My Mileage Is Varying...

[Guest Jenn348]

I had low T and high E before starting HRT due to a strange condition that probably also caused my GID. But that's another story. So I'm about 3 months into HRT. Weight loss going great, too. From the neck down, I'm very passable. My hair is growing in, and it too is passable. I did voice training, and my voice is passable.

Only problem left is my face! It has improved quite a bit from starting, but still isn't ready for prime time. I know if I wait, it will get better, but with everything else looking good, I'm growing increasingly impatient.

I dress properly around the house some days and attend my appointments with my therapist dressed. She says I look passable but somewhat masculine, but I am nervous that she is just trying to be nice.

I've reduced my eyebrows as much as I dare with my non-full-time status. I've done laser and facial hair isn't a problem at all. For makeup, I do contouring and have a lot of help from my wife on getting it right.

I'm nervous to post a picture because I want to go stealth and don't want the ghost of trans past haunting me later. What goes on the web stays on the web

Part of me says screw it, let's go FT and let the chips fall where they may, but part of me is scared like a little poodle on the 4th of July.

Sorry for the rant, had to get it out and get advice and/or pep talks to go FT.

[Guest Sarah Faith]

Well pictures in your gallery are only viewable by members Jenn, so you can post pictures there and then just direct people to look there if you like.

Sarah

[Guest Deenah]

Totally understand about not wanting to post pics and have them shared some how on a different site and so am i. Here we post pics so others can help us with the things we need changing,or things you just don't notice about yourself. We are not going to share you're pics so no need to worry about that.

Try not to be scared hun,i know it's not as easy as it sounds some times.Be a confident women and let yourself shine.The manly part..don't worry about it,look around you.There are plenty of women that have this feature.Learn how to dress to attract attention to other parts of you're body and away from those areas. Vertical striped shirts make you look thinner and taller,opposite with horizontal striped clothing.Play with it a bunch..Remember,it took the women you see on the streets years and years to get the look that makes them fabulous.When you're ready post a pic or two.Just have fun with it

[Guest Jenn348]

Well pictures in your gallery are only viewable by members Jenn, so you can post pictures there and then just direct people to look there if you like.

Sarah

I didn't realize that...I'll have to do something in the next couple days. Thanks!

[Guest Melissa~]

The "ghost of trans past", awesome. I have not even considered stealth yet. I do not readily disclose my situation, but I don't hide my history yet either. On my Facebook profile, there is a steady progression of pictures. I have an opportunity to bury my past when I move to a new region in the foreseeable future, yet I feel no compelling need to. In fact in my job field background searches will turn up the inevitable findings, about my marriage, some financial issues, name change etc. Hopefully such information will not leak outside of some future HR department.

My decision to go FT was nearly a year ago, yet full implementation was held up for disclosures including the big one for me - work. I am very much solo in my life, somehow I knew I would be, with my ex dropping me on just hearing I might seek treatment.

My therapist worked with me in various ways, one early one was smacking me out of a five year transition plan, she advocated 2 years for my situation. I have to concur that when my ex divorced me, I fast tracked everything...it had been building for years already. As noted in my sidebar a little visit to Dr Bowers would indeed be within two years...

[Guest Jenn348]

Well pictures in your gallery are only viewable by members Jenn, so you can post pictures there and then just direct people to look there if you like.

Sarah

All righty, got over my fears and put a couple up in my "Passing Attempt #1" gallery....

[Guest Jenn348]

Allrighty...also put up a closeup of face with makeup applied. It's a camera phone image with just basic editing/cropping done to be brutally fair

What should I do to increase passability?

[Guest LizMarie]

Oh, hon, you are going to be fine. Address the eyebrows and you'll be off and running. You have a very feminine face from what I see in the pictures. That first pic is all woman.

You look great for just getting started. You really do!

[Guest KarenLyn]

I think most of us start very critical of ourselves but you look just fine. I know you said you aren't full time but you could still thin your eyebrows more than you have.

Karen