Came out to my wife of 30years

[Guest archer99]

I have been fighting my urges to crossdress for years but as of late I can't help myself but to come out I feel so closed in in my male body I must be femme more so I came out to my wife who was shocked to say the least but she is still with me in my struggle to come to terms with this .

She has said I need to see a counselor . So I am now waiting to see one . But in the mean time my health has taken a turn for the worst . My doctor thinks I may have MS . So I am now questioning my choice of coming out .

Help me in this should I go back in the closet or keep a stiff upper lip ?

[Guest Amanda M]

Give your wife plenty of time to adjust, answer all her questions with complete honesty. The genie is now out of the bottle and will Not go back in. Take everything VERY slowly before you make a final decision

[Charlize]

I can't tell you how to proceed. I had enough difficulty with that myself to pretend to know the right answer. For me honesty became the best course. In my case it meant opening up about the case that i not only dressed but spent much of my time out of the house as a woman.

My wife has MS and we have been doing pretty well for over 20 years since it started to progress. There are so many variations in the disease that i would not necessarily factor that into your cross dressing.

The idea of therapy is great. My wife suggested the same and i was more than happy to get my issues out to another. My therapist not only helped me open up but also helped find a way to accept and help others to accept a 'new' reality.

Best of luck. We are here to help. Remember your not alone. That thought has certainly helped me and hopefully it can help you.

Hugs,

Charlize

[Guest archer99]

Thank you for the kind words .my thoughts on hiding my self are only there for the short term so my wife and I can deal with this MS thing . It's all so much for us both . I don't want her to be stressed about so much me and my health. I have been dealing with my femme self for so long a little longer won't hurt . Still going to go to the therapist and underdress she is accepting of that much anyway but coming out more will need to wait . Maybe the therapist will help more with that .

Just being able to talk about this is helping so much thank you for the ears .

Aka Louanne but Jim for now

[Carolyn Marie]

I agree with my friends, hon. Do what you feel is best for both you and your wife. There is nothing wrong with taking a step back to deal with health related stress. But its doubtful that you will be able to bottle up your female self for very long. Sooner or later, she will demand her time in the sunshine. Best wishes to you both.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[Guest archer99]

I have an amazing wife she has so much worry but yet she still lets me wear my breasts and undies but the rest needs to wait i thinkshe says if I really need to I can dress but only when I am alone so I have a vent for my stresses

Amazing amazing wife love her more now then ever before if that's possible

Aka Louanne but Jim for now

[Guest honeynocturnal]

Welcome Louanne, count your blessings. Your wife sounds like an awesome lady.

I don't know a thing about MS but I hope you are able to survive and thrive. Hang in there and don't forget to have some fun along the way!

[Guest Amanda M]

Louanne/Jim - for now, all I can say is that nothing is insumountable. Pople on here will give you all they can, and on a personal note, I admire your care and courage.

[Guest archer99]

Thank you all for the kind words I have come to realize I have a long road to travel and it is nice knowing I will have company on my journey