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7 years of sobriety


Charlize

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Today is my anniversary. 7 years ago i crawled into the rooms of what is now my home group. I was a mess drinking 24hrs a day. I somehow had managed to avoid a DWI but had recently totaled a car. I realized that when my first grandson was born that i could't pick him up because of the shakes that racked my body. Hallucinations had started and were not sweet ones with pink elephants. I hated people and only wanted my best friend the bottle.

My life can only be seen as a miracle. I found a path that has brought me back to a life beyond my wildest dreams.

The rooms gave me a safe place to transition. I was not judged, just another human. The lifetime of shame and fear melted about 5 years into sobriety. It took time but this girl just seems to grow day by day thanks to the help of a higher power i found in the rooms. I can begin to drop my will now and live my life.

Thanks to the others here who have helped me as well. I could not have quit drinking or transitioned without the help of others.

Hugs of gratitude,

Charlie

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Congrats Charlie, it's so hard to break the cycle of self destruction, you did it !!

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Cyndi -

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Guest Kalie Aowynn

That first years was awesome. That fifth year was a relief allowing you to live again. And seven is a lucky year cause you survive day to day. Now for the rest of your life is ahead of you. You are an amazing woman.

Kalie

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Guest kristendk

Happy anniversary, Charlie. I think I can safely speak for others to say that you are one of the beacons of light here and we are blessed by your presence.

Kristen

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Guest Brenda Hailey

Congratulations Charlie!

I am glad you are sober and here able to help others as you were helped.

I often wonder what it would be like to be a sponsor and help someone myself.

I suppose it would be an easier answer to find if I actively participated, the selfless act of helping others is intriguing, but hard to grasp when there are many days I still feel I can barely help myself.

The thought is still floating around out there in my ethos.

Anyway, enjoy your day I hope it turns out well you deserve it.

Brenda Hailey

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High Five + Two for you girl!! 2555 day at a time's. With your work in Chat, that is a true gift to our brothers and sisters too.

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Charlie, congratulations on 7 years my friend. I was away when this was posted and some how missed it after... I guess I am too late for the cake or pizza :doh1: ??? "To thine own self be true"... Its on the medallions right? Like you, it took me awhile to get there; but it is pretty amazing isn't it Charlie... :friends:

ODAAT

Michelle

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I couldn't have done it without the help i got in the rooms and here. Sorry you missed the best cake i've had at Laura's!! It was great to see you at the AA Skype meeting. You look great and sound like your really blooming

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Charlize

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Guest denise_w

Cogratulations on "7 YEARS" of blessed sobriety!!!

Wonderful achievement and a true testiment to your committment to a better life...my hat is off to you, and I bow at your accomplishment.

I am only approaching 1 1/2 years, but I know YOU once were where I currently am now...and as long as I look yo your example, by God, I'll make it to 7 years too!

Take care Sister, you're beautiful!

Denise W.

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Thank you dear. 1 1/2 years is awesome!!!!! 7 is almost impossible for me to comprehend. My HP has been good to me. I was able to give a two year coin to a sponsee on Tues night. She was my first female sponsee after transition. I am amazed at how well the program works if we work it.

Welcome to Laura's. I see your a new girl here. You might want to post an introduction. After 5 posts you can use the PM system and maybe we can go to a meeting together.

Hugs,

Charlize

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Guest denise_w

Thank you Charlize, I was wondering why I couldn't access member's profiles (LOL)!

I guess I didn't read the fine print about the 5 posts, or the applicability of an intro...thank you for informing me.

I'm relatively early in my journey...recently resumed dressing and feminizing after a very long and painful period of suppression and denial where I forced myself to live as somebody I'm not (with disastrous results I might add).

But the important thing is that I'm in the transition process, taking the steps I need, to arrive where I want to go.

And to be sure...I have to arrive there SOBER!

You, your sobriety, and your transition, are models for me to follow.

Thanks for being such a Dear.

Denise W.

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