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Cut my hair...the journey begins


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Guest SamIThinkIAm

And it's freaking sweeeet XD

Went out to see my aunt (always sounds weird to say...she's only 3 years older than I am) yesterday and wandered around downtown with her while she did some shopping.

(Side note: seriously? $200 shoes? No freaking way in hell. Just no. That could be used for so many other things...like tarantulas...)

Sat there and talked with the sales guy while she looked for shoes. Noticed for the first time the difference in the way people respond to me vs her and was both thrilled and surprised.

The funny thing is I don't bind (DD's anyone?) and my hair at that point was down to my shoulders. But I got that guy head nod of recognition and 'hey' instead of 'oh, how can I help you miss, see anything you like?'.

Sweet deal lol.

Then, then I cut my hair. It's all freaking gone. I am NOT amused with what the hairdresser tried to do with the front of it (I have mega massive ugly cowlicks) so it's all crazy and everywhere. But the rest of it looks ok. Bit of a shocker because normally I hide behind my hair and it draws everything away from my body and just in general looks dysphoria---becoming 'the problem' instead. Now that it's gone...wow I'm uncomfortable. It's all...'hello my face....*cringe*'.

I think I'm absolutely gonna grow it out a bit (I miss my rocker/bedhead look) but this was an interesting experiment (and now I have to actually work on taming my cowlicks -_- ugh spending time on my hair).

I have, however, officially passed into the 'boy....girl....the hell?' category XD

To the dude last night who did (wait for it) the ridiculously obvious triple take on me on the subway....you made my night lol. You really think I didn't see you? Reality check: if I've made eye contact with you *twice* you really think I don't see you staring at soon as I look away? I *know* you're looking.

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Guest Zayden

Sounds like a good day. I'm glad for you. :) I also have some hair problems and use this hair stuff made by tresemme - styling putty is what the container says. You only need to use a tiny bit though.

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Guest Clair Dufour

I understand that cutting your hair shorter is a shock. But, if you want to look more masculine and draw attention away from you chest and such that what it takes. Guys like me with hair in their face send the opposite message. While your adjusting to this, find a new hair cutter. One who is lesbian, gay and if your very lucky TG. The rest don't understand TG and cut for your sex. If your in Montreal I suggest Rue St Laurante to start. Look at women and ask yourself, How short can I go? These days that's very short. Many women who are not TG or gay have short hair for many reasons. If you need an excuse, you got one lousy haircut you don't like and go get an even shorter lousy (to them?)haircut that you like. Unlike hormones and surgery, hair is non invasive and grows back if you want it to. But, it provides a way of trying on TG and lesbian looks to see if it fits with what you feel.

PS: Social pressure: My French Canadian parents had eight or nine siblings each. That one or two were LGBT was not an issue. As a matter of fact, those that were stayed with my grand parents till the day they died! Now days in La Canada having that number of siblings is rare. Parents now have invested their future in one or perhaps two children. This places great stress on both parents and children regarding their relationship. But the best answer is still. accept me and my lover (I hope) and we will be here for you for the rest of our lives.

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Now that I'm settling into the haircut and managed to get it vaguely looking how I wanted (and washing all the chemical stank off my head...yuck) I'm starting to dig it a bit. Cowlicks and widow's peak notwithstanding XD....must. get. hair. products.

I guess for me I'm not really interesting in dressing/cutting my hair a certain way simply to be more masculine. I'm pretty ok with me as is and my level of femininity/masculinity, so it's all about finding what I like.

Whether I pass or not....enh, not so much.

I correct people as I see fit and it'll come with T and time.

Girly boy? Yup, I'm pretty fabulous... so for me going for anything and everything 'masculine' just for the sake of social recognition or passing feels about as right as seeing myself as female.

The other bit being I have rather large and oddly shaped surgical scars on the back of my head so I need some length---even if that means that a woman may also wear it that short (though really...minus the top/front I've got about an inch of hair so how much shorter could one go lol?) and having a long face plus a large skull (darn hydrocephalus -_-) means any kind of crew or buzzcut is an oh *heck* no.

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