7 Myths About ‘Stealth’ Transexuals That Undermine Valid Choices

[Guest Carla_Davis]

7 Myths About ‘Stealth’ Transexuals That Undermine Valid Choices

http://everydayfeminism.com/2015/04/myths-stealth-transexuals/

Hugs,

Carla

[Guest Astrosmurf]

Thanks Carla, awesome article!

[Charlize]

A very well written and informative article. I do especially like the idea that being stealth is the opposite of being in the closet.

Thanks,

Charlize

[tracy_j]

It makes interesting reading!

Thank you Carla

Tracy

[Guest Mickey]

I just can't help but to think that being stealth is just like being in the closet before transition. In both cases you're hiding the fact that you're trans. While I love it when I'm walking down the street and a man, seeing me as female, greets me as such, with a "good day mamm" or as happened yesterday, "Sorry fr bein' in your way, mamm", I certainly won't be hiding the fact that I am trans with my friends. Even future friends that have never known me as anything other than female, will possibly know that I'm a trans woman. I certainly will not be trying to hide myself from them. And that is what being stealth is all about, hiding your true self.

[Guest KerryUK]

I'm in agreement with Carla, granted, I pass quite well (apart from my voice which outs me all of the time). The thing is, I'm no longer ashamed of who/what I am (I used to be ashamed) but have found that I am much much happier living my life as the woman I was meant to be born as. For me, being a woman is the norm. So, I don't obviously go around advertising the fact that I'm Trans but nor am I ashamed of the fact. Each and every one to their own though.

Kerry x

[Guest]

Carla I disagree. I think being stealth just means that being trans is no longer something other people are able to define you by because it's no longer obvious. It doesn't mean that you completely hide your past from everyone - but in the same way there's no reason for everyone you work with to know what your sexual preference or personal finance or mental health history is there's no reason that the history of your body needs to be brought up.

I personally wish to be stealth at some point in the future. It's my dream to be able to pass as cis - I'm pretty sure that's what most of us want - it's just unfortunately not always possible. And just because I want to be stealth doesn't mean that I wouldn't tell my close friends or other people I think should know - but it's not something I have any desire to wear emblazoned on my shirt either.

[Guest SonadoraXVX]

I agree with Ky_Ki, for the fact of the matter, what your medical, psychosocial history does not need to be anybody's business. I have chosen to disclose my trans status with my girlfriend, who accepts me, for now, but I tell/warn her, I will change more in the future(kinda hard not to disclose the hrt, when I'm feminizing a lot). Being stealth for me means safety and the ability to enjoy my targeted gender and sexual inclination and destination. I say destination, since its a voyage, going from male to female, "oh dear god, has it been, ho hum".

[Guest amberismycolor]

great article it validated my situation. Thank you.