Going Public, First Time

[Guest Katie-Louise]

Whats going public like the first time either sometime this year or next i'm going to go public for the first time i'm really nervous. would like to hear some of your stories about going public first time might settle my nerves down a bit, thanks love from katie^^

[Guest Sophie Jean]

The first time I introduced myself as Sophie in the real world it took me two tries. No kidding. On May 7 of this year, my company sponsored me to a programming conference in San Francisco. The day I flew out, my wife provided me with makeup she had acquired through her Clinique visits, after I told her I was going to get a wig before catching the plane. I figured if I couldn't actually do it in San Fransisco, I couldn't do it anywhere. I had even researched where there was going to be a Drag performance when I got there. So I packed skirts and blouses, makeup and polish, and figured I could get away with my low-cut black boots.

That night, in preparation, I decided to go out in white women's jeans and a black blouse. I shaved my face and put on foundation, brushing out my wig. I was going for the androgynous look, hoping to transform with the rest of the makeup and wig when I got to the bar. After a mile walk down telegraph hill, I found the bar was closed. So I found someone on the street and asked them where transgendered people hang out, and he took me two blocks to an after-dinner club. Thanking him, I went inside and got depressed while sipping on my drink. My wig and purse still remained in my plastic bag. All the action was in another room behind curtains. I told the bartendress about my situation, and being my first night out and all. After a while, I just figured what the heck, and went to see what was left of the show and dancing. I didn't realize there were a lot of crossdressers there. They just looked normal, if a little dated.

After a bit, everyone came back out to the bar proper, and a gentleman with a revenge of the nerds haircut started talking with me. I told him about my situation, and wasn't sure about makeup and he responded by asking the girl on his arm (whom I suddenly noticed was a crossdresser herself) who I could talk to about makeup. Unfortunately, she wasn't very helpful and was a little stuck up. When I got my opportunity, I left the bar. But on the way back, being late, I ducked through an alley and put on my wig and makeup, walking the one mile back up telegraph hill to my hotel.

And here we come to May 8. This night, the club was open. I was in such a hurry to finish shaving my legs, I drew blood in fairly large scrapes. I attempted to cover them up with makeup--ouch! So I got ready as I did the night before, this time I wore my orange blouse, and packed my brown printed skirt in the bag. I got to an alley in the meat district and applied my wig and the rest of my makeup. From there, I proceeded to the club where the drag show--starring Heklina--was to be performed. I rapidly found another tgirl and asked where I could change. She pointed me to the one bathroom in the entire club. In there, I changed out of my slacks into my skirt, put on my accessories, and headed back to the bar. It was an amazing performance. After the show, a young lady next to me couldn't believe it was my first time out and introduced me her CD girlfriend standing right next to me. We talked, and I was introduced to another tgirl, who told me where all the best hangouts to go to were. Then they took pictures, including me. I never felt so accepted as I did that night.

First chance I got, I started planning my getaway. I headed to the bathroom to change, and a gentleman that really had to pee held the door open for me! Wow! I made it a point to change as quickly as I could back into my jeans since he was so nice. That complete, I headed out the door. There were a number of people out front, so I ducked around the corner to take off the wig. Some other guys came around the corner before I perform the last bit of transformation. One guy was nervously trying to hit on me, before his buddies came around the corner, teasing each other. At one point, while I was waiting for the all clear, I looked down to see a boy thing being stroked between two of the guys! Much more than I wanted to see, let me tell you. Anyway, they started getting more and more wild with one another, and I took the opportunity to walk back to the hotel room.

I went out two more nights that week while I was in San Francisco to a different club, and I came back home craving more. I decided then that I needed to get out in public at least once a month, and I needed to be with other people like myself.

I hope you have a great and safe adventure hun,

- Sophie Jean

[Guest Traci Nicole]

I've went public wearing jewelry, wormen's jeans, and some women's shirts and I'm not nervoues or even embarrased at all. I've been doing this for about an over one year. My next thing, in going into public with is to get fitted with a wig before my next Support Group Meeting in October 2007. Than that will be a another step into womanhood for me. The best thing to remember is to not get nervous, the more you get nervous the harder it will be for you. just be calm, cool, and collected, and It will work out.

[Guest Katie-Louise]

Going public first time more than likely 20th October with other tg/ts people who live in the west midlands/ birmingham area and ive written to a phyciatrist who specializes in GID (Gender Dypsphoria) and she is allowed to prescribe meds once diagnosed and evaluated etc. Looking forward to the appointment and going out in public for the first time ^^

[Guest Madison_Always]

good luck cant wait till im confident enough in myself to go out in public

[Guest angie]

My first time in public was going to my therapist's office,

It was about ten or fifteen miles from my home.

