Why would you want to be female?

[Guest LizMarie]

Why would you want to be female? -- Christen Bustani.

A well worded piece to try to help others understand.

[VickySGV]

Excellent and in my book <yet to be written> a very accurate description of what I have gone through. It was not however, until I transitioned that even I could have imagined how little really changed during the transition. I had been myself who was wearing a horrible disguise, but "I" was there all along.

[Guest Ky_Ki]

What about those that do WANT to be female though? The method actors who have been performing the role so well that they too believe themselves to be men? Those that when they come out as trans their claim isn't met with a "well duh-it's obvious" but a "are you sure?"

Seems to me the article muddles things a bit too much. Sure I supposed there are some trans people that KNEW that they were women and refused to believe what society and their senses told them-but there are definitely those out there without the relative simplicity/ clear cutness of that situation.

[KathrynJulia]

I've asked that very question of myself many times over the years. My only answer was I had no answer. Only a drive inside that acknowledged that I already was a woman inside, and that I needed to make my outside match my inside. After I completed the transition with surgery, I laid in my bed, and that question popped up once again but a different answer arrived. The noise in my head had changed to silence and peace.

I would say we are driven to changing because we are hard wired that way to be female.

Kathy.

[Guest]

What about those that do WANT to be female though? The method actors who have been performing the role so well that they too believe themselves to be men? Those that when they come out as trans their claim isn't met with a "well duh-it's obvious" but a "are you sure?"

Seems to me the article muddles things a bit too much. Sure I supposed there are some trans people that KNEW that they were women and refused to believe what society and their senses told them-but there are definitely those out there without the relative simplicity/ clear cutness of that situation.

Yep. Been there, done that. I was so good at it that I never thought of a "sex change" ever in my life as something that was even remotely a possibility. As for coming out and those around you not believing it? Yep, even wrote a blog post about it. Eventually I learned to stop trying to be this or that and accept that my life will now consist of honestly chasing the things I liked and ignoring the things I didn't care for. No pretending, no assimilating, just me

Just being me

Ashley

[Guest]

A well written article LizMarie.

for sharing.

The "want" has the usual distaste to me.

Huggs,

Joann

[Guest brenda lee]

Sweetie ,To me its simple ,its because its who I am ,LOL Brenda Lee

[Charlize]

I'm not sure. I played the male role very well until it was me but she kept appearing as well. Now it might be that he lies in wait. I know that he is there and i can't regret either gender within myself. The fact is that i'm bigger than my gender or perhaps i should say different.

Shortly after transition i had a show of my artwork. A reporter asked if i would right something about myself and my work but she was mostly curious about the fact that my work had changed since she had seen it last. Was that because of my transition?

I wrote a piece which she headlined in the paper "Art Transcends Gender". At the time i felt it somehow only applied to my art but i've come to believe that much of what we are has nothing to do with male or female. As trans people perhaps we can get caught in a trap of thinking only about gender.

I'm not sure this is what i want but it certainly is a part of who i am but only a part.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest NeutraLee]

Interesting article. I admit, I've spent a whole lot of years wondering why people want to do the whole feminine dress thing --why any women would want to. I'm coming at it from the opposite direction though. Femininity is what I've been rejecting for most of my life. It's just so foreign to me, despite it being expected of me.

So I'll take that article and apply it to all women, trans or not. As much as I can't stand all the garb, I guess about half of the population just feels that it's them.

Be who you are, or who you want to be, whichever it is, right?

[Guest Cyndysub]

I denied my true self and played a role that was not true to my soul. My feelings finally came to the surface despite all of my attempts to ignore and suppress them for so long.