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I'm not really sure what to say about myself. I've just started thinking more about certain things, and working towards certain goals, and felt like coming to a place like this for support and just people to talk to about everything.

I'm so bad at this whole thing :P

Anything you guys would like to know about me? :lol:

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Guest Saralynd

well, first of all, HI :D nice to meet you :D. Your gender selection says Not saying so my nosy curiosity immediately wonders where you fall as far as gender goes, but you probably have reasons for not saying :x so please never mind me lol

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well, first of all, HI :D nice to meet you :D. Your gender selection says Not saying so my nosy curiosity immediately wonders where you fall as far as gender goes, but you probably have reasons for not saying :x so please never mind me lol

Well, I chose that because I don't really know what to say. I'll say I was born a boy, and am trying to become more like a girl. I'm not sure if I should just call myself whatever I feel like, and aside from that, I'm still unsure on some things I'd want to do as well. So I'm just confused and don't know what I am >_>

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hey Daje!!

Welcome, Welcome! You found us, great!!! Nothing to fear here dear!! Be yourself and talk to us, we will help you!! Please come in and be comfortable and join us!! To get to know me, start with looking at my profile. AS time passes by, I hope to know you better!!

Welcome!!!!

bernie

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Oh I'm sure I'll grow to love the people here. I just need to get to know everyone, and to get more adjusted to some things as well. Looks like everyone here is friendly so far though ^_^

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Guest Donna Jean

Good Morning, DaJe!

Wow...I get up and come in and I see a new smiling face! How nice!

Welcome to the Playground......

It's wonderful to have you here with us.....

And to help you get more comfortable...I'll offer you some nice hot coco and some of Sally's Double chocolate chip cookies (they're more like chocolate candy bars with some cookie dough in them....lol!) they're EXCELLENT!

Please take some time to look around and explore everything as there is so much here!

Sit over here and get comfortable.....OK?

Good to have you!

HUGGS

Donna Jean

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Guest Elizabeth K
I'm not really sure what to say about myself. I've just started thinking more about certain things, and working towards certain goals, and felt like coming to a place like this for support and just people to talk to about everything.

I'm so bad at this whole thing :P

Anything you guys would like to know about me? :lol:

WELCOME WELCOME WELCOME

YEAAAAAAAA - you found us.

YES - post again and tell us all about yourself. We are verrrrrry good people here (hee hee - just ask us - we will tell you!) Really! Nonjudgemental and loving. We help each other all the tme. the site is rather G-rated (Laura says GP-13) and we keep it moderated so it stays safe.

So welcome - look around and feel free to post! Darn - better yet POST POST and POST

Lizzy

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Well hello, DaJe,

Welcome to the forums, I'm a little late getting here but I see that you have met a lot f nice people already.

This is the place to come when you have questions, doubts, fears, feeling alone, depressed or just need support - it is also a great place to come and hang out woth your friends and have a great time.

The virtual food is always good and the real friendships are even better!

Love ya,

Sally

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Hi DaJe and welcome, sorry i didn't say hi sooner but i was taking care of my 2 new kitties. I see the regular group already welcomed you. And it's alright if you don't know who you are yet, just take your time and it will fall into place.

HUGS

Paula.

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Well I guess that everyone here is friendly enough for me to talk to :P. I guess I'll start telling more about myself, though I'm not sure where to start. Well, i guess I'll tell more about what's been happening recently. For a while, I've always at least thought of more more girly. Not necessarily being a girl, but at least being more girl-like. As time went on, it became more of a stronger thought, and started to develop into even more. Like 2 months ago, I started having some despression issues and all that. Didn't want to do anything or go anywhere, and had moodswings every single say. I went and saw my psychiatrist, and he helped me out with some of what I was feeling. After that, I started feeling better, but still occasionally got depressed.

I decided that like half of what I was feeling, was just my own issues of feeling stuff like I normally do, and that was taken care of, but that the other hald was I was just thinking and worrying too much about stuff. What I was thinking about so much was me becoming more girl-like. I decided that this was an issue that could only go away if I started talking to someone, so I looked around and tried to find a good doctor to see. I found a nearby psychologist, who treats stuff like depression and anxiety, but also advertised herself as having a client base which was 1/3 transgendered people. So she seemed like a good idea. Well, I didn't do that right away, I tried talking to my parents first. It took a while for my mom to exactly undersatnd more what I wanted, but once we finally made the appointment, she started to understand more, and says she supports me with whatever I feel the need to do.

So far, I've had one appointment with that doctor, and have my next one in a week. I've made progess, but it's still hard on me sometimes. It also still makes me depressed a little sometimes, but that's because I just keep worrying about it. And I also worry about getting everything I want done, and get it all done right. I keep worrying that if I wait too long, things might not be best. Like, I feel like taking a testosterone blocker or something soon, because I have stuff like a very young face, and no body hair and stuff like that, and if I do it now it'll help a lot. I also sometimes feel unsure about what I want. Sometimes I feel like I really want to make myself like a girl, and other times I feel like I just don't care.

But anyways, I'm sort of half rambling, but I'm also not sure exactly what I'm trying to say. But there's a brief idea of where I'm at right now with dealing with all of this. Hopefully it's not too depressing :P

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Guest ~Brenda~

Hey DaJe,

We all go through periods of doubt and uncertainty. I think it is wonderful that you are taking the responsible step of seeing someone about your gender identity and your feeling of depression. Simply keep exploring who you are and listening to your heart. You will find your way!

HUGS

bernie

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Guest Little Sara
I'm not really sure what to say about myself. I've just started thinking more about certain things, and working towards certain goals, and felt like coming to a place like this for support and just people to talk to about everything.

I'm so bad at this whole thing :P

Anything you guys would like to know about me? :lol:

Hi and welcome DaJe.

You shouldn't feel bad about whatever gender selection you choose, no one will police that choice. Choose the one that most reflects who you are.

I chose 'female' even though I was born legally male and am still pre-operative. I also have an intersex condition which complicates matters (or makes it easier, depending on the angle). I choose female on any site wether they have a comprehensive pro-trans or pro-intersex choice or not. I prefer to explain it one-on-one if its even needed (that is mostly on dating sites, asking on places like a gaming site would be considered rude).

That is because I live and experience myself as female and nothing else.

To each their own, and everyone should feel free to define who they are and be at ease with that choice. I hope you find more about yourself and decide which category (including non-categorical ones like androgyne or neutral, if that's the case) may be for you.

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Guest KIMGIRL

Hello again wellcome you here as you welcomed me in chat and enjoyed talking with you .

I wrote some post and hope you can read them .

Womanhood

Dresses and Heels

and my introduction I believe you are a wonderful person what ever you decide .

But you and I know we love men and being a woman .

see you in chat

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