Picturing my family, close friends and myself calling/reffering to me by male pronouns

[Guest Motormouth18]

A a couple of days ago, I posted about complete strangers referring to me by male pronouns. This got my imagination going, and soon I was trying to picture someday when my family would refer to me as the guy I know I am. The thing is, I had trouble doing that. I guess it's because I've never really done it before, and it's a complete change.

I have 2 questions related to this.

Did you ever have anybody you know personally(family or good friends) refer to you as the opposite gender by accident before you told them?

Pretty much everybody in close family have "accidentally" called me "he" or "him" several times, particularly my mom. I normally just laugh it off. People who saw the photo of me I'm using on here, have actually said that there's no way that I'm a lady/female. I guess maybe they( my family) take a look at me and the clothes I wear and it's slips their minds. Nobody knows how I am, except my mom. I've come close to mentioning it to 2 other family members, but I chickened out.

When you first realized that you were trans, did you have hard time picturing your family and friends calling you "he" or "she"?

[Guest Peter]

Lucky you!

No I don't have a hard time imagining it. I often do, and can't wait for it to be a reality, however I am not out to everyone who ought to know yet. But everyone who I've asked in advance (friends) have been absolutely fine with it.

Good luck with comig out!

[Guest ChefErik93]

to answer your first question, yes many people have referred to me as "sir" or "he". they soon after correct themselves and i tell them that they don't have to correct it and to not call me ma'am. even people who don't know i'm trans. no one really ever says anything. and to answer your second questions yes i do have a hard time seeing this in my head sometimes because i haven't ever witnessed it in reality

Erik

[KathrynJulia]

Motormouth

We often talk about male-fail or female-fail and it sneeks up on you and is pretty startling when it happens. From your picture, I suspect you have reached female-fail. If your family is referring to you with male pronouns, they are most likely picking up masculine vibes from you. They have also known you all of your life and often those closest to us, (close friends and family) are often not surprise when we transition because we have been sending out signals since adolescence that we are the opposite gender. If people are occassionally seeing you as male already without you coming out, I suspect that your transition will be a good one. Kathryn

[Guest RalisTogari]

My friends? With them it's no problem. The second I told them I was trans they switched to referring to me with male pronouns without me even asking them to (although that's probably partially due to the fact that I'm second in our group of friends to realize that I'm trans and she came to her realization years before I came to my own).

My family? Well, here's a scenario that happened yesterday: I went to get a haircut and the girl behind the counter told me that a men's cut was $15. I mentioned what happened to my mom in passing and how happy it made me (because it was the 3rd time I'd gotten my hair cut there and I was sure I wasn't passing which would be a shame since the girls who work there are really hot) and she asked, "Did you correct her?" I looked at my mom like she was crazy and asked, "Why on Earth would I do that?"

I'm starting to think my mom doesn't really understand what being transgender means even though she accepts it and my choice to physically transition. She makes jokes like, "Now that you're going to be a guy you have to learn how to change the oil." (which I would love to do if someone would bother to teach me), but she doesn't get why people referring to me with male pronouns makes me happy and she thinks it's weird that I've started using male restrooms.

She and several members of my family have said they're not sure if they can get used to calling me Wyatt instead of Kay and I'm like, you can still call me Kay if it's easier for you. Just stopping calling me girl. So, yeah, having a hard time imagining it.

[Guest Motormouth18]

My friends? With them it's no problem. The second I told them I was trans they switched to referring to me with male pronouns without me even asking them to (although that's probably partially due to the fact that I'm second in our group of friends to realize that I'm trans and she came to her realization years before I came to my own).

My family? Well, here's a scenario that happened yesterday: I went to get a haircut and the girl behind the counter told me that a men's cut was $15. I mentioned what happened to my mom in passing and how happy it made me (because it was the 3rd time I'd gotten my hair cut there and I was sure I wasn't passing which would be a shame since the girls who work there are really hot) and she asked, "Did you correct her?" I looked at my mom like she was crazy and asked, "Why on Earth would I do that?"

I'm starting to think my mom doesn't really understand what being transgender means even though she accepts it and my choice to physically transition. She makes jokes like, "Now that you're going to be a guy you have to learn how to change the oil." (which I would love to do if someone would bother to teach me), but she doesn't get why people referring to me with male pronouns makes me happy and she thinks it's weird that I've started using male restrooms.

She and several members of my family have said they're not sure if they can get used to calling me Wyatt instead of Kay and I'm like, you can still call me Kay if it's easier for you. Just stopping calling me girl. So, yeah, having a hard time imagining it.

At least your mom is accepting. That's a good thing. My mom refuses to acknowledge it. She's fine with the clothes, which I've doing for years. If somebody "misgenders" me and calls me a sir or something male related, she'll blow up and tell everybody I'm a she. I'm 18 and she stills does that. She doesn't support any physical transition, and has threatened to disown/kick me out if I try to do anything while living with her.

I'm with ya on the changing the oil thing. I'd love to be able to do it. People who don't have the gender problem(for lack of a better word) I don't think will ever understand it. Being called the right gender just clicks with us.