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I find the weirdest information at the least useful times. Help me put this one through my filters please:

Her article title is Brutally Honest Tips for SRS. Number one: the definition of brutally does not equate to her absolutely horrid filty language. This is a Psych major working with kids? I'm a mother, not with my kids you won't!

This is my benchmark bookmark. Maybe read it while I go do my treadmill test. I'll be back soon to talk about it. Jody

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I hope it is not as bleak as this person claimed. I'm getting very scared of the flight home and of running out of money. I hope I don't get stranded.

I was very put off by her Fbomb crude writing style. I will use all of her points as comparison in a blog of my own. Maybe she's right maybe she's wrong, but wow, what a filthy mouth!

Damn the torpedos! (Well there's a rock from my glass house! Giggle) I want my mileage to differ. Can we have some success stories too? I think most that really need surgery are willing to go to any lengths to get it.

I know in my deepest knowings that this is not the end all, be all, cure all. What a wonderful hardship to endure for a new me exciting journey.

If that event is behind you, please reminiscent tales of successes and realities? Not their yet? Maybe share your dreams too. Hug. JodyAnn

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Jody Ann == I survived my trip home and have been griping about how good and complete I feel because it is too different from the old qrap that I lived with for so long ever since. If you are too broke to fly home, grab a job as a deckhand on a container ship and enjoy a new life that way!! I have no idea what you have been reading, but it does sound like the clean out goo has gotten to you.

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It sounds to me like someones "magic magnifying mind is at work". I often seem to pick on some negative bit and blow it up until moving forward is so hard. I can do that for everything from getting the goats to a new pasture (which i did this AM) to my upcoming orchiectomy. I've got to simply do today. While i must think ahead i should be constantly reminding myself that life is today. My plans are so often at best only partially correct.

I need to do an Alfred E. Newman....."what me worry". Cai serah serah, what ever will be will be. Just try to let HP run things for me. That's what is going to happen anyway.

Hugs,

Charlize

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Guest suden

Wow (google )

Dori Mooneyham

The ten reasons are easily found.

Jody not a good time to read all that! sounds like alot of her trouble was money!

I do wish you had some one with you to recover and travel! but

It's going to be fine dear. stay strong and stay in touch with us all !

eden

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Too much Web is not necessarily a good thing, Jody Ann. Please stop reading such drivel, and go with your heart and your gut. You'll be fine, hon.

(((HUGS)))

Carolyn Marie

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Guest Lizzie McTrucker

So that is her story and her experience from her journey overseas for SRS but it may not necessarily be your experience. Keep that in mind. However, I feel she did touch on some important points, like the money, the flight back, and the documentation required.

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You've done your homework and prepared the best you can -and you know that you are one strong lady to have made this journey. Sometimes people write stuff like that just to hurt others or put them off. I think for every positive thing in this world you can find someone on the web with a story about how awful and horrifying it is. Sometimes -often -it's sour grapes or hate disguised as a true tale.

Besides you have a higher power that helped get you this far. Trust it to bring you safely home.

Hugs

Johnny

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Jody Ann == I survived my trip home and have been griping about how good and complete I feel because it is too different from the old qrap that I lived with for so long ever since. If you are too broke to fly home, grab a job as a deckhand on a container ship and enjoy a new life that way!! I have no idea what you have been reading, but it does sound like the clean out goo has gotten to you.

I hope I can stop laughing by surgery, or they won't be able to make straight incisions. I don't want one that looks like they did it with a pinking shears!

Oh, oh, you just kicked in my daydreaming Wanda Mitty... A container ship? YES! Oh, that and I can deliver the crew paperclips, maybe small espressos. "Cast off all lines! Including you Jody, catch that knitting string on over there..."

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I am sure the person's comments reflect their experience. Nothing there seemed fabricated.

You should know if you have sufficient funds or if you are just squeaking by.

The trip back, not dilating for such a long time so close to surgery, yes that seems like it can set things back a little bit. I wouldn't want a trip like that. Otherwise as far as dilating I don't know what the big deal is.

Thailand for SRS got attention initially due to the low cost and then when people realized that there were almost no firm standards in that docs may list requirements for therapist letters but they would in lieu of that have their own people do a perfunctory review when the client got there or other things such as "humanitarian exception".

