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Post-lower-op Guys


Guest Leigh

Type of Surgery & Satisfaction Level  

  1. 1. Which procedure did you opt for?

    • Metoidioplasty
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    • Phalloplasty
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  2. 2. How's the enjoyment?

    • It's great
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    • It's good
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    • It's ok
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    • It sucks
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    • It's better than having a V...
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    • Other feeling
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  3. 3. How's it look?

    • Fantastic
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    • Good
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    • Passable
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    • Not anywhere as good as I wanted
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    • Terrible
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    • Other
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Guest Leigh

So....how's sex? and if you're going stealth, how's passable is it? do people you date know? can guys tell in the locker room? these are just some of my fears...so..whatever you can say on it, let me know.

peace&respect

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Guest StrandedOutThere

I'm wondering if there are any guys around here who have had lower surgery. You might do a quick Googling and see what that turns up.

From what I've learned, neither surgery looks all that convincing.

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Guest Leigh

yeah........i'm beginning to wonder if anyone here has done it..i don't see many posts with guys who say they have. i've looked at a lot of stuff and you're right..but i just wanted to know from real people...i'm starting to doubt i'll ever be able to really "pass".......

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Guest StrandedOutThere

If someone had it here, I am sure they would have posted about it. It's a pretty big deal.

I'd like to have it, if for no other reason than just to be free of having to carry around an STP. I'm pretty much resigned to the fact that I'd never "pass" in the bedroom. There really isn't any surgery for FTM's that lets you just be 100% stealth in every area of your life. Even the best phalloplasties might look okay, I have seen some good ones, but they still don't work right.

There are guys who have micropenises, so you might be able to pass with a meta....with some back story.

If you are really curious about people's bottom surgery experiences, definitely check out Yahoo groups. There are a couple of big groups (FTM_SurgeryInfo & FTM_SurgerySupport). There might be others besides those, but those are the 2 I am a member of. If you join you can search the archives, which contains all past posts. Also, check out some individual doctors' websites. Good places to start are Dr. Christine McGinn, Dr. Marci Bowers, and Dr. Sava Perovic. Also, this blog has some pretty extensive write ups about bottom surgery. He hasn't had surgery, but he has definitely done A LOT of research: Gender Outlaw

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Guest Myles

I know transter has or had pictures at one point, but it does seem really rare. Lot of money for not too manny really good results (that I have found online). Maybe someday!

Myles

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Guest Leigh

thanks guys, i'll check it out...pics will be very helpful.

i was gonna look on google, but you know...you can't really search for "transman penis..."

peace,love&respect

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Guest My_Genesis

Basically what bothers me about both surgeries is you will never have sexual experience, ya know, comparable to a biomale. :(

That's why my mind is having its own internal breakdown - it's missing proper connections and stuff lol :rolleyes:

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Guest Leigh

i feel you, My_Genesis...

i mean, i want to have a semi-normal life as a man...i already hate that i'm short..lol...

i should at least be able to have some functionality downstairs...

i'm gonna look through the post-op forums to see if this has been covered

peace&love

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Guest bronx

I would hope someday that a surgery is available for us guys to be complete. I would love to father a child I think that's what hurts me the most, not so much what my size might or could be. Now that I'm married to a wonderful woman I think about it more, having a family.

Sexurally I don't have a problem with taking care of her and making her happy, 'cause that's what makes me happt. But as for nowi do want the medio at least to free some things up down there.

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Guest Martin

I'm having bottom surgery in a little less than a month - on May 12th. Well, that's when the first - and the main - surgery will take place. I'll also have surgery on August 12th and on December 17th. All three will be with Dr. Toby Meltzer. I'll have a pretty good idea how the meta itself will look 2-3 months from now. The scrotoplasty I won't know about until later - maybe November or maybe not until January. I'll be happy to answer any respectful questions. I don't have a partner, so I don't know how helpful I'll be in terms of sex questions. Also, keep in mind that just because I think my penis looks fantastic (or horrible or anywhere in between, for that matter), doesn't mean you would have a similar reaction to an identical result. After all, several men here have said that none of the results looks that good, and I think some metas look amazing. Many don't have the size I want, but I think I could deal with that. I have seen a picture of a meta that would be considered about average sized as a cissexual man's. However, he did extensive pumping in addition to surgery. Speaking from experience, pumping is a pain. Not that it's painful - it's not - but it takes lots and lots of time and persistence, and it gets annoying. I do know that there are men who've had a meta or a phallo and who've recognized as men naked - and didn't explain their transsexual status to anyone who saw them, even if they had sex. Another valuable resource are the LiveJournal communities, especially this one.

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Bronx I know how you feel brother. I wish I could have kiddies of my own. I used to cry about it alllll the time when my ex and I would talk about getting married, starting a family, yaddayadda.

I got over it quite quick, cuz whatcha gonna do?

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