First Time Crossdresser

[Guest Blake1988]

Trying to figure out some safe first crossdresser outfits for me.

Like what Tops, bottoms, shoes, makeup etc.

Also trying to figure what sizes I would be for the clothes I'm 5'3" 125-130lb

[Carolyn Marie]

Hi! Blake. You know, picking clothes or styles is such a personal choice. I don't think there is a "safe" or unsafe style. Just go with what seems attractive to you. You could choose to go with age-appropriate, or not. You might want to pick styles that fit your physique. Slim allows for almost any style, but with heavier set, try to avoid narrow waist lines and tight fitting styles.

There are many web sites that have size comparison charts. Our own CD and Fashion forum has them, too. Have fun, and good luck.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Charlize]

I'm not sure what you mean by "safe". You are fortunate to not be a "big" guy as it is easier to find styles you will like. As to sizes it is best to go to a website and use a cloth tape to do your measurements. Once i found a size i went to thrift stores and picked up some inexpensive outfits as i tried to develop a style and look that was right for me. The best idea is to enjoy the process.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest Blake1988]

I meant safe like since it would be my first time really crossdressing to where I won't be scared to go out in public dressed in women's clothing.

[Guest Razilee]

That's what I figured, Blake. I didn't think you were talking about the very first time you crossdressed. This sort of thing grow on you. I remember starting with my mother's high heels and working up from there. I like the thift shops you can get something you like and not spend a whole lot of money. Perhaps for your first outting you could just dress unisexually. Some places are safer than others. You'll have to figure that out for your own locality.

Express yourself,

Raz

[Guest Blake1988]

What do you mean by go out unisexually dressed?

I have crossdressed at home, but now I want to get into it more including makeup

[Guest alexaz]

Hi Blake

Everyone has their own likes and dislikes so its hard for us to say what you would like.

My only suggestion would be. Keep it mellow at first.

Meaning. dont try loud or bright colors and patterns that attract attention.

As far as makeup goes. A little goes a long ways. Unless you like the style dont cake it on and try to keep the colors simple and light at first.

As you progress you can try new things but at first and being safe, blending in seems to be the best.

Have fun and enjoy the journey.

alexaz

[Guest Clair Dufour]

First find a safe place to go. You want to start off with a good experience. If your in Seattle no problem. Search the web for gay bars, drag clubs, crossdressing and LGBT groups by location. You might want to do a recon in guy mode first to see if you fit in. You don't have to do all the dressing at home. You can put the obvious makeup and such on at the venue. Buy a large purse. Above all, make friends. A lot more fun, much safer and a much faster learning curve with friends who have it worked out.

[Charlize]

Perhaps one of the best ways is to look at what women your age are wearing in your area. If they are in jeans and a T then simply try to blend. Try to think of what makes you see woman at first glance. Hair, shape, clothing all work together. You just want to hit that balance. I first left home in the car and slowly worked up the courage to go to a store. I did go out to gay bars as well but i am an alcoholic and when i found sobriety i left those places behind. I found that self confidence and comfort grew with each outing.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest AshleighP]

i have found that watching what women your age, size, and basic shape, are wearing, and reading the sales fliers in the newspaper (yes I am that old that I still read a daily newspaper) are some of the best ways to figure out what you should choose or what will look good on you. It is absolutely a trial and error process. Nobody, including natural born women, gets it right the first time, or every time for that matter. My wife says I know more about women's fashions than she does, and that's only because I pay attention to it. She frequently asks my opinion on clothes for her.

Totally agree that avoiding bright colors or styles that will draw unwanted attention is excellent advice. Dress for the occasion as well. You wouldn't wear a long flowing gown to the mall, anymore than you would wear shorts to a cocktail party. Be careful and have fun! That's what it's all about.