I have a curious fascination with gay men...

[Guest]

I have had a relationship with a guy when I was dressed as a girl, having him be masculin, get the door for me, etc while I got to be submissive as well was a big turn on.

But the problem is I'm not terribly attracted to men. But it seems to fit when one is in feminine mode. I almost wish I wasn't atracted to women, so I play girl full time...

The two sides within fight back and fourth...

Anyone else feel like that?

[Guest Clair Dufour]

I have had more than one man with his hand up my skirt in a gay bar and enjoyed the feminine feelings. But like you, I'm not into men and make no mistake, they know a crossdresser when they see one. Also, I have had more than one woman with her hand up my skirt in a lesbian bar and and enjoyed the feminine feelings.They also know a crossdresser when they see one. We all have gender identities besides sexual preferences that many LGBT people enjoy exploring. There are women (Bi?) in such places that have as much or more masculine gender ego than you do. Question is, can you deal with it?

[Guest AliciaDB2014]

From my personal experience: born female, identify as an alpha female personality, bi-sexual and masculine tendencies, I've taken a majority of the gender requirements out of my dating (and married) life. For me, its a personality connection and not a gender connection.

From my perspective, it sounds like you want to be feminine or submissive to a masculine or dominant personality. My husband and I tend to stay within the opposite gender's "social norms" for behavior. I'm the dominant one, hes the submissive one (and no, I don't mean submissive in a negative way). There is nothing wrong with feeling like you have someone there to be your champion. It doesn't mean that you are gay if you want to be taken care of or have a door held open for you, it just means that you identify more with the traditional gender roles and you are on the side of the female in the traditional roles. You could find a woman who identifies herself as the traditional masculine role, you just need to know what characteristics to look for.

[Guest]

From my personal experience: born female, identify as an alpha female personality, bi-sexual and masculine tendencies, I've taken a majority of the gender requirements out of my dating (and married) life. For me, its a personality connection and not a gender connection.

From my perspective, it sounds like you want to be feminine or submissive to a masculine or dominant personality. My husband and I tend to stay within the opposite gender's "social norms" for behavior. I'm the dominant one, hes the submissive one (and no, I don't mean submissive in a negative way). There is nothing wrong with feeling like you have someone there to be your champion. It doesn't mean that you are gay if you want to be taken care of or have a door held open for you, it just means that you identify more with the traditional gender roles and you are on the side of the female in the traditional roles. You could find a woman who identifies herself as the traditional masculine role, you just need to know what characteristics to look for.

Thats a great thought... as well as the other comment. In most roles of my life (work relationships) etc, I have always been the leader, directing the lost or those with no direction. But I really just want someone to follow, lead me by the hand and I'll do what you want me to do. Seems strange to ask no to be incontroll... I never considered having a female play this role with me...you are on to something!

[Guest AliciaDB2014]

From my personal experience: born female, identify as an alpha female personality, bi-sexual and masculine tendencies, I've taken a majority of the gender requirements out of my dating (and married) life. For me, its a personality connection and not a gender connection.

From my perspective, it sounds like you want to be feminine or submissive to a masculine or dominant personality. My husband and I tend to stay within the opposite gender's "social norms" for behavior. I'm the dominant one, hes the submissive one (and no, I don't mean submissive in a negative way). There is nothing wrong with feeling like you have someone there to be your champion. It doesn't mean that you are gay if you want to be taken care of or have a door held open for you, it just means that you identify more with the traditional gender roles and you are on the side of the female in the traditional roles. You could find a woman who identifies herself as the traditional masculine role, you just need to know what characteristics to look for.

Thats a great thought... as well as the other comment. In most roles of my life (work relationships) etc, I have always been the leader, directing the lost or those with no direction. But I really just want someone to follow, lead me by the hand and I'll do what you want me to do. Seems strange to ask no to be incontroll... I never considered having a female play this role with me...you are on to something!

Well I hope you are able to find someone that makes you happy. I've often found that once I take away my list of "must haves" and "no way"s, people have come into my life that otherwise never would have. Sometimes we need to let go of our comfort blankets and look outside of our normal boundaries in order to really find happiness. And as a bonus - its always nice to be taken care of!

[Charlize]

As you i also like to give up the dominant role and allow others to pamper me a bit. Sometimes that person is male sometimes female and the actions taken are very rarely sexual in nature but just somehow feel right for my gender expression. I am also capable of jumping to dominance. In the cis world this is called "female dog" but now that i've transitioned i better deserve the title.

Enjoy the feeling and with luck you will find a woman as Alicia describes who has other sides as well.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest]

As you i also like to give up the dominant role and allow others to pamper me a bit. Sometimes that person is male sometimes female and the actions taken are very rarely sexual in nature but just somehow feel right for my gender expression. I am also capable of jumping to dominance. In the cis world this is called "female dog" but now that i've transitioned i better deserve the title.

Enjoy the feeling and with luck you will find a woman as Alicia describes who has other sides as well.

Hugs,

Charlize

M biggest fear is "what girl willlike me if I dress like this" Maybe I should dress like this to make sure shes the right girl. If she doesnt like me in drag then maybe shes not right for me.