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Hi guys.

Sorry I don't post much any more. I lost my email access at home.

I'm pretty excited... I actually took a girl out on a date this weekend and like started talking on the phone with her and stuff... and am doing stuff with her at least two more times this week. This is the first time I've actually gotten to date a girl. Too cool. She's bisexual (I met her at the campus GLBT group), so I guess my being trans doesn't matter one way or the other to her. I like her, she's really interesting, but I don't know if I'm more excited about her or just about the fact that there is a girl (any girl) that is paying attention to me. Either way, I've been too excited to sleep much the last couple of nights. (personally, I think that's pretty pathetic of me to be that excited, but I've got adolescent raging hormones).

I'm still feeling uncertain and uncomfortable about the idea of intimacy with the wrong genitalia. If we get that far, I'm pretty confident that it won't bother her, but it might really bother me... maybe to the point of not being able to do it... or trying and failing and that would be embarrassing.

Anyway, I think the game plan is to take a few deep breaths and just try to have fun instead of trying to over-analyze it all.

Mike

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Hey, its fine to be excited about a girl who likes you(just act cool around her B) ). Don't think too much into it - just enjoy it as you go.

As for the other problems, I don't have much advice for rather then take it slow.

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huff im exactly the same

i get well happy when a girl pays attention to me

but im afraid how the performance in the bedroom may be a problem as i dont like my genitals

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congratulations Mike! I'm glad you found someone.

Don't overanalyze, but I know how easy that is to do. Just enjoy yourself.

As for being inimate? I wouldn't worry about it, just enjoy the time the two of you are together and whatever happens, happens. Trying and failing? Big deal, just tell her what you're going through.

She sounds like the kind of person who'll understand and that will probably be the end of your 'failure'. Success!

Have fun! :)

Iri

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congratulations Mike! I'm glad you found someone.

Don't overanalyze, but I know how easy that is to do. Just enjoy yourself.

As for being inimate? I wouldn't worry about it, just enjoy the time the two of you are together and whatever happens, happens. Trying and failing? Big deal, just tell her what you're going through.

She sounds like the kind of person who'll understand and that will probably be the end of your 'failure'. Success!

Have fun! :)

Iri

About all that can be added to that is to point out about your fears of what to do if and what if you are excited just because she's interested in you.

Congratulations, now you are a teenaged boy!

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Elizabeth K
Hi guys.

Sorry I don't post much any more. I lost my email access at home.

I'm pretty excited... I actually took a girl out on a date this weekend and like started talking on the phone with her and stuff... and am doing stuff with her at least two more times this week. This is the first time I've actually gotten to date a girl. Too cool. She's bisexual (I met her at the campus GLBT group), so I guess my being trans doesn't matter one way or the other to her. I like her, she's really interesting, but I don't know if I'm more excited about her or just about the fact that there is a girl (any girl) that is paying attention to me. Either way, I've been too excited to sleep much the last couple of nights. (personally, I think that's pretty pathetic of me to be that excited, but I've got adolescent raging hormones).

I'm still feeling uncertain and uncomfortable about the idea of intimacy with the wrong genitalia. If we get that far, I'm pretty confident that it won't bother her, but it might really bother me... maybe to the point of not being able to do it... or trying and failing and that would be embarrassing.

Anyway, I think the game plan is to take a few deep breaths and just try to have fun instead of trying to over-analyze it all.

Mike

MIKE - you got it - answered yourself here - HA! ... just try to have fun ... :P

And as to being intimate - use what ya got - do what you will - enjoy what you feel - it's all in the name of loving each other even if it starts as lust! ;)

Lizzy (an ole lady saing things like that - oh my!) :blush:

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Rule number one, never ever do anything you are less than comfortable with. You will never be happy about it or ok about it after an it could spoil anything for future. Only stick to stuff you're comfortable with and if a person likes YOU that should be fine. The other person you have to worry about not letting pressure you is you ;) If you should reach a point where you do want to "do whatever" "with whatever" then this next bit of advice will apply (and Leo this goes for you too) never press yourself about "performance" when you do you are outlide of liking what you're doing and that surely will louse it up. The "best" is always when you like what you're doing.

Past all of that, congrats :P There's nothin like a woman........(*muses over the magnificence of females)

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Guest StrandedOutThere

Mike! That's awesome! I remember the first girl that I dated. I didn't sleep for days because I was so excited. It was the best feeling in the world!! Just enjoy it. It's all exciting, but that first one is special...at least mine was.

About the intimacy... I'm not sure. Like Evan says, just stick with stuff you are comfortable with. Take it slow.

It isn't like I have loads of experience, but I definitely found things I could be comfortable with and that were good for all involved. I'm not sure if this is TMI...

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Hey guys.

thanks for the wisdom. I guess the whole idea of taking anything (girls, etc included) at a comfortable pace is foreign to me... but I am getting better at it. :-)

How was your interview? I remember you were headed out to one last time you posted.

the interview was amazing. I just got the acceptance letter in the mail yesterday. Unfortunately, it's a really expensive school, so I'm probably going to go the much cheaper state school instead. On the bright side, the state school is also a ranked school.

Mike

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