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Hello everyone,

I am Midoe, I am 20 years old... wow, I don't really know what to say. Well I guess I'll just tell you all, a little about my self. I have a feance, and a best friend who both care and respect who I am and what I feel. I have been doing some, a lot actually, of research on how I feel. I just became even more confused, what with many places using words like transsexual and transgender, interchangeably, then I found this site and after much browsing I feel better in knowing that I am not alone in what I am feeling.

I recently opened up to both my feance, Ashley, and my best friend of 7 years, Sarah. They were both very loveing and supportive, but they just can't help me in the way I need. While I can talk to them both about anything, they just wont truly understand. Ever since I could remember I was uncomfortable with my body and that I was special. (I refuse to use the word “different” just because it has negative connotations attached to it) I am just now coming to terms with the fact that I might be a women. I have always suppressed any of these thoughts in the past, dismissing them as bad thoughts, and thats not who I am, but now that people know that I have these feelings, and are accepting of it, I can start to accept it too. I know I'm not wrong or bad, I just feel what I feel, and thats why I am here, to learn more about both myself and what I feel. As of right now, Ashley and Sarah are the only two people in my life that know about this.

Let's see, I'm not sure how much or what you guys would want to know about me, but here's some general, non-related info about me. I have been dateing my feance (I think thats how it's spelled) for 7 years. I absolutely love Star Wars. Some of my hobbies include reading, Stephen King's the Dark Tower, series is the absolute best, video games, I fallow the gaming industry very closely, but I prefer the non competition based stuff more. Ever sense I was old enough to push a button, Ive had a controller in my hands, I just love to get lost in their worlds and see the relationships between charters that I have control over.

My parents a divorced (no big deal, they separated when I was 1) I am going to college (my 3rd year) with a major in health sciences, with the goal to become a gynecologist. As you can tell, I like to talk, but I love even more to listen and be talked to, so I guess thats it for now. Thank you all so much for creating a place where I can go and not feel different, but were I can feel special.

-Midoe

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Guest Donna Jean

Good morning, Midoe!

California?? That's nice ....I used to live in the Bay area!

So....Let me welcome you the the Playground! You seem like you have some things on your mind and you've come to a very good place to work on them......

So....first things first!..Hot coco for you...hot and steaming....It's a big mug, so hold it in both hands...Isn't that warm?

And some of Sally's double chocolate chip cookies to dip into the coco...that's really nice.

We have a really wonderful place here with loving, caring, special folks that you will meet very shortly...It's safe (we keep it that way)..so there are no meanies...

The fire is warm...kick off your shoes and have a look around....you'll like it here!

Welcome!

XXOO

Donna Jean

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Guest Ashlee

Midoe,

Hello and welcome to the Playground!

I too felt many of the feelings you are dealing with. It is very confusing and drove me nuts at times! Spending time here has helped me to understand what I'm going through and know that many, many others have those same feelings that I had. I encourage you to look around, read the many stories and posts. It will help you find your true self.

Its is great that you have 2 wonderful people to help you through this. There is a section for SO's here that they may be interested in too. Have them sign up, it will help them to understand what your going through.

You've had your cocoa, Sally should be along with the cookies soon! They are awesome and completely calorie free!

{{Hugs}}

Ashlee

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Hi Midoe and welcome. Thank you for sharing your story. I went through similar experiences but now am happy and complete. This is a great site where you can be yourself.

Gennee

:D

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Guest Naomi Stardust

welcome

you've found a great place to figure out who you are

you'll find a lot of support here

and a lot of people with similar issues willing to give advise

and in need of advise

so please stay talkative and post a bunch

you are special

you're gender gifted

glad you found us

hope we can help

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Guest ~Brenda~
Hello everyone,

I am Midoe, I am 20 years old... wow, I don't really know what to say. Well I guess I'll just tell you all, a little about my self. I have a feance, and a best friend who both care and respect who I am and what I feel. I have been doing some, a lot actually, of research on how I feel. I just became even more confused, what with many places using words like transsexual and transgender, interchangeably, then I found this site and after much browsing I feel better in knowing that I am not alone in what I am feeling.

I recently opened up to both my feance, Ashley, and my best friend of 7 years, Sarah. They were both very loveing and supportive, but they just can't help me in the way I need. While I can talk to them both about anything, they just wont truly understand. Ever since I could remember I was uncomfortable with my body and that I was special. (I refuse to use the word “different” just because it has negative connotations attached to it) I am just now coming to terms with the fact that I might be a women. I have always suppressed any of these thoughts in the past, dismissing them as bad thoughts, and thats not who I am, but now that people know that I have these feelings, and are accepting of it, I can start to accept it too. I know I'm not wrong or bad, I just feel what I feel, and thats why I am here, to learn more about both myself and what I feel. As of right now, Ashley and Sarah are the only two people in my life that know about this.

Let's see, I'm not sure how much or what you guys would want to know about me, but here's some general, non-related info about me. I have been dateing my feance (I think thats how it's spelled) for 7 years. I absolutely love Star Wars. Some of my hobbies include reading, Stephen King's the Dark Tower, series is the absolute best, video games, I fallow the gaming industry very closely, but I prefer the non competition based stuff more. Ever sense I was old enough to push a button, Ive had a controller in my hands, I just love to get lost in their worlds and see the relationships between charters that I have control over.

My parents a divorced (no big deal, they separated when I was 1) I am going to college (my 3rd year) with a major in health sciences, with the goal to become a gynecologist. As you can tell, I like to talk, but I love even more to listen and be talked to, so I guess thats it for now. Thank you all so much for creating a place where I can go and not feel different, but were I can feel special.

-Midoe

Dear Midoe.

You are definitely not alone in what your are experiencing. I applaud you in your self-realization for someone so young! You are extremely fortunate being able to come out to your obviously two very good friends. Being able to disclose who and what you are is truley so important! I, myself did not feel whole until I was able to do the very same thing.

WELCOME! We are all of like mind. You are safe here, and we will help you every way that we can. You are not different! You are who you are, and that is wonderful!

Please come in, and feel warm, and welcome.

We are all here for you.

bernie

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Guest Zabrak

Heh.

So are you a Sith or a Jedi? I myself am part of the Dark Brotherhood. So I wonder which you belong to. :lol:

I'm 20, too, been on HRT for three months. It's great to meet you! Thank you for sharing your story.

Welcome to Laura's Playground, Midoe.

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Welcome Midoe,

I'm sorry that I wasn't here earlier to greet you, but when you make double chocolae chip cookies you have to go to the store twice as often!

These are fresh from the virtual oven.

If you are uncomfortable wth transsexual and transgenderd and not too wild about different, try my favorite Gender Gifted! :D

Enoy the forums we are here for your support and eduction, but we can have some fun too, jump right in!

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Jackson

Welcome. Part of the Official Welcoming Committee has been around already.

Good luck with your studies. I'm in the heath care field as well.

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