How to lighten up

[Guest aliasGreta]

I am very fortunate to have a spouse who doesn't mind that I like to crossdress. But when I do dress up, I'm at a loss for how to make it a bit more lighthearted than it usually is, and I would like to find some ways to do that. Do any of you out there make a game out of dressing with your spouse? I hear of 'fantasy' and 'role playing' but don't know where to start with that.

I look ok dressed, so my partner isn't grossed out. She really wants to please me, she always gets off when we play, and she has stated that she wished I'd share this with her more. It's mostly my nervousness about it that causes a bit of tension.

Would appreciate any suggestions any of you might have.

[VickySGV]

There is really no limit to what can be done as long as it is within the comfort zone of the people involved. "Fantasy" and "Role Play" have a number of definitions ranging from PG to XXX so I will leave those to others for suggestions. My first suggestion in the more ordinary direction, is simply a girl's night out at a fancy restaurant where good dinner dresses or gowns are the theme. Live theater or concerts while you are dolled up is another direction some take. Of course there are movies as well. You say Northern California but that locates you no more finitely that my admitting I am in Southern California. If you are in the Bay area, several hours of Cable Car riding can be thrilling in a skirt. Or a tour of Alcatraz en femme would stir some juices. For Sacramento, shopping in Old Folsom or Old Town Sacto. would be a literal "outing" that gets you in girl mode. Tourist traps while CD can be a theme.

Big Time Item -- anything you can do in male mode, you can do cross dressed and have a whopping good time.

[Guest April Kristie]

Greta, let your imagination get the best of you. You could be a masseuse for her, be a sweet cook in the kitchen and give her a menu of her favorite things, then you make it for her and dote on her every need. Or you could get into silly sweet couples games of getting physically close to one another without touching until the raw energy tears you both up inside. Like I said use your imagination, you do not say how long you have been together, but most longer relationships require retuningand spicing up from time to time.

[Guest]

^^^ That's one way of keeping things G rated. ^^^^

Huggs,

Joann

[Charlize]

Try to keep it somehow romantic and fun for her as well as you and it will only get better. She might even get to like her new girlfriend and who knows where things might go from there.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest aliasGreta]

Try to keep it somehow romantic and fun for her as well as you and it will only get better. She might even get to like her new girlfriend and who knows where things might go from there.

Hugs,

Charlize

That's my plan at the moment. Thanks.

[Guest Fiona]

I am very fortunate to have a spouse who doesn't mind that I like to crossdress. But when I do dress up, I'm at a loss for how to make it a bit more lighthearted than it usually is, and I would like to find some ways to do that. Do any of you out there make a game out of dressing with your spouse? I hear of 'fantasy' and 'role playing' but don't know where to start with that.

I look ok dressed, so my partner isn't grossed out. She really wants to please me, she always gets off when we play, and she has stated that she wished I'd share this with her more. It's mostly my nervousness about it that causes a bit of tension.

Would appreciate any suggestions any of you might have.

Frankly, I think your answer is within your own post.

and she has stated that she wished I'd share this with her more

This is your 'in'.

When my wife and I started 'this', I took it slow, panties, then add a bra and so on. My wife also loves this in order to not 'shock' her, just keep it at a slow progression.

Good for you.....