More progress

[Guest AshleighP]

In the way of an update I thought I would share what I feel is positive progress in my wife's acceptance of my cross-dressing.

It all started Christmas day. It was very cold and we had planned a tourist type visit to Washington DC as is our tradition. We were laying in bed and she mentioned how cold it was and that she was going to wear tights under her jeans to keep warm. Feeling a bit brave, I said "me too". She looked at me funny and said "OK". For some of you this would be an almost everyday occurrence, I was elated to have permission. I decided to take it a step further and wear the purple thermal top I had bought at Goodwill a few weeks previous. I put a regular hooded sweatshirt over it so only the collar showed. So, wearing my panties, tights, and ladies top under my regular clothes we headed out into public. Long story short, we had a great day with no condemnation or comments about my attire, even though she was fully aware of it all.

The next weekend we had planned to spend the day at a winery. It was a beautiful warm day so we sat out side on the patio by the fire. I was again wearing panties, tights, and a different pink top this time, again with her knowledge and consent. When we got home I changed into a gray plaid wool skirt and while we enjoyed dinner and the rest of the evening. Things were looking up.

I have continued wearing ladies tops and tights every weekend with no comments other than her asking me if I ever go out in public in women's clothes and did I wear tights to work. I replied, not often. No negative comment again.

I am very encouraged that I will be able to slowly add more and more women's clothing to my weekend attire, at least at home.

[Guest Lelia VA]

Ashleigh, darling, that is totally awesome!! I'm so happy for you to have reached a new milestone in your life. There is nothing so empowering as having acceptance from those you care about!!

I know that you will look forward to your weekends more than ever!!

Love ya!!

LeeLee

[VickySGV]

Google up Society for the Second Self aka TriEss. I think there is a chapter near you and or the DC area. It is an organization for heterosexual cross dressers and their spouses that actually has social gatherings on a regular basis. You can dress a little more openly at their functions and other spouses can help your wife out too. Very good progress though.

[tracy_j]

Way to go! It's good progress.

That reminds me of a conversation with a colleague at work the other day. He said that he had just got some long johns just in case the weather turned really cold. I replied that I had some fleece lined tights that I would similarly be wearing under trousers. When I think about it I think I would not like to be seen dead in long johns lol

[Guest Freegrl]

Ashleigh, it sounds like a really beautiful date. I've been to DC only once for work, but was lucky enough to be there when the Cherry Blossoms were blooming. I think it's great that your wife is learning more about you while you learn more about yourself and I wish you the best and hope that you can have very fun and loving moments in the future.

[Guest AshleighP]

Thank you all for the encouragement and advice. It all means a lot to me.

[Guest Freegrl]

Lots of love to you Ashleigh too!

If there is any advice that I could give is to use the "sniper" approach vs. the "shotgun" approach in that you're the one in control and that you and your wife can decide who is most eligible for to embrace what you want to share regarding your new approach to self-truth. Some friends and family will won't even blink and will be very happy for you and will stand beside you as a person and be proud along with you. The reverse can also be true too so don't forget to be careful.

I think that it was very romantic when you both agreed to wear tights due to cold weather.

Also, go slow. It's probably a big change for your wife as well as for yourself. If anything, I've been a far more attentive and engaged lover/ex-husband because of my own CD activities that encompasses everything from childhood to now. For some girls, it was cutting-edge-cool, but for one it was a cause for remorse.

With love,

-tina

[gennee]

A wonderful story, Ashleigh. Thank you for sharing.

[Guest Eve Caillard]

Ashleigh - how wonderful! I am jealous but proud of you! So glad you can be yourself and I hope you can progress with no setbacks. Good luck!

Hugs

Eve

[Guest Emma Leigh]

I agree with the others that advise caution Ashleigh...I dont want to dampen your ellation..but take it from someone who had a similar story which all went sour....just dont push it to far too fast honey