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Guest BAX1A

Ok so I am MTF and this is the only time i have dressed up. This Wig is cheap 3.00 from wal-mart and i think it makes it too obvious that i am not a girl. I don't know if it is the wig or maybe blonde ain't my color or maybe my face just looks to masculine, idk!! please comment back ^_^

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Guest Zack L

Gotta agree with Kelly Ann -- smile some more! =D

I can't tell if the blonde is good or bad...I'm not so good with colors or style or...anything....XD

And also, cheap wigs never look good. I cosplay and have a fair amount of experiance with wigs -- you want to get a fairly good quality one. The ones I use are synthetic, and used for characters with weird looking hair...but I can suggest the sites I get my wigs from, they carry normal looking ones too.

Cosworx

Amphigory

Cosworx is where I generally get mine, but Amphigory is very nice too.

Hope that was helpful in some way. =3

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Guest Little Sara

Cheap 3$ wigs won't look like real hair even remotely. Can't really judge there. Cissexual women could pass for men by being "too artificial" visibly. A cissexual woman as a drag queen would probably be considered a man.

And yes, smiling helps a lot.

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Guest julia_d

I noticed your eyebrows.. natural blonde?.. the rest of your skin seems to suggest quite a fair complexion and so blonde works well.. stay with it.

As somebody who got into wearing cheap wigs on stage they do have a few redeeming features. You can make them pass.. but you have to make them obviously a statement and obviously not your real hair. Quite a few girlfriends from the goth/punk fringes I hang out with will do all sorts of things and be unrecognisable from one day to the next. They tie things in their cheap nylon wigs.. they add different colours and tie them up. Then they go for makeup which makes just as much of a statement.

Don't worry too much about it.. the best thing to do is invest in one reasonable wig.. go and get it styled and wear it until it becomes a part of your normal day to day routine... otherwise you end up walking around with the "stiff neck syndrome" which looks odd. There really isn't any need to spend a fortune on real human hair wigs.. I have a couple which are for ladies who are having cancer treatments.. They are reasonably priced and look 99% normal... People who recognise them also know that they are "cancer wigs" and don't say anything.. otherwise in day to day wear they are just fine.. nobody notices.. Your own hair should grow out in time and allow you much more freedom to experiment.

And.. smile.. the smile says more than anything else. Even if you are bricking it inside an outward air of confidence and a smile goes a long way to passing. I stopped caring what people think a long time ago.. when I realised actually most of them aren't thinking at all ;)

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Guest Donna Jean
Blonde is OK...just stop looking soooo serious BAX1A...you look just fine :) Lighten up a tad dear, Kelly Ann

Gee, Hon!

How can you NOT smile with Kelly Ann right underneath you??...lol!

Hey, Sweetie you'll do fine,...listen to some of the good advice on wigs in the other posts above me....you're cute...

HUGGS

Donna Jean

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Everyone has told you to smile - do you know why?

Go out and watch women walking down the street, unless they just had a fight with their SO or someone died most of them will have a smile on their faces, most very slightly upturned corners and lips togehter.

Men are the one's who go around frowning!

How can you not be happy, you're a lovely young ladyand you have found Laura's and a lot of new friends.

You have by-passed the introductions forum and no one has welcomed you - sliding in the side door, reminds me of Evan.

Come in sit down and have some hot cocoa and cookies, we are all here for you and hope that you enjoy your time here.

Relax and don't be so hard on yourself.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest AshleyLauren
Blonde is OK...just stop looking soooo serious BAX1A...you look just fine :) Lighten up a tad dear, Kelly Ann

Personally, I'd suggest a dark red colour, almost brown you know?

:D, Alysha

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Guest Pioneer

Grow out your hair. It really gives you a different look than any wigs you pay for.

From my experience, though, expensive ones look like crap as cheaper ones. If you just wanna experiement with what you might look like with different hairstyles, cheaper ones are way to go and no regret on how much money you can spend on.

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Guest MrAwesome

Well, your face looks kinda chubby almost I wanna say, like a Woman's. You face is smooth looking, and your lips look around the same size if not bigger than mine. And I'm Pre-T. Your nose looks okay. You look more like an FTM. We scowl and look all GRR and serious! >=( <(GRRRR) Get a different wig. I'll give you a wig with my Arm pit hair that'll be good and long... and real... and smelly... and bacteria infested... okay never mind... lol! I think brown is the best color around. Blondness kills braincells! (Ask my mom) (And my therapist) LOL I'm a meanie aren't I? ;)

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Guest Elizabeth K
Well, your face looks kinda chubby almost I wanna say, like a Woman's. You face is smooth looking, and your lips look around the same size if not bigger than mine. And I'm Pre-T. Your nose looks okay. You look more like an FTM. We scowl and look all GRR and serious! >=( <(GRRRR) Get a different wig. I'll give you a wig with my Arm pit hair that'll be good and long... and real... and smelly... and bacteria infested... okay never mind... lol! I think brown is the best color around. Blondness kills braincells! (Ask my mom) (And my therapist) LOL I'm a meanie aren't I? ;)

Lewis is such a smooth tonged devil, don't you think? GRIN

Spend $40 or so on the next wig. Take VERY good care of it.

Consider growing your hair out. Blonde is fine, usually the darker Honey blondes or streaked types look more natural.

Doing fine sweetheart - oh oh oh - I'd pass on the underarm hair offer!

Lizzy

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