I'm starting a transition plan

[Guest alexia]

It's very long term though. Over the last month I've been feeling more and more I should be a woman however this is very conflicted with being married with young children. Was getting drepressed and sleeping badly because I couldn't find a solution where I could be me without hurting someone. Saw my psychologist the other day and she was very pleased with how far I've come and agreed that tansitioning now wouldn't be right because I couldn't be happy if it effected someone I loved. So she suggested I transition after they graduate from high school (~12 yrs). So this will allow me to fully prepare for my transition and overcome any worries that I might have. Also it will give my wife and I enough time to sort out whether she still wants to be with me after, fingers crossed. This really put my mind at ease and other then the sleepless night after telling my wife that I plan to become a woman I've been sleeping stress free:)

So step one is wig (which I had already planned on)

and then makeup (which I'm hoping to get my wife's input)

So the moral to this story is that a good therapist is essential.

lots of hugs,

Alexia

ps she also raised the idea of me becoming a grandmother

[Charlize]

Being honest and open with your psychologist and your wife are already a big step and if you are sleeping better a good one. It sounds like you have a plan but i'll warn you that there will be some hurt to the ones you love regardless of how you move. It is simply a big change but the gradual transition you have planned can mitigate that pain for loved ones.

I am a grandmother and love the role. I get to see the little beauties quite often as they live here on the farm in my fathers old house. I am called Grandie and it is just sweet being me. Your time will come as well.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest suden]

Being honest with myself and my wife of 32 years. that was my first step to feeling I could be open and free with being a transwoman.

A good therapist is a must for me and it does not work if your not honest with them! Its the most safe place to speak freely about anything!

Its a balance we must find with our selfs when it comes to kids and loved ones. If you sleep better and feel better day to day then wait.

(waiting is hard) thinking of all eden