I've been passing more and more

[Guest ChefErik93]

i don't know how this is possible but for some reason over the past two weeks I have been passing to more and more people. There was the woman at target, there was the women in admissions at school, and yesterday there was the server at the restaurant i was at. These two women and this guy all used male pronouns in referring to me and even called me sir. Even after i talked!!! The only thing that gave it away to the admissions woman was that she asked my name. And the server at the restaurant saw my name on my card. up until that point i totally had it!

It makes me feel pretty good that I am passing more and I'm not even on testosterone. but on another hand it makes me want T that much more so that I can pass to everyone. OR to stop passing and just be the man that i am!

I still don't know what the change is but I thought I would share it. is it maybe the way i've been holding myself? my attitude? hmm...

Erik

[Guest Motormouth18]

I've noticed the same thing about myself. Very few people have called me ma'am over the past month. My voice is naturally not feminine, so that is a plus. The thing that gives me away is when my mother corrects people. :/

I think it has something to do what just being yourself. Just relax anf don't try to "over pass".

[Guest CrimsonEdge]

Confidence, man

More than the way you dress, it's your body language that counts. When I first started passing, I used to extremely apprehensive and unsure of myself, even more so when I passed. And it used to show in my behaviour, I'm sure. Now, even though I've gained some weight (and look curvier than before) I pass more than I used to because of my attitude and confidence.

[Guest Stray Cat Gypsy]

CrimsonEdge said it perfectly. Confidence can go a long way. So woo woos for you!

[JJ]

In just a couple of weeks I went from being correctly gendered very rarely to be ing correctly gendered most of the time. The only change I made in that time was that I quit seeing myself as a woman with a man's mind to seeing myself as a man with physiological anomalies. Attitude makes all the difference and once I made that change I just naturally started to project who I was inside I think.

Funny thing is that was almost exactly two years ago. I thought the pleasure of people getting it right would wear off but it doesn't. It is not as exciting and I would be really shocked to be Mamed again but we went shopping today and it still felt good to be called Sir everywhere. At least a dozen times.

Glad it's happening for you already.

Johnny

[Guest ChefErik93]

Thanks everyone. you are right...confidence is crucial and i am slowly gaining it. I hope it continues!! thank you all for the kind words! it's good to know that this feeling doesn't wear off...because i like it!

Erik

[Bulldog1948]

What JJ and the others are all telling you is the truth. Confidence and bearing; the attitude of a man [ even when he doesn't know what he's doing lol]

You know that you are a man, so walk, like one, talk like one. Now be cool on the man walk, don't go over the top on it; you don't have to be John Wayne or one of the hollywood macho men. Also, the talk, work on lowering you voice. Slow and easy, don't chatter like a girl. When you get on T your voice will naturally drop. Also, you do not have to grab yourself and curse like a fool. Be an educated man, women love that. Save the tiger for the bedroom.

[Guest ChefErik93]

thanks mike! i like all of that advice and i can live by it. i definitely need to work on the way i talk. i like to over explain and talk in circles. even with T i could talk like a girl haha. and the whole thing that you mention at the end there...i agree with completely. you don't have to be a jerk or be foul to be a good man. i am so excited about starting this process but i do need to go low and slow from here on out. with my transition and the way i hold myself.

thanks again everyone,

Erik