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While starting my transitioning I knew I had to find a therapist who could help me full fill my quest. It sounds simple living in a big city - it an't! Below is a letter I wrote sent to some of the therapist that were recommended to me:

LOOKING FOR A THERAPIST

I am in the procecess of transitioning from what I was - to what I need to be - a whole person rather two partial entities competing with each other. I am a transgendered person - one who's mental gender does not match with my physical gender. A more common explanation is 'I am a female trapped in a man's body.' Like it or not, I am what I am, and not what somebody else thinks I should!

I looking for a therapist who is knowledgeable in the field of Gender Dysphoria. I am not looking for someone who is going to try to 'cure me', or 'change me' in order to 'conform to the norm'. I have had a number of various therapists in my life (close to ten years worth!) and most have tried to cure me - to change me - to no avail.

My therapist needs to be both a teacher and a guide for me - to help me with the various choices available - choosing the ones best suited for my needs - clearing away all the myths, lies and misinformation that is so common and misbelieved. To guide me with compassion thru life's various hurdles - social, medical, legal and emotional - to help me be the person I was ment and need to be.

I am looking foward to working with my new therapist. Hopefully this will be a learning experience that will benefit both of us. Life is a great adventure - be a part of it!

THANKS!!!

As a result - I found a very capable therapist that I am very pleased and happy with. Hope this is of some help to those of you who are still serching - and those who gave up, serching - there are a lot of good professionals out there. Some times it just takes that extra effort to find the right one!

Many hugs and best wishes to all!

Kontessa

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