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i see a number of topics but my life is filled with searching out solutions that work. i'm on the cusp of being overweight for my height and so that is my problem; trimming weight. for someone who is not problematic with being heavily overweight the temptation to eat without qualfications is large. i spent most of my youth eating whatever i wanted whenever i wanted. about 20 year ago that became a problem. i developed gas and acidity. then i developed a skin itching and after visiting the dermatologist with no help, i went to an allergist on the advise of the wife of a PA. seems there is conflict with dermatologists and allergists. i was effectively determined to have food allergies. in retrospect this was not totally true. i had disgestion problems.

my solutions varied. at first i tried allergy shots. iffy results. then i tried cutting out certain foods. seems like pork was a problem. but actually because pork was cornfed was the problem. then i started cutting out grains. i found grains tended to gum up my works. then i was diagnosed with slight diverticulitus. i now feel that was due to eating abuse. too much sugar seems to have been in play.

as my weight problem developed i cut out all grains and sugars. then i changed my ph by eating lemons flavored with stevia. that was very helpful. i've been on this variation now for half a decade with good results. my naturalist friends confirm the problems with sugar at least.

finally i struggled a bit with kidney stones. at first i used distilled water to break them down. that works well as a temporary fix. then i got off any form of mineral supliment and moved to seaweed and sea salt. no kidney stones.

along with all this knowledge i became involved in neo paganism witch yielded a huge amount of herbal knowledge. one of the best things of this knowledge was milk thistle which helps regenerate the liver.

i also used herbs for breast growth but without success, however the value of herbs for me is preventative. i also use western vitamins and suppliments and have figured out which work. D and Zinc are great for flu and colds, E is good for skin problems etc. Calcium is a big deal and i got into tooth problems and started doses of that. kidney problems ensued. so i switched to coral calcium and got better results. i also had problems with ligaments from walking so much and got into chondrytin glucosamin.

so you see i have been busy with processes of elimination.

on the food front these little achievements helped balance my system. i tried regurgitation and enemas, laxatives and whatever to purge weight in small doses. i was troubled by this and after research realized i needed to center myself better. i can go more than 24 hours without eating but then feel the need to binge. sugar and grains become necessary and other seemingly innnocent foods become binge items. i tried to limit my fasts to 24 hours and then a mini binge but the desire was too great.

recently i have found shopping is the key to stopping binging. i now shop for items that don't excite me. i try to stick to lipid good foods and seasonings that have deeper value. our transgender clinic in iowa city informed my my lipid profile was off and so i moved to oils that were better suited. then i realized i was eating too much oil. so now i only use oil (olive) if i am cooking lightly. oil and salt were a good solution once upon a time but they are too exciting. i mostly eat fish and leafy greens now; no salads. i'm still going through withdrawals but my weight is effortlessly decreasing at a gentle rate. i eat when i am hungry, but only from the fish and greens and rice and beans menu. seaweed is essential as is sea salt. lemon juice and stevia are very helpful.

whew.! this path is by no means complete. i have been through enough to realize one has to keep nimble and change with the situation. but there are basics. sugar is huge, as is correct mineral absorbtion. intelligent suppliments and body ph are important. for me grain avoidance is a big deal. herbs can help. i am getting ready for long term sailing travel and know this will alter how i consume. currently i am more sedantary which has given me a good baseline. i do know that correct diet in our current society is a lifelong quest. fruit and leafy greens, salmon and some other fish are cool. alkaline inducing food like rhubarb or lemons are like medicine. we will see what happens when i take off for the sunset.

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hi Megan. sorry to hear about your distress. i included my past travails here because i wanted to show my impetus for how i think. currently i have no pain or distress. in fact i am not distracted by internal distress much except for temptation and withdrawal. i've been working out this scenario for 40 years and that probably looks fanatical on some levels i guess. at one time the distress was so acute that i was totally desparate! thank goodness that time has passed.

not knowing much about your situation, i can only tell you one thing appropriate i have learned; there is always a way. i refuse to accept pain in my body for any length of time. guess i'm stubborn! :)

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