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I think its time for me to formally introduce myself here. I am Adam. I am 26years old and I now go as a male. That is who I want to be. I think I have cried long enough sitting at the doorstep of Lauras. Everyone in my eyes seems so happy here and as for me well my crying seems to just get worse. I am to my gf a sissy and an "it" I dont really want to express too much about her cause it was brought on too fast for her. And it was a bombshell. I have had the fear of losing her and last night was my last straw she got drunk and starting calling me names that hurt me so bad that the black "hole" i was laying in my bedroom turned into inferior red with heat so I knew that if I didn't go to sleep then I was going to do something drastic. So at 5 am I woke up and I think that was the last time I spoke of anything and that was my stupity to tell her to go to bed in my "hole". I'm sorry this is so long but I post small things an was always afraid I wasn't going to be accepted here.

sitting in the cold on Lauras doorstep

ADAM

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  • Root Admin

Adam, There's no way we're going to leave you out in the cold on the doorstep. The door is open, hon, so come on in and talk to us. We're all more than willing to help out any way we can. You are accepted here. :)

Hugs,

MaryEllen :)

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Guest Adam_Mazur
Adam, There's no way we're going to leave you out in the cold on the doorstep. The door is open, hon, so come on in and talk to us. We're all more than willing to help out any way we can. You are accepted here. :)

Hugs,

MaryEllen :)

Thanks Mary Ellen I really need the support I am in need

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  • Root Admin

Don't be afraid to ask questions or for advice. That's why we're here. :)

MaryEllen :)

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Adam,

THis may surprise you but all of us here are not living such wonderful and happy lives ourselves.

I finally decided that I could no longer deny who I really was any longer and I told my wife of five and a half years - I have an appointment with my lawyer on Monday to find out what her latest offer is.

My mother takes every opportunity to tell me that I am wrong and I don't know what I thinl or feel but she does!

I am so broke that while my therapist is more than willing to write my letter for hormone therapy, I can't afford the lab tests, so I have to wait some more.

There is no need for you to sit ouside in the cold, who are we not to accept you?

We are just alike, so come on in and we'll try to muddle through all of this together.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest Adam_Mazur

Thanks Sally I need that. I wish it was so easy for people to accept us for us but if that was the case we would all be living in a perfect world right. so we live in our dreams

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Thanks Sally I need that. I wish it was so easy for people to accept us for us but if that was the case we would all be living in a perfect world right. so we live in our dreams

With enough work we can make those dreams a reality, we will never make this a perfect world, but we can fix our own little areas and make it a better world.

Love ya,

Sally

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Guest With Faith Or Flames

Adam, you shouldn't be afraid that you won't be accepted here. This is a place where people like us can come together and not pass judgement on one another. ^_^

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Guest Ashlee

Hey Adam,

You can be assured that no one, not you or anyone, has to stay out in the cold on the steps...

You've been welcomed in with open arms. Feel the warmth and security of being among friends that care.

There are no black holes, no red hot holes. Just the comfort of a soft down blanket and pillow.

{{BIG HUGS}}

Ashlee

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Guest Frank67

Hi Adam,

welcome to Laura's, don't be shy and ask for help if you need. Everyone here is willing to help and as you can see everybody accept you as you. No one here will ever judge over you for what you are.

I know bad words can hurt, my father named me things when I told him I am bi some weeks ago and I am 41 (I should be above such things), but nevertheless it hurts me. No one should be called a freak (like me) or so on for what he/she is. And when I was young I had really long hair for a boy (more than shoulder long) and the other boys and girls at school called me a warm bother (don't know how to say that, it is censored) something like sissy - I think. This was hard, too, but no one should deny what he/she is. May it be transgender, cross dresser or the sexual orientation

I am glad that MaryEllen and the others opened the door for you and invited you to join this warm and safe place

Hugs

Frank

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Guest Laura1977

Come on in to Laura's. We will make you feel loved. Here is one place where you belong and no one will ever call you names.

>>Hugs<<

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Welcome the the site, Adam. You don't have to be alone anymore. This is a great site so feel free to ask any question you may have.

Gennee

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Guest Adam_Mazur

THANK YOU EVERYONE. This makes me feel sooooo much better. I haven't felt the love in a long time. Finally today I grew enough confidence in myself to say I AM NOT ALONE!!!! THANK YOU AND HUGS TO ALL OF YOU

LOVE YAS ADAM

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Guest Elizabeth K

ADAM

Darn - I leave for one weekend, and you came and I wasn't here, baby!

But others were! WOW

COME ON IN - look at all of us here - we HEAR you. We are NOT all happy here, except we have each other, and THAT makes us happier. Oh sweetheart, it gets so black sometimes we cannot see.

You MUST join us - we can be good for each other. Come in Come in Come in - we will love you!

Lizzy

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Guest Emlyn

Hey Adam,

I know the feeling. I am 18 and just realized my true identity. Coming from a devout Christian family, it hasn't been easy. Your family and friends can't understand how you feel, unless by some chance they are also trans. But while you may feel alone, always remember that there are thousands of us in the same boat. That's why we're all here, to provide love and support. Best wishes and much love,

Emlyn Jayden

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Guest Amanda L Richards

Hey Adam,

You are a kind soul. You are the type of person that will be the first target for someones aggression becuase they don't know how to handle their own pain. This is an unfortunate thing in the world. Becuase of your situation, I know as well as anybody here that you are one of the best the world has to offer.

We welcome you with open arms and hearts. You are hurting and there is no better place to be then here since we have all experienced pretty much the worst the world has to shove at us. So yes! yes! and yes! we are more than understanding.

Since you are here now with us, all you need to do is take your time, take a breath, relax, and just pour out your heart. There are many people here that can say, "I know what you are feeling".

Without any conditions, or judgments, you are already condsidered "A WELCOMED FRIEND" Just make yourself at home and let us hug your pain away. If you feel like crying some more, go right ahead, it's your bodies way of getting rid of the emotional garbage you don't need. It cleanses your heart and soul.

LOts of Love and hugs Adam

Amanda LR

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