i think i ve lost my boyfreind

[Guest sally-jane]

i just been to the doctors and been told im being sent to a gernetic spesalist because they think i might be intersex and i just told my boyfreind of 9 yrs that i might actuly be a female and hes just said he doesnt know if he could love me any more is there any thing i could do to ease his mind that im still the same person he loved a month ago as it will end me if i lose him

[Charlize]

Please don't panic dear. Your boyfriend has we hoped loved you for the past years. Give the information time to sink in with him. I'm sure you also will need time to adjust. He is feeling hurt now but with any luck that will change and regardless of your gender he will be able to still love you as yourself. With my wife of 42 years it took time but we are still together and if possible still even more in love. Time, patience, understanding and love will help to heal.

Hugs,

Charlie

[Guest sally-jane]

the thing is he thinks ive been taking hrt which i havnt been and it a phaise and it will pass or it due to some meds im taking he doesnt understand that im a woman not a man i cant stand being in the body im in even tho its only 20% male as it is and its hurting me really badly i think he feel in love the the body and not me the person any advice would be handy as i dont want to lose him