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By Vidanjali · Posted
Geez sorry for the repeated text in my 2nd paragraph. I have no idea how that happened. Cheers. -
By Vidanjali · Posted
If your back hurts when you cycle you ought to consider getting your bike professionally adjusted at a bike shop. They will measure your body proportions, stride, knee angle, etc. to determine how best to adjust your saddle and handle bars. Sometimes even minor adjustments can make a huge difference. Unless you have health-based restrictions, I'd say ride as much as you like. But as stated above, first tIf your back hurts when you cycle you ought to consider getting your bike professionally adjusted at a bike shop. They will measure your body proportions, stride, knee angle, etc. to determine how best to adjust your saddle and handle bars. Sometimes even minor adjustments can make a huge difference. I used to be an avid cyclist. Not into group rides or speed, but I used to ride by myself for hours. It's very enjoyable. If you're looking to improve your cardio health, get a fitness tracker like a fitbit which tracks your heart rate. I do have health issues and for that reason no longer ride on the road. But I converted my bike into a stationary bike very easily with a magnet powered stand which was about 50 bucks. My physical therapist gave me a HIIT (high intensity interval training) schedule to follow tailored to one of my health issues. My case is specific and unfortunately it's a challenge for me to balance getting enough cardio exercise without pushing myself into post-exertional malaise. But I can share with you a general guidine to try to amp up your cardio tolerance. Determine your "recovery pace" and "base pace" heart rate. There are guidelines online you can find to figure that out based on your age, weight, and other qualities. Then track your heart rate as you ride and develop muscle memory for how much exertion corresponds to those paces. For example, base pace should feel like effort, but not strain. Recovery pace should feel easy, but like you're still in control of propelling the bike. In this way you'll develop better intuition for your bike's gears, especially at different inclines. Give yourself a 5 minute warm up to get your heart rate to the high end of your resting pace. Then alternate base pace (effort but no strain, keeping your heart rate within a higher range, but backing off if it gets too high) with resting pace (allowing heart rate to lower, but maintaining it just below the low end of base pace) in 4 minute intervals. Finish with 5 minutes cool down allowing your heart rate to lower towards the lower end of resting pace. If you try this type of HIIT routine, your basic workout can be 5 (warmup) +4 (base pace) +4 (resting pace) +4 (base pace) +5 (cool down) =22 minutes. Try it twice a week. Then as you develop endurance, add another 4+4 (resting followed by base) min pair before the cool down. I hope you are able to get your bike adjusted to be pain free & learn to enjoy cycling and enjoying better overall health. -
By Willow · Posted
Well my day at work is done. It was a beautiful day here so far. Yes @Mirrabooka the United States is noted for the tornados and extreme destruction they cause. We have long wide open areas between the Rocky Mountains and the Appalachian Mountains where weather extremes have a chance to buildup. Even East of the Appalachians since those mountains are so old and eroded they aren’t very tall anymore. Geologist say that early in the history of our planet they were as tall as the tallest mountains on earth but now few reach 4000 feet. But they have no mercy for anything when they get going. Our continent has just about everything, earthquakes fire floods hurricanes mud slides rock slides, hurricanes blizzards drought dust storms just about everything thing nature can possibly through at us. -
By Ladypcnj · Posted
Nope, I'm not being paranoid, I had screen shot everything that happened to me, before it got taken down to cover up what they sent me in an email. I contacted group leaders within our community, and I explained and showed some of the evidence, next they referred to contact an attorney within the community. I had not called the lawyer back hoping things would settle down. In the meantime, just recently an lbtqai+ community held a Zoom meeting, as I explained my story. The board is thinking about getting a guest speaker on how we can be safe online. -
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By Ivy · Posted
True unfortunately. I do see a bit of difference between gender issues and sexuality, although they are related and frequently overlap. Hardly a reason to fight with each other though. -
By Davie · Posted
Bless you and the light you show this world, @Sally Stone —Davie -
By Ivy · Posted
I have maybe 4. I tend to carry the same one for a long time. 2 of them are from Gypsy Rose that I got from a friend that was running a "hippie" boutique at the time. They are just big enough to be able to slip my Mac book air in with the other stuff. I do have a plain green one, and a beat-up old leather one that I actually used sometimes as a guy when I could get away with it. (another tell that I managed to ignore up till I couldn't) This thread is kinda making me think I might expand my collection. A nice leather bag would be sweet. But I am a bit particular. Humm…… -
By Davie · Posted
I hear that. Good news only, please! —Davie -
By BobbiSkunk · Posted
Greetings all! I am looking at bringing some cycling time into my weekly exercise, but honestly, right now my back just murders me when I try to do anything more than 10 minutes. What that being said, I do have some questions for those here, if anyone is willing to answer. ^.^ Do you cycle as part of exercise? If so, how much? How difficult is the route you take? What are your ultimate goals? I'll go first. I do, but only once a week. Once a week for roughly 15 minutes. I use a very flat, low resistance route. My ultimate goals are to keep the rump and thigh thickness, while working some cardio into the routine to keep it interesting. I'm asking for advice on what is a good starter range, as I'm not sure if I'm just causing myself discomfort without any benefit with the above routines. -
By MAN8791 · Posted
SIGHTLINES I worship at the point of a gun On Friday nights and Sunday mornings. I pray for peace under the watchful eye of hired men With guns holstered on their hips Who laugh with us Eat with us Pray with us - Dear God, not tonight Not this morning Not my friends Please, not on my watch And I'm fully aware of the irony of the statement Because too often, our ancestors were forced to pray At the point of a gun because they said the wrong prayers In the wrong languages Loved the wrong person Identified the wrong way But today, I do so of my own free will. When I leave, I say thank you - That it wasn't tonight It wasn't this morning It didn't happen while I sang It wasn't my friends Because this week the guns stayed silent. But next week and next week and weeks afterward Could be the week that guns point in, not out And I can't will myself to believe it could never happen here because Someone tried to bomb my Temple, Someone set it on fire, Someone shot up the clinic where I go for healthcare Someone shot up the club my friends danced at So when I pray, I offer a wish to the universe That guns be melted into musical instruments and works of art. If someone wishes to shoot me, They will have to beat works of art into tools for the hand Before they can become instruments of war again. -
