I came out to my family

[Guest JayGray]

I came out to my mother last Thursday. I was very nervous going into it, as she's rather Christian and seems to want to be conservative. I had already changed her mind on gay rights, and she's always been pretty open socially, so I told myself I shouldn't worry.

As I started my prepared preamble, she told me that she'll "always love me, no matter what". So I told her. She was more confused than anything else. She was confused because, as she put it, I wasn't a feminine child. She thought people knew this their whole lives, and felt wrong their whole lives. I told her that there is a spectrum, and that I've always felt weird. She remembered that I never liked sports and I was always very emotional (the two came together once when someone got me a soccer ball for Christmas and I cried for an hour).

So, my mom and my sister know now. I haven't told my brother yet, as I'm not sure how to tell him. He's not super macho, so I don't know what's making me wait.

[Guest angels wings]

It appears that it all went pretty well for you ,it is confusing for loved ones but as they slowly learn more and put the pieaces to the puzzle toghter they soon see there where sighns long ago .Wishing you all the best

Angel

[Guest Carla_Davis]

Hi JayGray,

Congratulations on Coming-Out to your mother and sister.

You may want to discuss with your mother and sister about how best to tell your brother being that she has accepted you.

They would know your brother best.

I wish you Success and Happiness on Coming-Out to your brother and also you Journey.

Hugs,

Carla

[Guest LizMarie]

Congratulations. I'm glad it went well for you. Telling your parents while still dependent on them is always a serious risk. it's good it worked out well.

[Guest Opal]

I agree with Carla about discussing it with your mom and sister about a proper time and place to tell your brother.

Huggs,

Opal

[Guest Rebecca A]

Congrats, way to go, big milestone, must at least feel good to get it off your chest and out in the open.

[Guest Sereneth]

Congratulations! Coming out is often a very difficult and time consuming process, I'm so glad to hear everything is working out well.

[Guest JayGray]

Well, I told my brother. He said "I don't know what to say except that I accept you and love you no matter what".

So far, all of my worrying has been for nothing. I was joking with my therapist that I wanted to make my story of transition public to help people out, but it's proving to be the best outcome possible, so I'm more worried that people are going to be jealous. Not that I want anyone to freak out at me or anything.

[Guest Rebecca A]

aww, hun all of our stories are important, the good stories are just as important as the rough ones so others know it's not all bad.

[Guest DianeATL]

The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.

So happy it is going well for you. If someone loves you, they love YOU regardless of whether you are playing football or wearing a dress. They may not understand at first but that doesn't mean that they will stop loving you.

Thanks for the positive post.

Hugs

diane