Clothing Help

[Guest ericc]

I want to dress more Androgynous so It would fit my Androgyne identity. I'm sick and tired of dressing Masculine for my parents. I feel like I always need to protend that I'm someone I'm not. I want to express my true gender expression by buying a new line of clothing.

I've been looking all over the internet, I couldn't find anything.

Does anyone know where I can find Androgyne clothes?

[Guest Elizabeth K]

I am not sure if there is such a thing. I am really MTF but I like to wear softer men's clothing. For example, there are many shirts out there with soft fabrics and cuts that only because they button in a certain way, are technically mens. For example 'city fit' shown in the label indicates a metrosex look. You have to go to the better and larger stores. Walmart won't do.

I also buy women's tailored shirts that could be men's wear because I can use them either way. All my jeans are ultratall women's from mail order JC Penney. I wear these at work and I am really not out there. They have such nice pocket detailing.

So I would say, buy from both men's and women's clothing sources, which means you need to study your sizes in both. That info is on the internet - but women's sizes are tricky, and vary more by manufacturer than do men's.

And final advice - go directly to the stores, where you can try things on - tell the clerks you are androgynous if you are against the grain there - but mainly show you have a credit card or check book. Ha! They will be glad to help.

Lizzy

[Guest Christy.dancer]

I want to dress more Androgynous so It would fit my Androgyne identity. I'm sick and tired of dressing Masculine for my parents. I feel like I always need to protend that I'm someone I'm not. I want to express my true gender expression by buying a new line of clothing.

I've been looking all over the internet, I couldn't find anything.

Does anyone know where I can find Androgyne clothes?

Eric --

Everything really depends on YOUR look. If you're a 6'4" linebacker with a beard, and come to school wearing a dress and high heels, you're still going to look like a 6'4" linebacker with a beard. That's NOT to say that a 6'4" guy can't transition to a softer look.... but he'd have to lose the beard for starters, right?

So seriously, what you should wear to "soften" your look has a lot to do with how YOU personally look, carry yourself, walk, gesture, talk, etc. If you carry all of THAT off, then you'll notice that in a typical H/S, the clothes worn by 90% of the guys and 90% of the girls are nearly interchangable, particularly in the winter time. Go for tighter, lower-slung jeans and don't carry things in the pockets. Softer t-shirts and hoodies, and perhaps layer the t-shirts so that the tail of the under-shirt comes out under the tail of the outer shirt. Contrast the colors a bit. As the weather starts getting warmer, shift to pastels -- you don't need to go "pink", but light grey, tan, light green, light blue, and other light shades all do the same thing for you. Pay attention to your hair. Let it grow out a bit, and get it styled. It's not a matter of just LONG hair, but what you do with it. If it's very short, then get it styled as it grows out. Groom your nails -- let them grow out just a bit, and use clear nail polish. In the winter particularly, use a slightly tinted lip balm. What sort of scent are you giving off? Don't wash yourself in women's cologne, but use a woman's shampoo for sure -- one with a soft scent (Clairol Herbal Essence is a great one, particularly for body.) If you have a beard problem, plan to shave a couple of times a day, but be SURE to use a skin softener. (For that matter, use a skin softener anyway.) Be careful with jewelry, but a ring or two and a very androgenous bracelet, particularly when you're not at school

Did any of this help?

[Guest ~Brenda~]

Hi ericc,

If I understand you correctly, you are not necessarily interested in getting girls clothes. You simply want more feminine (mens) or genderless clothing. Well, at almost any clothing store, if you take the time to look. You will find feminized mens clothing (soft pink shirts, pocketless pants, socks that are more like hosery, etc). The key is to search for them. They are not always right out in the open.

I hope this helps,

bernie

[Guest androgynous]

I concur with Christy.dancer,

Good tips.

Personally I would be careful with clothing especially as being androgen, it's easy to "overdo" if you understand what I mean. take a look at girls around you, you will find many differences in how they dress, and not everything is super feminine. Not every girls walks on high heels, because it's too impractical, see where I'm going? You could go for UNISEX clothes, many girls clothing these days are indeed interchangeable, but again take care and not overdo it by drastically starting to wear 100% pink or something, it has to fit with your body style as well.

One thing that drastically can change your appearance is your face and your hands. It's the first thing people look at, so this is a very subtle playing ground to start. But again, it's easy to overdo so be mild in changes, because how many people out there use 3 layers of makeup? Yep, almost none. I do recomend the use of day & night creme for your face, it makes it more subtle and softer. Also the use of facial masks are really mandatory! couple times a month, or once a week a mask will make notable changes in your face texture. Maybe trimming your brows can help a lot, but it's hard to do by yourself if you don't know how. And again 1 mm difference can alter your whole face here.

So key is to do things in small steps and try to do less instead of more, because otherwise people notice that it's overdone and get all kind of impressions about you and probably put you into a box you wouldn't be put in.

[Guest ericc]

How, this is really great advice. Thank you all, keep it coming. LOL

But seriously, yeah. I was looking for facial cream tips and stuff like that. I have an Androgynous face that I want to keep from getting wrinkles even though I'm in my early 20s.

I like the color Turquoise, it's my favorite!

My favorite materials are silk and Nylon.

This is a great example ironicly LOL

But yeah, I always loved Nylon. I have it on my Baby blankets that I still keep as a Memory. I have Nylon pockets that I always like to touch. Maybe it's a sensery thing, I know that sensery plays a role in Autism / High Fuctioning Autism (I have Asperger's Syndrome) but that's a completely different story. LOL

When I do the laundry at my house, When I hang up My Step Mother's Clothes I just think, Why can't I have silky clothing like this, and such bright colors too. It's like most men's clothing is rough cotton material and have such dark colors. That's not my thing. I like soft matterials.

But yeah, I'll keep that in mind when I look in stores. Is there any kind of clothing catalogs that anyone can recomend for Androgyne's like Me?