I was wearing this cute cute mini dress,brown.

I couldn't walk in heels worth a darn,but wear them i did.

Full makeup,and all the accesories including perfume.

And i was large and Very Muscular.

Did i care?Not in the least.I felt good/right.

No No No,i take that back.

My first encounter with my female image was when i was sixteen.

I"borrowed" a white with blue anchors halter dress from my girlfriend.

Nobody was home for the weekend.And my girl"Had To"come out to play.

All i did was walk the neighborhood,enjoying my freedom to express my femininity.

But that was all on the sly,the only one to know was me.

Kinda set the tone for my life early.

Angie

[Guest Jenny]

I still haven't tried but I so want to, I am happy and envious. The day will come soon I know it. Keep us updated and let us know what happens.

[Guest angie]

Morning Ladies,

My one piece of advice on wigs...

Wear it around the house until you get used to wearing it.

I mean wear it daily/make it feel like your own hair.

That way when you do go public...you wont keep your head and neck stiff.

Nothing will get you noticed like walking around with a stiff neck.

Be relaxed and casual...and You Will Be Just Another Girl Out And About.

Really...It Works.

Angie.

[Guest Jenny]

The other thing about wigs is to get one that fits. Mine is a little small so it is kind of useless to go out with.

[Guest Kimberley Jackson]

ive been out a few times as kimberley but at night and in the dark lol, i feel safe then so just slip on some jeans a top and heels and walk out. I walk for hours just wishing i was like it all the time and occasionally the odd dog walker walks past havnt had any comments yet but i feel its easier to walk past other woman than it is men but it has helped my confidence a lot just need a wig now xx kim

[Guest Katie-Louise]

I'm going out in public for the first time 2morrow i'm excited but really nervous. I'm going to my counsellor and sunday shopping. lots of love, katie louise

xxxxxx

[Guest EllenM]

I'm going out in public for the first time 2morrow i'm excited but really nervous. I'm going to my counsellor and sunday shopping. lots of love, katie louise

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Hoi katie louise,

What I see on the picture in your profile, I think it will not be a problem at all. Do not over due it in make-up and clothes. No heels more the 4 cm because that will feel more comfortable. and you can walk more female without balancing on bad side walks. ( It need some experience walking real sexy on high heels, better do that when you feel more comfortable. If you have a wig or own hair, visit a hairdresser first, it will make the difference. Woman do that often anyhow

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If people (woman) on the street "scan" you they look at hair and shoes, the thing in between are less important.

And I have some experience being post op since 1982.

All the best and let us know.

Kind regards

Ellen

[Guest Zenda]

Kia ora, KL,

I tell this to all who are going 'OUT' for the first time...Start visulising what you want to feel like and want to happen at the end of your 'OUTING'. For example how GOOD you're going to feel when your therapist tells you how lovely you look and how natural you are in the female [or in the case of F2Ms] male role. YOU DON'T HAVE TO VISULISE WHAT HAPPENS DURING YOUR SESSION WITH THE COUNSELOR...JUST HOW GOOD YOU ARE GOING TO FEEL AFTER-TRUST YOUR 'SUB CONSCIOUS' IT WILL TAKE CARE OF THE REST !...I know you are going to be great KL...I've already read your 'future' post !

Metta Jendar

[Guest Jenny]

That is real good advice, thanks I know I will use it.

[Guest Zenda]

Most people only make mistakes because they THINK they will...thought always comes before actions ! If we think somethings going to be difficult...it will be difficult. Have faith in yourself and trust your best friend...your SUB CONSCIOUS ! It will only fail you if you want to fail.

Every morning I wake up knowing that I'm going to have a great day and guess what... like magic it happens I have a great day. It all depends on ones outlook on life. Happiness never passes me by...it's waits patiently by my bedside each morning. Here I go again rattling on in my philosophical manner...sorry about that.

Metta Jendar

[Guest EllenM]

Most people only make mistakes because they THINK they will...thought always comes before actions ! If we think somethings going to be difficult...it will be difficult. Have faith in yourself and trust your best friend...your SUB CONSCIOUS ! It will only fail you if you want to fail.

Every morning I wake up knowing that I'm going to have a great day and guess what... like magic it happens I have a great day. It all depends on ones outlook on life. Happiness never passes me by...it's waits patiently by my bedside each morning. Here I go again rattling on in my philosophical manner...sorry about that.

Metta Jendar

Feeling down, dress up !!

