I think I'm transgender an have a few Qs before I finally come out :)

[Guest Sarah_16]

Hello all

I am a teen and Im pretty sure I'm a MtF transgender. I'm very close to coming out but have a few questions before I do. I'm an anxious person and am worried that even if my parents accept me for who I am what if the doctor says I can't have hrt? I have done a lot of research and know the irreversible things that happen. Also I'm prepared to become sterile it's worth it for happyness! Do you guys thing if I basically say about how I hate my male parts and have dressed up as a girl before (in private not even my parents knew) and the fact that I have preferred girls toys. Will that be enough? Lastly while I was researching hrt, one thing I couldn't find out too much about was the fact that as of right now I am attracted to girls will this change? (I don't really mind wether it will change but I don't know if it will be too much for my parents if I say I'm trans then, oh btw I'm also gay)

[MaryEllen]

Hello Sarah,

Welcome to Laura's Playground. Will you change sexual orientation? Maybe. Maybe not. It varies with each individual. You'll know the answer in time.

MaryEllen

[Carolyn Marie]

Welcome to the Playground, Sarah. I think you've done a wise thing by coming here and asking questions, and you've asked some very good ones to start with.

Before you see a doctor about HRT you will need to see a gender therapist. They will help you figure out for yourself if you are transgender, and then discuss with both you and your parents what the next steps should be. So go about this one step at a time, and try not to make too many assumptions. Also, at your age, it is quite possible that you would not take hormones, but instead would be given hormone blockers, so your puberty would cease where it is now. That course of action doesn't have the permanent effects that taking estrogen would have.

There is no list of check boxes that you get to figure out if you are trans, hon. Determining whether you are is based on a lot of discussions with the G.T. and some really deep self reflection of how you see yourself, and what future you wish to have. It is more about your comfort level with your body than it is about what things you like or don't like to wear, or do. The only person who will really know if you are trans will be you.

Mary Ellen's point about sexual attraction is spot on. Right now, that is the least of your worries.

Please look around the forums and post more questions or comments in any forum or any thread. We'll do our best to give you truthful answers.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest]

Welcome, Sarah. Each person is very different and only once you start your journey and look within yourself, will you figure out your true feelings.

We're very happy that you found the site. Go through the site, read and explore yiurself...

-Fiona

[Charlize]

Welcome to Laura's Sarah. Making the decision that we are MTF and want to transition is a big one. I would certainly not rush forward. The advice given above is right on target. Therapy is often the best way to explore your feelings with someone who can also help with resources and finding a path that fits you. Posting and reading here helped me as well.

As to attraction......i still am attracted to women but sometimes do notice that a certain man cute may be as well.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest Sarah_16]

Ok thank you all