Note To Self -- Dilation in a hurry!

[VickySGV]

I am on Marci Bowers' "one dilation per day for life" schedule now, and this past week I was on a trip where I had gotten a little careless and actually missed some "D" time. I remembered to go for it the morning I was set to leave for home, which was going to be a couple hours drive time to an airport and then 8 hours of airport / airplane time. I decided to dilate just before leaving the Inn we were at, and found that while I was not tightening up, I was so damn dry it was difficult to get the guy in for his business (I call my dilators' guys!!) so I pumped in the lube big time!! I found that I had no time to shower afterwards though but did try to get myself wiped off. At the first of two airports I was at on the way home I noticed a slight stain on my panties, but by that time my spare undies had been checked onto the plane. Oh well!! Two hours into the long, 5 hour flight, all gooey hell cut loose, and on that flight I had even had to check my carry-on bag which if I had been smart would have had an extra pair of under panties. The rest room had tampons, but no pads!! I will leave the rest up to gruesome imaginations. I actually put an old towel on my car seat to drive home from the airport.

Moral of the story is that I need to schedule my dilations on trips better, and I am taking another one next week!!

[Drea]

Or just keep panty liner in your purse. Bigger pad if that bad. Always handy and who knows, someone may be in a jam and ask if you have any.

[Charlize]

Just as i was reading your post during lunch.(didn't put me off lunch) i dripped a big glob of hot-sause on my blouse. Nothing like breasts to catch what might have been on my napkin or the plate. Ahh womanhood has some extra nuisances. You'll get it all together with time i'm sure. It seems i'll never go through that at least. It might be one i'd rather miss.

Hugs.

Charlize

[Guest ashleynikole]

Wow. Not fun.

This may be a stupid question, but does it ever get to a point where you don't have to dialate 1x every day? I mean, doesn't it heal up to the point that it doesn't close up and good ol' fashioned fun every now and then is enough to keep it open and set? Just curious.

God bless

Ashley

[VickySGV]

Ashley, the written discharge instructions I have from my surgeon, Dr. Marci Bowers say that either dilation or P/V sex at least once a day is RECOMMENDED. Other surgeons do let you off the hook with fewer dilations after a year +, and I have gone for short times with 2 in 72 hours as I did this time with no serious problems. What the problem is fairly often is that when a once in 10 day schedule gets put out several times, then things could become unstable. Here in the Southwest where I live, it is the manana (tomorrow) factor that if you put something off once, its easy to let the whole thing go. Each surgeon has their own techniques and instructions, and surprisingly enough they are friends and colleagues who do speak to each other. The couple of times I have been able to eavesdrop on some of those bull sessions, I got the feeling each one does it differently on an experimental basis. As many of us as there are, we are still darn few, and thus we are a little bit lab rat.

[Guest ashleynikole]

Very interesting. Perhaps I should start shopping now for the "fun" dilators, if I have to do it everyday...lol. I'm pretty sure I won't be having P/V sex once a day and even if I had the ability to do so, I'm pretty sure I would lose interest pretty quickly...lol.

Wow, such fun conversations....hahahaha.

God bless

Ashley

[KathrynJulia]

Sounds like the reality of transitioning. It's an eye opening adventure that some of us are talking about to educate those who are considering SRS in the next year or two. This is no cake walk, ladies. It's a lifetime commitment. It is painful, it can be messy, it involves changing your life, there is pelvic exams, and breast exams. That's why there's a year RLE.

It's hard, but I'm thrilled to be Post-Op with all the problems. Kathy

[Guest KerryUK]

........That's why there's a year RLE........

For us on the NHS here in the UK - it's still 2 years RLE.

[Guest]

Hi Vicky,

Please get rid of that lube jelly!!!! I've been using KY liquid for over a year. it takes only a couple of drops to accomplish the same thing as a lot of lube gel. With no goo, there's no need for underpads and no worries afterwards.

Plus, a little bit lasts a long time. I am still using a bottle that was purchased over a year ago.

Try it, you'll see!

Love, Megan

[VickySGV]

Now why should I do that Megan, and ruin the potential for the wild stories I get to share now?? ------- Thank you for the suggestion, my lube tube is getting low, and it was the last one in the case!!