Well it's official!

[Guest Cody76]

So at this point everybody in my life knows that I'm transgender. And I couldn't be more relieved I remember I was most of all worried about how to tell my best friend just because it would be awkward because of how much he's seen my homophobia in the last few years but looking at it from a mature perspective he probably just thinks good for him. I decided not to tell him I decided to show him gradually. And neither one of us has said a word I think it's not so baffling to him because I'm not going out of the way to be feminine just to look feminine I still see myself as a male although I would have loved to have been a woman but what can I do?

Hrt seems too risky health wise from what I've gathered it's probably not as dangerous as it would seem but makeup and femminine clothing makes me GD go away entirely. The first time I started to come out to him I wore eye liner around him then the next day nail polish and came soooo close to chickening out but realized how much work removing the nail polish is. I posted pictures of myself wearing my makeup on facebook to let my family know I had one aunt how was very bigeted about it so I deleted her and blocked her she doesn't deserve to be in my life at all. I'm happy that now I know where she truly stands on the issue although she seemed supportive at first as soon as I posted about how gay marriage is less wrong than divorce overall not necesarilly being serious it was just one of those memes that makes you think. and she called it an abomination after she said one more thing I posted how I felt and that I had never attacked her beliefs so she should respect others' and then I removed her from my life.

My grandpa said something about how I shouldn't be wearing makeup in fb profile pic and knowing he was coming from love (at least I believe) I told him well you're wrong the fact that I have so much confidence to put my real self as my profile pic makes me feel better about myself than you can imagine just because you may not be able to accept this doesn't mean everyone else is and I told him there are a lot of resources for friends and family struggling to accept or understand.

I think I'm going to the Salt Lake Pride center and see if I can get into a support group would be great just to irl with some people I have this in common with. But yeah I'm just really excited and relieved and wanted to share with friends. I'm glad I found this sight this helped me through some tough times over the last couple months. Sorry for the length of this I just had a lot to say.

[Charlize]

I'm glad you are going to the Pride center. Getting some help in real time will give you the support you need.

Enjoy your new "official" reality.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Carolyn Marie]

Coming out, while stressful at first, is often a huge relief to many of us. We can at last stop hiding. I'm glad you've found that to be true for yourself, Cody. There will always be a few who choose to remain ignorant and even hurtful, but like you did with your aunt, you can remove them as participants in your life. I wish you continued success and happiness.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest ashleynikole]

Good for you. I just came out to my last holdout...Facebook. It has been nothing but waves of support. If there are any naysayers, they are either leaving well enough alone or they are gearing up for a battle of wits (foreshadow...they'll lose...lol). Glad you are finding your true self and aren't afraid to hide it.

God bless

Ashley

[Guest Sylvie]

Wonderful!!

[Guest LizMarie]

Cody, long term HRT has very few side effects and is considered safe. A very large study was just published about this. And this very large when you consider the number of trans people involved, 2000, versus the estimates of about 750,000 trans people in the US. That's equivalent to having a study of 840,000 people against the overall population. It's a huge percentage of the trans population which means its conclusions should be taken very seriously, assuming no fundamental errors in the study itself.

I am not sure where you got the idea that HRT is "too risky health wise" but if done under the case of a physician, it should be one of the safest forms of medical care you can get. The risks come from self-medication. Very few of us know what to look for or even what tests to requests from labs to be sure we are safe and in the ranges we should be. That's why you should have a doctor involved. But with a physician involved, HRT is low risk.