Ellen

[Guest Eva Jean]

i hope your first day out went well, katie-louise. i would really like to her about as i'm sure many others would. i've been too afraid to so far but might soon but its cool to hear that you have overcome what i see a s major hurdle in the first day out thing

[Guest Emmy]

Is there a way i could go puplic even though i'm not in a neighborhood and i'm homeschooled?

[Guest angie]

Girls,

Looking at some of your pictures....hmmmm,she can pass easy,is my thoughts.

Now girls,the thing is don't make eye contact,just shop or whatever it will be,and enjoy yourself.

And when or if you get made/clocked...big deal.

Most wont say anything...if they do...ignore them,revel in your womanhood.

The first time is the hardest...it only becomes easy with much much practice and experience.

Above All...Enjoy The Real You.

Big Hugs Sisters O Mine,

Love,Angie.

[Guest Lethalia]

Hey there, Katie-Louise. OwUB? IBOK.

I am very curious as to how your first outing went. Katie-Louise, seriously, you are very pretty and should not worry too much about it. Don't get nervous. Do what you do… shop, smile, laugh, eat, drink, and be merry. If you are made, most people will not say anything. If they do, be kind and let them be in their own private Idaho (their own world). This is coming from a girl that gets made every time, no fail. It is my face that gives me away… not my body. Getting made has never stopped me or made me feel bad in any way whatsoever. It would be so wonderful to be as pretty as many of the girls I see here. But hey, all I ever wanted was everything.

A note here: I've no idea what your piece of the world is like. Just in case, I would like to say, be careful of where you travel alone. Do as I say, not as I do. I am a frail girl, but I look scary in my mourning black and extreme accouterments. So I do not appear the sweet little girl. You do. Be safe… as any genetic girl would too. Again, I am very curious as to how your first outing went.

Being Lorelei Gilmore…

Isabella Lethalia Innocenzi

[Guest Katie-Louise]

I went out and I passed it was nerve racking at first I wouldn't get out of the car was really scared but I finally just thought why not it's who I am and if people don't like it it's there problem no one was suspicious which was good it really gave me a confident boost after the disappointment earlier in the week which caused me to be suicidal again i must be a fighter after all the knock backs in my life i'm still fighting to be me and no one can deny me that. Were I live its very rough so to perfectly pass was a relief lots of love,

Katie

xxxxxx

[Guest Zenda]

Kia ora Katie,

Things can only get better And that old self esteem will GROW AND GROW !

Metta Jendar

[Guest angie]

Katie,

I hope you made it out and that it was nothing but positive.

Now,let me tell all about my REAL FIRST TIME.

My girlfriend Toni,invited me to go shopping in one of the malls in town.

I had been to group,and i had gone to the store,but i was always a bundle of nerves in public.

I couldn't relax and enjoy the experience at all.

Then came Miss Toni.She has been a woman for many years.

And to her IT IS NORMAL.

That girl is one out there kind of girl.

We went into shop after shop,and for the first time i got to try on dresses in a womans dressing room!

You want to talk about excited?Fear...what fear?Toni wouldn't allow me the time to be selfconsious.

"Come on Angie!We've got alot more stores to go to,let's go!"

It was so fun choosing blouses and skirts,pants and shorts,trying on sunglasses and hats.

I forgot all about being out in public for the first time really as a woman.

And the way she interacted with the clerks and other women shoppers was absolutely hilarious.

She would joke and cut up,flirt with the pretty ones.WOW...what an eye opening experience.

Did i buy anything?No,then again i didn't need to.I was doing what girls do when they want to have fun.

Shop until you drop.That girl kept me at the mall for hours and hours.

Until i i felt like a real girl.

Talk about life changing experiences.

I will never forget it.

Nor will i ever be able to thank Toni enough for giving me such a valuable experience.

Remember girls,take a chance,go with a friend,and above all...Relax And Have Fun.

Hugs,

angie

[Guest Jenny]

That is a cool storie Angie, and I hope you hade a great time Katie. Have you ever noticed that there is like a 50-50 draw to people who have had luck and those that seem to find no reprieve. It is kind of interesting, I would really enjoy having a friend like your Toni, it would be great.

[Guest Zenda]

If you think you will fail...YOU WILL FAIL..If you think SUCCESS YOU WILL SUCCEED AND CONFIDENCE IS ALL YOU NEED ! At the old place where I worked on every wall was a big sign 'I CAN' [a form of subliminal persuasion] everywhere one looked was the sign 'I CAN' and after a while I must admit I DID.

Metta Jendar