I Got An Offer To Go See A Therapist

[Guest Leaf]

I came out to my mother & sister about 5 months ago, and since then, nothing has really happened.

My mother seemed to randomly yell at me about being trans whenever she was upset, so I figured that they were COMPLETELY against the idea, and that I would have 0 support. Apparently not.

Whenever one of them would use my being trans as a weapon, I would just shut up and give yes or no answers. If they didn't care anymore, neither would I. At least, thats what I thought.

My sister confronted me very sincerely in the car the other day. She told me that its not healthy to keep things inside, and that I had to talk about them. me being the smart allec that I am, said "uh-huh" after everything she said as to speed the conversation along, and to keep myself from crying.

Then, the she said something that caught me completely off guard. "would you be more comfortable talking to a professional?" All the alarms in my head went off, that was EXACTLY what I wanted!

Problem was, I said nothing.

I thought about asking her if I can go see a therapist, but there were a few repercussions that might pop up.

1. I know my mother is already angry with me because I told my friends about my..... (guhh, I hate saying it) "problem" before her. If I ask to talk to a therapist, she will probably be even more angry with me because "I didn't come to her first"

2. Therapists are EXPENSIVE! I hate costing my parents money, especially with how my grades are, it seems ridiculous to ask them to do anything for me, when I cant do what they ask of me.

To be honest, I don't know what I'm asking. I guess I am just weighing my options.

Its really nice to have this place, where I can just write my thoughts & concerns. I guess thats what really helps, is having this entire forum as a support group. You all are great.

[Sally]

I would definitely talk to your mother about the therapist, it is a very important step for both of you.

She will take it more seriously coming from a professional.

your grades might just come up after seeing a therapist - my whole outlook on life changed.

Love ya,

Sally

[Guest Elizabeth K]

GRAB THE OPPORTUNITY

You will really have a better life - your parents? It's their duty to take care of you - they really want to - the expense is there - but it would really help you, and they will eventually see that.

Go ask for it while you can.

Lizzy

[Guest Donna Jean]

Serious stuff, Sweetheart.....

So, Leaf....I have only two things to add.....

1) I totally agree with Sally!

2) I totally agree with Lizzy!

You might find yourself way more able to get good grades with this off of your shoulders...

We're here for you, Hon....

XXOO

Donna Jean