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Women are so hot

BUT

so are boys...

I just feel natural as a girl...

Im on test, but had the doctor lower it so I stop having body hair and man muscles...

I dont know whether to go forward as a guy or a girl.

As a guy I get alot of pretty girls, and get alot of hot guys... But I dont know what I am...

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I do hope you are discussing your feelings with a therapist dear. Confusion can often be very strong to start. Be patient and get professional help as well. You'll make it with time. "Getting" someone isn't as important as living happily as who you are. Gender and sexual preference are different. Both related yes but also different . You can be male and love males or the other way around. Who you are is quite different.

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I do hope you are discussing your feelings with a therapist dear. Confusion can often be very strong to start. Be patient and get professional help as well. You'll make it with time. "Getting" someone isn't as important as living happily as who you are. Gender and sexual preference are different. Both related yes but also different . You can be male and love males or the other way around. Who you are is quite different.

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Charlize

I see a shrink for anxiety, the place I go just happens to be big into LGBT health care, so yes I just have to get the nerve up to tell them. A nerve I wouldn't have if I had not discovered this site. Thanks :D

I like to look at myself in drag for some reason. Its like looking at a stranger in the mirror.

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The fear is only tackled one small step at a time. your beginning those steps. try to relax as you find yourself. Hard but acceptance is the best lesson any of us can learn. That includes accepting the fear.

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The fear is only tackled one small step at a time. your beginning those steps. try to relax as you find yourself. Hard but acceptance is the best lesson any of us can learn. That includes accepting the fear.

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Charlize

Whats a strange way I get my confidence up is I paint my toes nails pink and shave all my body hair. I like to think that under my paints and shoes I am in a little bit of drag all the time.

What I didn't expect was this; I have a leg/feet fetish for girls but only girls, and I have girly legs and soft and small feet with high arches so for some reason I like looking at my legs and feet. This whole thing is full of surprises.

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Lexi, your confusion seems pretty profound, so yes, seeing a gender therapist is very important at this point. Such confusion is fairly common, and its something you need to resolve before you can know which path to take going forward; male or female or something in between. Perhaps a look see at the Androgyne Forum would give you more clues as to which way is the right way.

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Lexi, your confusion seems pretty profound, so yes, seeing a gender therapist is very important at this point. Such confusion is fairly common, and its something you need to resolve before you can know which path to take going forward; male or female or something in between. Perhaps a look see at the Androgyne Forum would give you more clues as to which way is the right way.

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Will try that...

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I experience very similar confusion. While my male identity is heterosexual, my female side is drawn to men and other CDs. It has kept my female impulses stuck in neutral because all the men that appear to be interested in CDs are looking for quick hook-ups. I'm not a prude by any means, but I'm also kind of a "virgin" (on the female side of the coin), so I'm not trying to rush into a sexual encounter that won't feel right and potentially ruin future experiences.

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I experience very similar confusion. While my male identity is heterosexual, my female side is drawn to men and other CDs. It has kept my female impulses stuck in neutral because all the men that appear to be interested in CDs are looking for quick hook-ups. I'm not a prude by any means, but I'm also kind of a "virgin" (on the female side of the coin), so I'm not trying to rush into a sexual encounter that won't feel right and potentially ruin future experiences.

Exactly I feel like there are two me's...

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Susie and Lexi ~ I feel just like you girls. As a man I'm not interested in other men. When I dress I feel I can go for both men and women. I do keep my feminine urges in check but who knows, maybe someday I'll meet the right guy.

Hugs, Wanda

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When I was young about 9 or ten, I started wearing my Mom's bra's girdle's, stocking, etc, I was confused, why did I like women's cloth's and to dress up in them. As I got a little older, I realized, I like the feel of all that softness, silkyness,m at the age of 19, I joined the Army, and for five years didn't dress up. After I came out,m I tried not to do it, but I't didn't work, all through my adult years, I did it. I had three daughter's and hid it from them , three wive's who all predeceased me , I hit it from them (I think). Anyway, it took me a long time to realize that the reason I was this way, was GOD wanted me this way. Now some may say that's a cop out, and maybe it is, but that's the way I feel, and I LOVE IT, and YOU CAN'T HELP HOW YOU FEEL, THANKS FOR LISTENING,.

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I experience very similar confusion. While my male identity is heterosexual, my female side is drawn to men and other CDs. It has kept my female impulses stuck in neutral because all the men that appear to be interested in CDs are looking for quick hook-ups. I'm not a prude by any means, but I'm also kind of a "virgin" (on the female side of the coin), so I'm not trying to rush into a sexual encounter that won't feel right and potentially ruin future experiences.

Exactly I feel like there are two me's...

stay away from quick hook-up's, if you want to find someone, make sure you check them out thoroughly, to MANY OF US HAVE BEEN RAPED, MURDERED, ETC. for SHARING and BEING HONEST

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Susie and Lexi ~ I feel just like you girls. As a man I'm not interested in other men. When I dress I feel I can go for both men and women. I do keep my feminine urges in check but who knows, maybe someday I'll meet the right guy.

Hugs, Wanda

tHE RIGHT THING TO DO, UNTIL YOUR SURE YOU WANT TO MAKE THE JUMP

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