right!

Love ya,

Younger Than Springtime Sally

[Guest jaymie]

And, Amie, have you noticed? The ones here 15 years old, 17, 22, 33,45,57....it doesn't matter...everyone thinks it's too late.....

Well, Hon, it NEVER is too late to be you!

It is kind of funny that we all know that it is never too late...but so many of us have these thoughts that it is too late for "me". Glad to know i'm not alone.

[Guest Cullen]

I know the feeling, I'm at the very begining of my transition and I felt that I was too old as well (41), but after hearing what everyone had to say about the fear I had and my first post, I'm no longer concerned, I'm actually looking forward to it. I've wanted this for so long and now I'm at a point in my life, where I feel I can't wait any longer. So, here I go. Good luck to you and know that it's never to late to live the life you were meant to live.