Gender therspist

[Guest shinyd9]

I have been on here for about a year now, I have had problems with my gender for the longest time and feel like evertime I get down or depressed about it it will just go away. Sometimes it does but it always comes back my feelings to want to live as a woman. When I think about growing old as a man it really scares me, and when I see the women in my life I can't help but feel jealous and uncomfortable in my skin. I just want to be able to relate to them and be like them. I've always wanted to be like my sister. I cry sometimes thinking that that can never be me, and I pray all the time that I can just wake up and be happy. I'm afraid that I will never pass. I'm pretty tall, 5,11 aND 26 years old. And have fairly broad shoulders. Do hormones help with broad shoulders. I know I need to see a therapist and I'm finally taking the right steps in that direction to do so.

[Carolyn Marie]

Taking those steps towards seeing a G.T. is a very good thing. I think you can really use some solid, professional advice and support. You've seen for yourself the truth that most of us know from our own experiences; the knowledge that you are female at heart and in your mind cannot be eliminated by wishing, praying or even suppressing it. Oh, it might help for a while, perhaps even years. But if you are trans it always comes back.

So many people I know thought that physical transition was impossible because of who they were or what they looked like. The numbers are legion of MtF trans folk who were tough, manly, muscular, and who had broad shoulders big biceps, a deep voice, lots of body hair, and big feet. Most of them transition successfully, and some became beautiful. Go on Youtube and put "MtF transition pictures" in the search engine, and you'll get an idea of what is possible. Or just look through past threads in our own MTF Forum.

What's important to know is that the physical transformation is not just from HRT. Facial hair removal, eyebrow shaping and waxing, weight loss, and hair growth all play an important part. HRT will do a lot for you, but it won't do everything.

Now, full disclosure here; there are some men with very prominent facial features that will need some help, eventually. Facial feminization surgery is sometimes necessary and sometimes just a good thing to do. But one doesn't need to be beautiful, or even very pretty, to be successful in the new gender. Look at my gallery, hon. You won't see a model there. But I have never had a problem being misgendered except on the phone, and rarely even that these days. Oh, yeah, that reminds me, voice is very important, as is self confidence.

I cannot guarantee what you will look like, or what your experience will be. No one can. But please don't count yourself out because of what you look like now. It is rarely an indicator of what is to come.

HUGS

Carolyn Marie

[MWK89]

Just want to let you know that you aren't alone here. I'm currently kind of where you're at. I'm just now starting to come around and accept myself, and preparing to see a gender therapist within the next few months or so. As Carolyn said above, when worrying about whether I'll pass or not, I went to youtube and found videos of some who looked similar to myself before transitioning.

All in all though, I think the most important thing and goal is to feel comfortable with yourself.

[Guest Laura Beth]

If you look around you will likely find lots of run of the mill women that have broad shoulders. I have an aunt and some female cousins that have broader shoulders than I have but don't have problems with being misgendered. Talking to a gender therapist will really help with sorting everything out and help you on your journey of discovery.

Laura Beth

[Guest]

If you look around you will likely find lots of run of the mill women that have broad shoulders. I have an aunt and some female cousins that have broader shoulders than I have but don't have problems with being misgendered. Talking to a gender therapist will really help with sorting everything out and help you on your journey of discovery.

Laura Beth

I agree with Laura Beth. Just spend more time girl watching (not male learing eyes mind you. Just observing woman that are shaped like you), you will find genetic examples of the female you. How does she carry herself? How does she accentuate her beautiful assets and minimize her liabilities? How is she different than the men around her? What markers are the same as her girlfriends and how does she interact with them?

I'm five eleven, hang out with me for a day with my girlfriends. We ain't no boys Honey! I'm usually the tallest one, but not always Hug. JodyAnn