Still unsure about this whole thing

[Guest LizySave]

Ok, *deep breath*

Hi, I am a possible MTF that is looking for a way to make the best possible choice. I have seen a therapist about this but she just kind of kept pushing me to transition and although i know her intent was good, I didn't feel like i had enough of a reason to make such a life changing decision. I am young and this is a big thing for me. I had to break it all off at the last possible second because i do not have the financial stability to dump all this money away when i need to be establishing a life outside. In my attempts to find answers I ran across the perfect debate that answered all my questions about transgender and the final question is, "So the only way for me to know if I am legit transgender is to get a brain scan and see if I have a necessary amount of female to call myself trans?" <--this may be worded wrong or might be taken differently then i intend but that's kinda what i feel. I have been male and acted "male" for most of my life. I have been quoted as the "quiet mans man". I don't talk much but i was stronger, faster, smarter, and tougher then most of my male counterparts. I have a good head on my shoulders but life has thrown me for a loop many times. I've had more girls as friends just because girls are more accepting, not really cuz i didn't get along with guys, they were just very judgmental. Most of my "trans feeling" (not sure what to call it) is an infatuation with the female body, not a hatred of male bodies. just that i'd prefer a female body and female life style. I have thought about what it would be like to be female, but i used to, and still kind of, think that's some what normal. Gender isn't something i hold with a tight fist, if i had to live my life as a man, whatever, I've been doing it for this long no reason to get all bent about it. And if i had to live as a woman, yippee that's great too. I've worn woman's clothing. I've done quite a bit. (cuz like i said i got all the way up to the last second and couldn't afford it/ was too scared) I'll put the link to the debate. Basically i'm just trying to figure out of "feelings" really do mean something or if i'm being misguided by some strange affection for women that is leading me to believe such things.

http://ncronline.org/blogs/intersection/what-would-christians-need-overcome-accept-transgender-people

FYI the debate is in the comments. Just hit load comments like 4-5 times and look for "Faithful Catholic" and read a fair ways down. Its a good read even if your not interested in my circumstance.

[Charlize]

Lizy, welcome to the playground. You will find many here who are confused and wondering what direction to take. That's why there is an entire forum devoted to the question. The most important thing you can do you've already done.....ie. take your time. You've been working with a gender therapist and that is great in itself. I found that experimentation helped me to make a decision. I started to live more and more as a woman and finally made the plunge.

Unfortunately your link doesn't load although when i searched under transgendered i saw how the pope Francis is making changes.

Take a moment and post as well in the introduction forum. You will get to know more folks that way.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest saoirse]

i agree with Charlize when she says take your time , its not something to be making rash decisions over .