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How can I make myself look androgynous?


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Guest Ashlyn M

So, I asked this earlier on the MTF forum and I'm sorry to ask again but I feel like this may be a different and better way to ask my question. I would like to start being more androgynous but I don't know what I can do. I'd love to thin or arch my eyebrows but I feel like I would mess up. What type of clothes should I wear? Should I try makeup and if so what type? My hair a little passed my shoulders in the back and sort of just down to my nose in the front if that makes sense. That's just how it grows I guess. What can I do to my hair? Again I'm really sorry for asking this so many times but I'm really desperate and I feel bad for doing it. I still do really appreciate the other replies I got on my first question about this in the MTF forum. Thank you all soo very much you're amazing! :) I appreciate anyone who helps me in this one as well. Everyone here has been so kind to me and is always helping which makes you all wonderful people.

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Guest Nicodeme

You can get your eyebrows waxed if you don't trust yourself with a pair of tweezers. After that, you can probably pluck hair growing back in since it will be easier to spot in relation to the desired shape of your brows.

Your hair seems like it would be fine for your purposes. Pinterest is a good place to go for hairstyle inspiration and easy tips. If you feel safe wearing clothing from the womens section, I'd say go for it. Particularly casual tops and pants. As long as you're not going out in over-the-top clothing like skirts and low-cut tops nobody's really going to think much of it. Fiance/e's default street clothes come from the women's section and nobody has given them trouble in public.

I would recommend you invest in a belt because...well. Unless you tuck, you'll be very uncomfortable unless you buy jeans a size or two larger.

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Guest April.

Wear jeans and tees. . Pretty andro. I had male shirts that were cut not so different from my womens ones apart from the chest. I have jeans the same, fit really well but had a bit more room in the front. Soon enough you will be passed the andro look anyway... I was completely male failing in guys clothes.

Don't do your brows, go to a salon and get them shaped. You can then tweeze a few strays here and there but it is better to get them done every couple of weeks. I have said on here before, some shapes are unachievable, or wouldn't suit some faces. I wax people all the time but I still go to a salon to get mine done. As do most other therapists I speak too.I also love a tint. Really brings out the eyes.

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Guest Gregg Jameson

Hi Pinkie,

There are some great suggestions here for you from members.

It's important to get a feel for what you like and for the types of dress, cosmetics, hairstyles with which you feel comfortable.

It makes sense to try a few different changes, even gradual changes and to then see how you feel. Taking smaller risks, initially, may give you the confidence to then take further risks in more overtly expressing your own unique style. You will eventually adjust your style to best express yourself as you experiment and as you experience changes.

I have found it very helpful to also take a look at fashion sites/magazines. I often do not see the style I prefer in my immediate surroundings, yet learn more about what's available via looking beyond my immediate environment.

While its often helpful to obtain suggestions, this is also a prime time to gain a greater awareness of yourself, your own identity, as well as trying things for yourself and getting a deep feel for who you are and how you'd like to express yourself!

Just relax and have fun with your self expression!

In Celebration of You,

Brad

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