Gay Aura?

[EVAN_DESU]

I know this sounds stupid, but I wonder if this has happened to any of you guys out there.

So apparently I make peoples gaydar go way up. Why? I don't know. I'm used to being called gay or lezbo. That's the main derogatory name people call me. Anyways, I remember one day in the 7th grade my girlfriend and a few other girls were staring at me while I was looking for a book to read. They just watched me and giggled. After a while, they walked up to me and my girlfriend said "Do you like guys or girls more?" I just kept saying "Um...Well......" It had to be a few minutes before I actually said boys. Then she said "Really? I thought you liked girls more..At first I thought you were a lesbian, man, I was wrong." Then the girls next to her all nodded in agreement. Basically, when I come out to anyone they're like "Um...No duh." And I don't even get it. I don't think I act gay or look gay. Well, atleast I don't really plan on it....I don't really dress/act like a boy at school that much, or in person for them to think I'm like a butch or something...Maybe my voice? It's kinda deep...But still....Has this ever happened to you?

[Guest waking87]

Oh, I've been there, I was setting off the gaydar from grades six to twelve. Though they were technically correct, I did like guys, I still to this day can't figure out what was clueing them in.

[Guest Elizabeth K]

Actually no! I was always wondering why gay guys never hit on me. I was never particularly feminine, but i was good looking for a guy. tall, slim, sensitive, caring and educated. Perfect target. But I never appealed to any males. Now I know why, my aura read female. Gay guys weren't interested. My therapist told me that.

Lizzy

[Guest CharliTo]

I used to trip on people's gaydar too. Then again, being the only "guy" in a group of girls does trigger that...and I suprise so many people whenever I say I still like girls too. Whether I'm in girl mode or boy mode. I don't mind it, but I do dislike it when they use it to their amusement. :c

[Guest Little Sara]

Oh, I've been there, I was setting off the gaydar from grades six to twelve. Though they were technically correct, I did like guys, I still to this day can't figure out what was clueing them in.

Same here, and what clued them in was my body language - of which I was unaware of. It reads as very very feminine.

[Guest OneOutOfnOne]

I've been assumed gay in the past. Admittedly, I understand how I might give that impression. No one's ever directly asked me about my orientation that I can remember, though.

[Guest julia_d]

My mother.. that was the first thing she said when I told her I was eventually going to bite the bullet and be the woman I should have been all along and stop going from one to the other. It wasn't like it was any of her business anyway. She was ill.. I could tell.. and only a few months later I buried her. I never bothered to explain everything properly to her.. and that is one of my regrets. Being a seer which I inherited from her.. she came to me the night she died and we talked well into the night about the "gift" and how it must never be used for anything directly personal.. During that I did explain to her where I was going and who I am.. and I suppose she gave me her blessing. It's odd talking to a family member who has just passed over. She was looking radiant.. not tired any more.. like a great weight of living had at last been lifted from her. (sorry.. that little outpouring just made me fill up with tears) She must have loved me a little because she came to me.. her only direct living relative.

I don't seem to notice it much.. what people say about me behind my back I don't care about...what they say to my face I either ignore or laugh and be equally rude back.. Yup.. I have been beaten up a few times for it, but that's par for the course around here. One ex-friend was horrid to me one night.. and is now an ex friend... poor fool didn't have the first grasp on what transitioning is about.. and why should I bother to educate him?

A friend once told me that those who make the most noise about somebody being "different" are usually the ones hiding something.. a useful little weapon.

My gaydar is tuned up to the max.. and I make the odd ones who come in the shop jump. They recover quick enough because I'm at ease behind the counter.. a customer is just a customer after all.

I did experiment with gay men while I was working out my sexuality, but it was always disappointing. Random fumblings towards the enlightenment that I am straight.. It didn't work for me.. and it didn't work for them. I think they were looking for something other than a woman... It was an interesting time hanging out in the gay bars.. I think it took months to get the smell of Kouros out of my hair and clothes XD

I like masculine straight men. Actually these days I only have eyes for my husband.. who will probably see this, because I have shown him all my life.. online and private. No secrets from my man.. at all.

[Guest Deeedoo]

People never needed gaydar with me; I never knew enough about social rules to keep my sexuality a secret! People always asked me stupid questions like "so does that mean you like guys and girls?" and more graphic things than that. A lot of people didn't like that I'm bisexual and wanted me to choose. Now, my friends are okay with me and they see me as one of the guys. It took me a while to learn not to voice my opinions about the attractiveness of males and females, and now I just talk to my friends.

[Guest Leigh]

hmmm..funny.. i often got compared to a gay guy...well..i am a guy, so...and i get called a lesbian. i guess they've pretty much got me then. guy, and into both

[Guest Lizzie McTrucker]

like a chameleon, I'm good at blending in to whatever is around me, so I've never given off any gay vibes.

in full drab mode people think I work in IT (something about IT guys and long hair. I have no idea) or I'm in a heavy metal band.

it's a perfect disguise.

[Guest Zabrak]

Through highschool I got asked out a few times. I always said no, and I knew when a guy liked me. They would follow me around and get all touchy. Two of the guys who where interested in me turned out gay. lol

Sorry...for some reason my brain thinks this is relevant to your topic. I'm not sure why. Man I'm so brain dead today.

[Guest CharlieRose]

Hmmm, I was actually rather feminine when I was younger, so I never got it then, but right now I'm doing my best to present as male, which works half the time, and the other half thinks I'm gay. (A gay female, that is. I'm sure the people who notice I'm a guy might have the possibility of me being a gay one cross through their heads, lol.) My family in particular all think I'm a butch lesbian, or at least that's how it appears to me.

One of my aunts gave me a whole spiel the last time I saw her, asking if I was dating anyone, I said I wasn't and she was all, "Well, whenever you do start dating, WHOEVER it is, you know we'll always love you!" That was a wedding, so during the wedding I wore my nice pants and guy's shirt and vest, and I got a lot of compliments, a couple people saying how my outfit "is so *you*!" and just, stuff like that. It's like, "thanks, guys, I know you accept me." Now if only my parents would give me permission to come out already. (I'm working it out with the new gender therapist, but yeah) They probably wouldn't be THAT surprised, "Oh, we thought you were gay, not trans!" But I think they're ready for it.

And that was kind of a weird rant on my part, I hope I didn't hijack the thread or nothing. (Or bore anyone to death. )