How did you transition in school to family and everything?

[Guest Anewbeginning14]

There was a mistake when I was born. I'm really a guy. I have 5-ard. Only thing that has made me look less masculine is I have an extra X chromosome. Other than that, I'm totally male. This is how I identified before I even knew this. But my mom doesn't like transitioning. And I'm scared of it myself like about what will happen when I go to school family and every that knows me. But I don't want to go into a female puberty either. I feel like I'm going to regret it either way. How can I convince my mom to accept me as I am? What do you do about other people you know? Advice?

[VickySGV]

OK, let me get this straight, you are currently being forced by your parent to live as a female? Or do I have that backwards??

5-ARD is an inter-sex condition due to chromosomal issues in people who have a Y chromosome but female external features. Your parents, especially your mother has been raising you as a female. I hope I have it right. Or another way "a man gotta do what a man gotta do,"

Getting your mother's help is going to be crucial in making a transition, but since you have identified a known medical condition and hopefully have something from your doctor saying so, the doctor would be the first line of help for you. Your mom needs some education as to your condition and our plan of action include that. Are you in an adolescent medicine program for your general health? Adolescent medicine physicians know how to talk your language, and may be able to help mom come to your side. It is worth a try. Also talking to your school counselor to see if they can help you deal with things. Across the state line here in CA, they can do such things as getting you into more male directed class work such as shop classes and the like.

Will your mother simply let you wear the clothing of your choice?? Not all girls wear dresses, and even for me, slacks are by far the most common thing I wear. (OK tops too). See if the school will let you go by a "preferred name" instead of your presumably girl name. Just having a teacher call you by the right name is a big deal. Again, you have a much better defined medical condition than Gender Dysphoria so take it and use it.

[Guest Anewbeginning14]

It's actually lacking an enzyme at birth. Physically I'm in a male puberty and would be phenotypic ally male if untreated. So I'm basically a guy. I identify as a guy and I have feminine qualities too but I've never seen myself as a girl.

However, my mom doesn't want me to transition and I get why. It scares me as well. I don't want family to know or what my friends to treat me like a freak. In a way I just wish this was a private matter. To stay and live as a girlI'd have to get an orchiectomy and a estrogen hormonal therapy so I'd be set for a life of discontent which I know already.

I've talked to my mom and my dr. Tried to talk to her explaining that this is common for my condition. But she's said to me that we both don't want everyone else to know. But I don't want to become a woman. I don't want others to judge me either.