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We missed you at the AA Chat meeting earlier, not saying we could have stopped you or turned you in another direction, but you did not give us a chance.

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I work in food service. Weekends are very busy for me. Chat at 9 on Sundays is very much impossible. I'm fighting myself, but I'm trying to reach out.

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I work in food service. Weekends are very busy for me. Chat at 9 on Sundays is very much impossible. I'm fighting myself, but I'm trying to reach out.

Please take Rem's invitation to join them any time in Chat. If you see me here in the forums, PM me and I can go over to chat myself most of the time and just talk about the alky. It only takes two to have an AA meeting as long as both of them have a desire to be free from our shared demon.

IRL, one easy way to reach out is to find an AA meeting, and just go there and sit in a chair. There are meetings going somewhere near you at all hours of day or night. Your family needs you sober as I learned the hard way, and the honesty that goes with it is a lesson even for our youngest family members. As I said though, just sit in a chair, and in time others will reach out to you, you don't need to say anything other than "my drinking is out of my control" to be there in a fellowship of people who know what it is to have lost their love of self, and are on the road to finding it again.

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Hi dear one, Please do take Vicky up on doing a meeting. I'd be happy to join in if i'm on line. AA saved my life. I am an addict who lost control of any hope or promise. Many trans folks seem to share the addiction. I have quite a few friends in recovery who are in food services. We've had some amazing sober new years dinners. For several years we fed large gatherings with up to 65 turkeys and all the trimmings along with AA meetings every hour. The program has given me a path to sobriety and i hope you will join us. There are meetings at all times including GLBT meetings which are accepting. I also went to women's meetings before going full time. Now i simply go to any meeting that appeals and most do.

My PM box has room.

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Charlize

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Michelle: It's probably a problem. I don't have a problem with it. I have a problem without it. And only significant others have had a problem with it.

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I'm very sorry you had such a bad experience in chat. If you'd like to come back and talk to one of the red or green crisis mods, we'd be more than happy to help. I'm sorry you didn't receive good support the first time, but well done for trying, that in itself is a big step.

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Hi Belle. I was in chat Sunday night for the first time in a while. Sorry you had a bad experience. Did you go to the substance abuse room or hang out in the community central? We try not to ignore anyone in the SA room :)

PM me or Vicky or Charlize if you like. I don't know what name you used in chat so I can't address any issues directly. There was no Southern or Belle in the SA room Sunday night from 9-10... Please try again. It is a friendly group. If there is someone who is in pain we tend to focus there and its possible for another to feel ignored for a while but the regulars try hard to be inclusive honey...

Regarding the problems being when you are not drinking.... yeah, I get that for sure. It ALWAYS got worse when I stopped, never better until I went to AA. I quit drinking 50 times in 15 years..... AA changes us, not the world around us... It really can be different with help.

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Michelle

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Here is a PM i sent you but you need to make some room in your box so we can chat there as you like.




"Sorry you couldn't PM me. I'll check my box and make sure to make some room. I just got back from a week in the hospital dealing with heart problems caused in part at least by drinking and smoking. I was almost successful at suicide by substance abuse. i knew i was killing myself but couldn't stop. Now i'm happier than i've ever been and loving my life as a sober woman.

Off to check the box."


We do want to help as we can so please keep trying. We will.


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Charlize
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@Charlize: I'm pretty sure my box is nearly empty. Most of the messages there were deleted by me a long time ago. I recently received a PM by someone, btw. Thank you for responding.

@Everyone: I will try chat again in a moment. Thanks. I'm afraid to go to AA. I've been many times due to troubles with the law when I was much younger as a result of my past drug use. For the record, I no longer use and haven't in a very long time. I was never hooked, just very rebellious. My point is that I'm familiar with AA and the program, but have only attended when I was only trying to get a signature to show a judge. In other words, the thought of going all by my lonesome to address a real issue and such frightens the poop out of me.

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