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Excited about meeting Kristin Beck


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Guest DianeATL

I am going to a reception Saturday night to meet Kristin Beck, the TG who served as a Navy Seal for 20 years before transitioning and now is an advocate for the TG community. It will also be my first meetup event with the local TG meet up community so I hope to make some new friends.

I'm nervous about what to wear, my make up, my voice, everything. I will be going alone and traditionally I hate chit chat receptions. Hopefully Diane will be much better than that guy impersonator. I know I will be OK and sure that the girls will be very supportive, but I want to make a good first impression. I want them to like me, is that wrong or vain? I am just desperate for osme good girlfriends.

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Guest Zayden

There's nothing vain about wanting to make a good first impression. :)

I am sure you will do great! Just channel that inner feminine confidence!

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Guest sophia.gentry58

Hi Diane;

Wow! How fortunate are you to be able to get the opportunity to meet the warrior princess. I am so green with envy! Don't you worry honey, there is nothing wrong in wanting to be liked and for wanting to make a good impression. You go girl! :)

Sophia

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Don't forget Diane that all the girls there want to look good. We all suffer from that to some extent. Dress comfortably and be yourself. You'll have a good time and find some friends. It's only fun if we let it be.

Hugs,

Charlie

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I'm sooo green with envy.

Too bad I can't drive there fast enough.

You're so fortunate to be close by, for this event, Diane.

What to wear, make up, voice etc. etc. -> Welcome to the Womanhod Express

We all want to make a good impression.

Wear what you're comfortable with.

I'm sure you'll make a lot of great new friends.

Huggs, :wub:

Joann

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Guest DianeATL

I am reading her book now and plan to finish before Saturday. Wow, there are so many parallels to my life and connections it is almost scary. I have already decided that when I come out to my family, Princess Warrior will be required reading for family members as background to discussing my transition. She captures the lifelong suppressed angst so well.

Thanks for all of the encouragement. Today I bought some new jewelry and a new clutch for the occasion. Can't let a good excuse to shop go to waste.

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Guest Kaylee234

Wow, so jealous! :)

I'm glad you had this opportunity and took advantage of it! Kristin is an amazing woman and reading her book I felt we had many parallels in our lives. Well not the butt-kicking SEAL parts of course, since I was an electrician in the navy lol. But yeah I'd love to meet her myself :)

~ Kay

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Guest Carla_Davis

Hi Diane,

I am so Happy for you that you had such a wonderful evening .

TG Support Groups can be a Wonderful Place to meet Girlfriends.

I also hope that you made some new girlfriends.

I hope that you were able to be just Yourself as Diane and felt Welcome and Comfortable in the Group.

Every one wants to make a Good First Impression, because You only get 1 chance.

I also enjoy your photo with Kristin Beck.

We all Support, Care for, and Love You and want to see you Happy, Healthy and Transition Safely. :wub:

Hugs,

Carla

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Guest DianeATL

Thank you Carla - that was the sweetest note. I am going to a support group on Monday that I found as a result of this outing so all in all I think it was a big step for me.

As for being me, it amazes me when I am Diane I am the most comfortable in my skin, more than any other day. After the fact I then tear apart pictures and think that none of the others really liked me, they were just being nice. I am pretty hard on myself like that. But while I am Diane I feel empowered and at peace. I am not nervous and I open up probably too much, something I don't do at all in my male persona.

I am hoping that from the group Monday I can build more friends and if the opportunity presents itself, get some therapist recommendations. That will be my next big step and I don't want to just pick a name from a list.

Thanks again for everyone's support!

Diane

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