By MaeBe · Posted
This is important for us all to keep really close to our hearts, especially as we go through a doubting phase or anxiety wave. I always go to the joy I have found being who I am, a person that does not conform with my birth assignment and the gender I defaulted to for many years. That places me under the trans umbrella and I need to feel comfortable and confident about that. I am so glad you were able to deal with this person and others that confronted you with grace and poise. It seems like this person targeted your session specifically, they didn't want anything from it but to be a thorn in your side. I highly doubt she was there to expand her worldview. It is hard when your goal is to get through the content and someone wants to make the session a dialogue with them only. Challenges to our worldviews are important, they help us shape and define our beings, but that doesn't mean we have to deal with gatekeeping and hate. I wish there was more content like your session available out there. I understand recording such content is a touchy subject, with the speakers and audience being general targets, but gosh it would be nice. I volunteered at the Time to Thrive event for HRC and got to sit in a few sessions, both as a moderator and a couple just as a participant, and it was very energizing. Thank you for being out there any speaking your truth, @Sally Stone! -
By Ivy · Posted
There are all kinds of us. My situation at the time enabled me to begin living full time as a woman, and get onto hormones. I realize everyone doesn't have that option - or want it. I also realize there are people who would consider me not truly transgender because I haven't had the surgery, and probably never will. Whatever… -
By Vidanjali · Posted
Yeah. Trans folk still cannot update or renew FL drivers licenses. Florida part of the lawsuit against updated trans student Title IX protections. Florida suing Biden admin over ban on discrimination in healthcare based on gender. Despite injunctions for individuals of some things including trans youth healthcare and using affirmed pronouns in school, bans still in place. The list goes on. Honestly I have stopped keeping up with news as much as I used to for the good of my mental health. Peace, y'all. -
By Sally Stone · Posted
Post 14 “I’m not Trans Enough” I have mentioned in other posts my affiliation with the Keystone Conference in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania. For several years, I facilitated a conference workshop titled “Making the Most of Part-time Womanhood.” Each time I ran the workshop, it was standing room only, so I know for a fact, the idea resonates with many. When I originally planned the workshop the target audience was geared towards girls like me, those who weren’t planning permanent transition. I also expected to attract girls who may have been on the path to permanent transition but because of timing or life circumstances couldn’t. What I didn’t expect as part of my attracted audience were hecklers and naysayers. Thankfully, I only had to deal with a couple of those, but it only takes one to ruin everybody’s day. Sadly, there exists a radical fringe that has permeated our community from the beginning. The fringe mindset holds to the idea that being a trans woman means you were born a woman trapped in a man’s body, and the only recourse is to live as a woman fulltime. Anything or anyone not fully aligned with this idea, is a threat to real trans women. Apparently, my lifestyle choice, and my workshop were just the kind of threats that needed to be eliminated. I was several minutes into the workshop, had just given a short overview of what I was going to cover when one person told me I should make certain everyone in attendance knew that I wasn’t speaking on behalf of trans women, that instead, I should be quite clear that I was speaking as a crossdresser. The comment caught me off guard initially, but I rallied pretty quickly and tried to remind this person that the term transgender was an umbrella term that covered a wide spectrum. Of course, she wanted to argue the point and went on to point out that since I was not going to live my life as a woman on a fulltime basis, I couldn’t be transgender, and then adding cruelty to her rhetoric, she reminded me and my audience that I was nothing more than a man in a dress. I’m pretty non-confrontational most of the time, but her comments really pushed my buttons. I could feel my defensive hackles raising and I knew I had to be careful not to stoop to her level. So, instead of any stinging retorts, and believe me, I was thinking of many, I took the high road and as politely as I could, informed her that if she continued to disrupt the workshop, I would have her removed. She responded by telling me she was going to report me and my workshop to the conference organizers. I told her reporting me was her prerogative, and actually encouraged her to do it immediately as a way of getting her out of the room. She didn’t take the bait and stayed for the entire workshop. Thankfully, there were no further outbursts, but she used all sorts of overt body language to show her displeasure with my blasphemous views. When the workshop ended, she cornered me and continued to berate me, insisting I was a simple crossdresser that tended to make real trans women look bad. I wanted to just let things go, but her cruel comments had pushed me too far, so I reported her to the conference staff. I figured if she had targeted my workshop, it was likely she would target others. Conference officers informed her that her views were outdated, bigoted, and not in keeping with the conference’s commitment to inclusiveness. She was reminded that by persisting in voicing those kinds of views and being disruptive, she wouldn’t be welcome at the conference. I facilitated this particular workshop for four-years, and thankfully, this was the only serious confrontation I experienced. However, there were others that espoused similar views, only they didn’t raise their disagreements to a confrontational level. It bothers me immensely that some within our own community, would seek to marginalize another trans person. Of course, I’m not naïve enough to think our community would be any different than society as a whole. Sadly, there will always be some (only a few, thankfully) who inflate their sense of self-worth by putting down others. It's difficult enough dealing with a general population that doesn’t understand us, but when we are attacked by our own, it tends to hurt even more, and it can cause us to question ourselves. Ultimately, we cannot let others tell us who we are, and certainly, we cannot let them decide if we are trans enough. Being transgender is being transgender, period. Yes, we can be different, but we must remember there is no measurement that ranks how trans we are. Hugs, Sally
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