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Hello my name is Dominic and I've been holding this in for a long. At the age of 6 i've knew I wanted to be female. I grew up with 2 sisters and 3 brothers. Myself being the youngest I learned that different in this way would have been bad if my mom and dad found out. So I kept it to myself. As a teen it was hard. Before I graduated high school I moved out and started to explore being a female. I told some of my closest friend and I got hurt so I stopped. Later I meet my wife. I told her all about it before we got married. Now after 4 years all of the feeling have come back and are strong. I have told her that I thinking about being a female again. She has been nothing but supportive. I just started cousoling and im scared. I want to finally tell my parents. Any advice??

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Welcome to the Playground, Dominic. You've come to the right place. I think we can help you.

First, I am very happy that your spouse is so supportive. That is not a common occurrence, but it is wonderful when it happens. Parents can be difficult, because along with feelings of loss, sometimes there are feelings of guilt ("what did we do wrong?"), and of fear, as well. There are a great many resources in the Coming Out Forum that will help, including examples of letters that people have written, and links to sites with advice and understandable information for parents and families of transfolk. The Human Rights Campaign (HRC) and this site

http://nytransguide.org/

are good resources.

Please look around the forums, post any questions, and make comments as you wish. If you don't see something you need, ask us, and we'll try to help.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

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Guest AliciaDB2014

Welcome!

There are a lot of boards and a lot of resources here for both you and your wife, if she is interested in joining here as well.

I don't have any advice on how to tell your parents other than to be honest, be forthcoming, be ready for a lot of questions and remember that you have a spouse standing by your side supporting you through all of it.

Good luck to you! hope to see you around :)

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Hello Dom,

Welcome to Laura's Playground. :)

MaryEllen

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Guest ashleynikole

Welcome to the playground Dom.

I'm not sure what I did will work for you, but what I did worked for me so there was no arguing or knee jerk reactions.

I wrote a letter to my parents (gave me time to read, re-read, and edit before sending) and I explained my feelings from 7 (farthest I remember) to now along with the struggles I faced both internally and externally. When I sent it to them, I requested they sleep on it and re-read it and formulate thoughts before we talked about it. This, I think, went a long way in keeping people from jumping to conclusions about things and also made sure that everything I wanted to say, got said.

You can read a slightly modified version of the letter at my blog.

Good luck and God bless.

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Hi Dom,
<<< hug >>>
Welcome to Laura's Playground.
Please feel free to come over and chat sometime.
The Chat room does require another registration that is separate from from your forums one.
Please read the chat room rules before coming in, and expect a short interview with one of the chat room moderators.
One of the things that they will ask you is if you read the rules. :)
We all look forward to seeing you.
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