Nowadays some of the surgeons have really good rep over there. Still it is a destination folks go there who are doing it on their own, avoiding therapy and such. Thus when I hear someone who went to Thailand seems unhappy or is complaining I tend to discount it figuring odds are that they were taking the do it yourself route and didn't have the sort of preparation and expectations one who has been thru therapy would have.

Obviously you have gone over all this with your therapist and should know what to expect so don't worry. Why give credence to someone on the internet compared to one's own docs?

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By the time you are reading this Jody, you will be in recovery and the worry will be behind you (you'll be concentrating on recovery). Anyway, you should write your own list to help counter her list and it could be read by those who were in a similar situation as you. They would feel much better then.

Kerry

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I've have known Dori since the start of my transition. She a pretty blunt person and tell it like it is. She has taken no bullish*t from anyone. She had been through a lot, she worked hard for what she wanted and got it. What she says may be harsh, her experience may be different but she at least she ain't sugar coating anything.

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Misty, This is cool that you brought this back up. I had forgotten I wrote this. Thank you all to my well wishers, I love you all!

I won't sugar coat my marvelous GCS journey to Thailand. I met so many wonderful people and made charming friends along the way. There were some struggles along too, but I only wish I could return to Thailand to be Madame Jody for the rest of my life!

I first want to thank my Uncle Sam for financing my vacation from obnoxious western culture regarding transgender. Had I not lost my career, my home and had to live in multiple homeless shelters here, I probably would be so arrogant to think Bangkok was not a good tourist attraction, instead of the wonderful jewel of humanity.

I would have dutifully filed my income tax on time each year rather than living so long with poverty and no income. Having work in twenty fifteen necessitated I file all four years at once. My single mom earned income credits and other child/parent benefits tax refunds funded the whole fourteen thousand five hundred USD. Thank you great nation and I hope my new neovagina slaps every backward politicians in the face. Your tax dollars at work on my body!

On the day I went to get free tax filing help, I barely had only gas money in my purse on April 15th, no letter and no hope of ever getting GCS. On August tenth I was barely aware in the recovery room in the Bangkok hospital, that under all the massive packing I now have my lifelong dream. Is that a land speed record? Or what!!!

I had money issues getting money sent from my savings stateside, also the nine thousand USD cash I had stuffed in my panties was quite un nerving.

The communication breakdown that lead to me arriving to BKK airport for my return flight about nineteen hours early. Enjoying the people and the culture, sleeping on a bench and the floor for many hours as safe and content as at home in my own bed.

The twenty five hour flight home post op was absolutely brutal! On the Tokyo to SF Pacific leg I was literally not sure if I would live. I in the middle of that fifteen hours could no longer sit, stand or walk. I asked for somewhere to lie down. The flght attendants were staying in the mid galley, so they made me a pallet in the rear galley. I got two and a half hours of healing sleep on the floor of the 787. From there I could return to my seat. I still cherish the All Nippon Air postcard with the well wishing and signaures of all the flight attendants. Tears of my pure joy.

The usual all American transgender abuse started again after I landed in California. Sad I live in such a sorry country with a sick and arrogant society. Forever my heart will remain elsewhere for other loving people.

In summary getting GCS in Thailand need not be a horror story, as always your milage may vary. GCS in Thailand is not for the cowardous, but a gem for the adventurous; a life changing memory fitting a life changing event.

Travel tips: Leave any condesending arrogance at home. Never F bomb the host culture. Be a guest of good manner, charm and grace. Pack along your Higher Power and always be an angel. You are an ambassadoress more so than a patient.

Please tell Dori that I agree Thailand GCS is not a piece of cake, that's the truth with no pink frosting. Also share my GCS has been a worthy gift far better than any Christmas gift as a child. Wish her well.

To all my friends in Thailand and Japan I wish to express my deepest joy and enduring gratatude. I miss you so. Kap kun ka. Bow. Madame JodyAnn

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Thanks for posting that Jody. You are an inspiration of what a sober person can do so that the promises of their life can be realized.

Hugs,

Charlize

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